Husband spied on me through bathroom and bedrooms doors in the past and concerned somethings happening again

So you’re okay with him videoing you without your consent? Is he the kind of man that would do revenge porn? Seems like a big risk to me.

Speak to Women's aid because that has all the hallmarks of an abusive relationship.
I don't believe it is legal to film you without your consent in your home.

I'd be slightly worried that if he believes you're cheating it could encourage a worse, more damaging (or perhaps even dangerous) reaction from him. I understand the impulse to want proof, but this doesn't seem like the best way of going about it.

It seems like a very convenient explanation for him finding it so easily, certainly…

That would be the end for me. I'd never feel safe again. If you can't trust your life partner, it's game over as far as I'm concerned.

he seems to know when I’ve been in a certain draw in our bedroom as he said his clothes get moved (it’s where I keep my sex toy, sorry tmi)

Why do you keep your sex toy in his drawer @Pitterpatterruby ?
Do you want him to know that you have been using it?

That is so unbelievably creepy.
I cannot imagine getting over it and now thinking he has cameras hidden.
Wow!

That’s an excellent question 🧐

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Spying aside. why is YOUR toy in HIS drawer?

Stop pretending to make phone calls and find someone who can come in and sweep your house for cameras and listening devices.

The first incident is incredibly disturbing. His excuse is just that a made up excuse to make his pervy actions seem normal. They are not. He didn't think you were cheating. he wanted to spy on you in private moments when you were unaware of him - that was the thrill - seeing you on the toilet unaware of him. Given we live in 2026 it is highly unlikely that his perversion doesn't include cameras. And I wouldn't be surprised if he is sharing footage. Actually I'd bet on it.

So what if he denies it. you know the truth. just get out of this toxic relationship.

Hi OP
I don’t want to make you paranoid but considering he has form, may be useful to read this:
https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/may/27/secret-spy-cameras-voyeurism-uk

But you already know he’s capable of this, and has done so in the past.

I don't think it's appropriate to ask a victim of voyeurism about her sex toy usage? @RandomUserName96

If this is genuine, why not keep your toys in a different drawer? Like one without his stuff in, seen if he still knows. Though how often are you using them/how long has he been calling you out for you to notice a pattern??

Can you access whatever device he was watching the video on?

He's already committed an offence, see the link below, offenders like this often go on to commit more crimes.
https://www.police.uk/ro/report/rsa/alpha-v1/advice/rape-sexual-assault-and-other-sexual-offences/voyeurism-upskirting/

OP I don't think in your position I'd be playing games trying to catch out your husband. I have no idea how you managed to get past the previous gross invasions of your privacy.

If you have suspicions that he is back to his old tricks (or indeed ever stopped in the first place) then you need to have it out with him and also thoroughly search your home for any spying devices - get help with this if you can. If you find anything surely this needs to be the end?

As others have said he may well be sharing footage of you online with fellow weirdos. Time for a very frank discussion and please don't be fobbed off this time.

If hes filming you in your home without your consent, thats very illegal.

He will be sharing it online to get validation from other revolting men.

agree.

the drugging and raping of partners/wives is becoming more prevalent too.

These sick bastards aren't happy with 'just' a spyhole, so it will escalate...

Hope you don't have daughters living in your home!

See post above yours.

Read what the OP has actually said 🙄

She was pretending to talk to another man on the phone to try and catch out the husband spying on her.

Thanks, just read. I missed that twice! Lol. Apologies.

She did say that. Pretending to speak on the phone to a man in her bedroom

Where does she say she was cheating? Edited - just read, apologies.