AIBU to feel upset my parents are selling their holiday home?

If it's Spain, your Mum would not "obviously" inherit. Their laws are very different to ours. Properties are generally held as tenants in common, not joint tenants.

You dont know how lucky you've been. Youve never paid for a holiday in your life just be grateful for that. Dont go guilt tripping your ill father or making your mum feel like she should hold on to a place she will never be able to visit in the same way.
You would have fun there with your kids but for your mum that house will always be haunted by memories of being there with the man she loves
Life changes, people evolve. Most people never go back to a place they've holidayed.
Move on and let go and if you want to create memories for your children find a new location that can be "your" home away from home, for your family unit

Dont you get a step up in basis on property when someone inherits it in the UK. I think it also might be called CGT Uplift. If so, they definitely shouldnt sell it if it has appreciated a lot in value

It’s okay to be sad about it. You know it’s unreasonable to say anything though I hope. It’s probably been a chain around their neck for a while and they’ve likely held on so you couldn’t have a few more hols. Just try and consider yourselves lucky that you’ve had all those holidays

I understand why you feel sad because you will have lovely memories of holidays there .
However , if you could already afford flights there 4 x a year , afford to pay for the cleaner for the property , afford to eat out / shop while you were there , then you can still afford a holiday !
Maybe not 4 times a year but at least one break away per year .
Edit - I noticed you’d mentioned in another post that similar holiday accommodation would be £15k for 2 weeks !!
that’s insane

My parents know what is best for them is what is best for them

It is normal to have big emotions about losing a place that has been a very significant part of your life forever. I don’t think that’s dramatic. I’ve never been in the OP’s position but it doesn’t take much to imagine how it must feel to lose something so special and meaningful for no good reason.

I also think the OP’s parents sound lovely so it seems very unlikely they would sell the house if they truly understood how upset OP is.

Why don't you and brother pay the CGT if they gift it to you - that way they aren't out of pocket.

I would then be late 60s maybe my 70s so I hope I wouldn’t need anything other than maybe for care, but I hope I’ll be in a position to tell my mum to skip me and leave it all to my kids.

You really have no idea how older people live, do you? I hope you wise up before you get there.

You've been very fortunate ... 30 years of holiday accommodation for free. Prices have risen astronomically since the war kicked off (if it's in Europe) and death duties are a killer ... get rid whilst they can at a good price.

It is a holiday home not a kidney, if someome is that invested emotionally in this then therapy is needed

Yes it will be sad but life moves on and it should not be up to other people to supply a holiday

Your post comes across as equally intense, Why does everyone seem dramatic on here? a strong suggestion of perspective is needexd for the both of you

I would be absolutely devastated. Honestly I think you need to beg them not to sell it. Be completely upfront that this is absolutely heartbreaking for you and you will do absolutely anything within your means to make it as stress free as possible for them to keep it. Tell them you dream of your children having many more holidays there and being connected to their grandparents well into the future by perhaps bringing their own children there one day. Tell them losing this place that means so much to you will be one of the great regrets of your life. Because I honestly think it will be.

Ignore the posters who call you entitled. This means something huge to you. That’s fine and normal and and you shouldn’t feel ashamed.

It would be different if there was a pressing need to sell it. But since there is not, you must do everything you can to get across to your parents the scale of the distress they’re causing you for no gain at all.

I know you say you have all cried together over this. But that does not mean they truly appreciate the long-term emotional impact this will have on you.

I may have misunderstood but I read that as OP hopes not to need any inheritance as they’ll be in a comfortable position themselves - mortgage paid off and their own holiday home already if they still wanted one. I don’t think there was any hint of such negativity…

Ask them not to sell it? Tell them you’ll make it cost efficient and then do that. Be proactive. It sounds to me that your parents want this from you

When you’re 60 or 70 - you’ll have no need for anything - just sit on that sofa and wait till your time comes? I can’t decide whether you really think that’s how you want to live or how you think others live in their 60s and 70s. Such a depressing dismissive view of retirement, I feel very sorry for you if that’s how you really feel.

It’s a holiday home, not a permanent residence. OP and her brother could deal with the practicalities of it for them. They won’t have a mortgage to think about, just find somewhere they like and leave it with the solicitor. Then the whole family has a nice, new place for their holidays, somewhere they can drive to and all enjoy together. If you look for problems, I’m sure you’ll manage to find them. 🙄

Responsibilities weigh heavier as you age, you have to look at it from the parents point of view-, property has a habit also of causing disputes, and there is also the ongoing cost to consider. I wouldn't want a large amount of my money tied up in a property I never intended to visit again- would you?

I was in your position a few years ago and can totally relate, it was really hard at the time and I felt a lot of grief about it. Like you it was a home from home for me and I thought eventually I’d take it over but that wasn’t meant to be 💔

I don't think being sad is unreasonable. It sounds like this option had never really felt real to you until now.
In your later comments you make it clear that it's all been discussed and it's emotional.
I feel for you. It's a shame there's not a way forward to keep everyone happy. Id be upset too especially if you were looking forward to giving your children the privilege you've had and can't see how that can be replaced.

You don't sound entitled at all when you explain it. It just sounds like you're gutted. And who wouldn't be. I hope your mum doesn't regret selling it later. It seems your dad is unwell, will she not want to go on her own in the future? Has she thought about that, if it's a happy place in her memory?

You’re not unreasonable to feel sad about it because it holds so many memories and has an emotional attachment. And you’re not unreasonable to be sad that it will change the frequency and dynamic of your family holidays.

I actually think most people on here would be quite sad, if not to the same degree, if in the same situation. Sometimes I think the people using mumsnet forget they’re human when responding, so many robotic answers acting like the slightest hint of disappointment is actually the height of entitlement 🙄

You recognise that there is not much you can do about it, you do appreciate your parents perspective and their reasoning, you’d love it if they’d change their minds but aren’t demanding that they do. So ultimately you’re just upset and letting it out in a place where it won’t affect anybody in your life. Totally reasonable response.

You'd be unreasonable if you didn't recognise that your parents have the right to sell it and make decisions about it. So you're not unreasonable. It's also not unreasonable to feel sad at the loss of somewhere you've built so many happy memories. It will pass and you'll find new ways though.

Let me just try and find my tiny violin to lament the fact you’ll no longer get 3/4 annual holidays abroad…

no sorry, I couldn’t locate it.