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AIBU to feel embarrassed after no replies in the class WhatsApp group?

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Exhausted553 · 07/09/2026 20:42

I messaged on class WhatsApp group if anyone wants to go for a coffee after drop off one day this week and no one has responded! I sent this afternoon and can see everyone has read but no one has replied.

Feel really embarrassed. I’m a total introvert anyway and it took lots of guts to reach out. Shall I delete the message, if I’m able to, or shall I just leave it there? It’s embarrassing no one responded to me. How am I supposed to get close with these women if no one responds? It’s a very small village primary with only 12/13 kids in class.

How do others get close with the parents in their kids classes? I know a couple from before as our kids were in nursery so I’ve had a few play dates individually but I was trying to get to know the group as a whole and not leave anyone out.

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MelonSorbet · 07/09/2026 20:51

They probably have jobs! Who's got time to be going for a morning coffee?!

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Exhausted553 · 07/09/2026 20:50

Thank you everyone. I just feel really bad about myself. Truthfully I don’t really want to go but I forced myself. Before anyone says “well they probably picked up on your tone” definitely not! I was really upbeat and positive and said I’m looking really forward to meeting everyone and I asked if anyone is free for a coffee after drop off. I’m actually dreading keeping checking my phone but if someone replied I could relax. I’ve been checking every hour since I posted 11am today!

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Walkerzoo · 07/09/2026 20:50

Don't delete it

But honestly I wouldn't reply as I hate WhatsApp shenanigans. But please remember school gates are .. like war.... Proceed with caution..

Nice to say hello to but meet ups can be a nightmare as kids fall out, change friendships, he said she said.... Your kid did this... Keep up with the jonses....

Good luck! Primary school gate is awful.

nomas · 07/09/2026 20:49

I think deleting it might make it worse.

I would have definitely replied to you. People are weird.

CrispySquid · 07/09/2026 20:49

Definitely don’t delete it OP. Well done for reaching out and making new friends. Human interaction in this day and age is so important and you have done a brave and nice thing. Don’t worry if they don’t reply yet. You’ll probably get one person reply soon and then a flood of agreement. I’d love being in a group like that if someone suggested it and definitely take you up on your offer. Can be hard to make friends as an adult. Well done to you for having the guts. Don’t be embarrassed. Trying to make human connections to have a more joyful life is nothing to be embarrassed about.

EarringsandLipstick · 07/09/2026 20:49

When it’s a big group like that, people will read when rushing & possibly mean to reply later; as it’s to many people there’s a sense of collective responsibility ie someone else will probably reply mentality.

Don’t take it personally, don’t delete it. I bet you’ll have a reply in a while.

Wish44 · 07/09/2026 20:48

Sometimes people are too embarrassed to reply on a group- I find that getting a few to agree to it outside the group and then putting it to the group to come and join when plan is made can be the best way to.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 07/09/2026 20:48

Agree, don’t delete, it’s a busy week.
i might be tempted to put a funny comment or a tumbleweed gif - but i am a bit of a twat

Fupoffyagrasshole · 07/09/2026 20:48

maybr they all working ??

Overthebow · 07/09/2026 20:48

If you know some of the mums why don’t you arrange a morning with a couple of them then post that you and two others are going to X on X day does anyone want to join? Your message was vague about day, just give a day and if you’ve pre-arranged then you won’t be alone.

TheLambtonWorm · 07/09/2026 20:47

Don't delete it. They've all read it anyway, it'll just make things more awkward. It could be people went to reply but feel awkward being the first or they can't go because they work so are just not replying to full up the chat with no's. I'd agree with PP and the first few weeks of school are really busy too. Just try not to dwell it's not personal I'm sure.

JAYZEEB · 07/09/2026 20:47

Don’t delete it honestly let it wash over you. Get chatting to people and naturally you’ll end up forming some friendships where you can go for coffee. It’s a bit forced asking a group of strangers to be honest.

Hopefulbride18 · 07/09/2026 20:46

Oh I'm sorry OP that's rubbish!
People might yet reply though, might have just been busy with clubs, dinner etc.
Don't delete it, it reflects badly on them not you, it's always good to put yourself out there even if it doesn't pay off to every time.

Namechangedforspooky · 07/09/2026 20:45

I think it can be quite normal tbh. I would
leave the message there
You may still get some responses once the kids are in bed and people have had time to sit down with their phones!

Ra33it99 · 07/09/2026 20:44

Don't delete it. You were really brave. Someone will reply.

VividDeer · 07/09/2026 20:44

Don't delete it.
The first week back can be really hectic for some families. It's most likely not you