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Separating after 28 years - support?

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Pinkladysolitude · Yesterday 20:04

How can I separate from my partner of 28 years? I got with him when I was 19 and he 32. There was always a power imbalance. He is emotionally abusive and I can't bear to be with him anymore. He has worn away my self esteem over the years.
The teens want to stay with me. Neither of us have the money to live alone, except for him to share a house with someone (£800 all bills) or possibly a 1 bed (£950pm) place as renting is mental here.
I would like to avoid going through the domestic violence route if possible. I don't think he will go. I don't blame him.
I had a mental breakdown last month after years of struggling with my mental health.
I will call CAB tomorrow and seek their advice. I just don't know where to go or what my options are.
I don't know why I have written on here really. Perhaps if someone else had been through this. Thanks

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herbetta · Yesterday 20:26

You will get benefits probably, UC & HB if you are renting. Citizens Advice can help you navigate this and through them council may also help to support you and there may be grants available too.

Have a look on turn2us to see what you may be entitled to.

whippersnapper55 · Yesterday 20:12

Please contact Women's Aid for some help and support. They will be able to help you make a plan to leave and can give you information about housing and claiming any benefits when fleeing domestic abuse (it doesn't have to be physical - mental and emotional abuse is just as damaging)

There is help out there - please do reach out, you don't have to live like this and you deserve to be safe and happy. Sending hugs and strength to you and your children 🫂

https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

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