Do I confess my feelings to my boss before moving to the other side of the world?

If you're not convinced about moving to Australia, totally separately to your feelings for him, then I like this idea! Something inviting him out by referencing the date invitation he made, at least.

Although really, what's the worst that can happen if you just tell him you like him fairly bluntly? If your confession is received poorly then you can just abscond to Australia - it's not like you have to stick around to live down the embarrassment

Nah, sorry, life is too short to jump on a plane and spend the rest of your life thinking 'what if' and if he was the one that got away.

For me, I am putting my big girl pants on, and I am telling him how I feel. There is no way I am missing an opportunity to let someone who I am in love with know how I feel about them.

If its reciprocated and he has feelings for you too then you have a decision to make about Oz. But at least it will be an informed decision rather than a guess, or a 'what if?'

OP don't keep your love for him to yourself.

Be brave and ask him out for lunch/coffee, anywhere where you feel comfortable, and then, what I would do, is tell him you have something to say. That this is difficult for you but please can he listen and not say anything until you have finished. Then when you tell him how you feel, make sure that you say that its okay if he doesn't feel the same but you just need to put it out there and it it doesn't come back that you will be okay.

If he doesn't feel the same, it will hurt, but at least you won't spend the rest of your days wondering about what could have been.

Rip off the plaster OP and DO IT! ❤

You need to tell him, without mentioning the job in Australia. Just ask him out on a date!

Spot on! 😂

Fuck it. I'd tell him. You'd always be wondering what if....He can always get a two (might even be 3 now) working visa and come with. Life's too short.

Accept the job, open up to him and enjoy the next few months.

Do you plan to come back to the UK or is the move permanent? Worry about that later. There is a reason there is a saying don't shit where you eat so one of you will have to leave anyhow if you pursue a relationship.

Can you ask him when are you going to take me on that date you were talking about before, it would be good for us to go before I go to Australia?!

You could always take the coward’s way out (not to be sniffed at, it saves face on all fronts) and get a colleague to mention it to him in an omg you can’t tell scaredaboutwork I said this, way.

They can say they know you like him, ask what he thinks and then either way cover with an oh you mustn’t tell her I said anything.

Then if he isn’t interested in you in that way he has already been asked to not mention it and you can just pretend it never happened.

You should be more concerned about the what ifs of not going to Australia, than the possibility of something long term working out with a work crush. It is much more likely that when you are older you will look back and kick yourself that you didn’t give Australia a try. It’s the classic deathbed regret. You have no idea who your boss really is. How people present at work has no relevance at all to how they are in a relationship. I’d focus on Australia outside of him. Most men are a disappointment anyway so I’d grab Australia and find a man out there instead. There are thousands of men who will be compatible with you who are you are attracted to. There’s only one Australia.

I’ve lived in Australia. You would be nuts to not grab this opportunity.

I would broach it and say ‘I’m really going to miss you when I leave. I’ve loved our lunches/ coffee breaks’ etc then gauge his reaction.

He is in a senior position to her at work so probs. waiting for it to come from her...

Someone confessed their love to me as I was leaving the country. Suffice to say, I was kind but I still left.

Drunk leaving do? There's no point making a life-changing decision based on a crush but at least you'd know and he might visit.

A potential 'Sliding Doors' indeed.

I don't know why anyone thinks that telling a guy that you like them is 'embarrassing'.

I married and had children because I told a friend that I fancied him. I don't even remember thinking about whether I would find it 'embarrassing'. I didn't care if he said he didn't fancy me! I'm a big girl.

Tell him, OP. Or just invite him round and play Rod Stewart 'Do Ya Think I'm, Sexy?' loudly.

If he really liked you he would have made his feelings known but he hasn't so there's your answer.

Would a man let a potential life and career changing opportunity like an overseas move pass by due to a potential love interest? Very unlikely, think like a man and put yourself and your career first.

Don't make a fool of your self by declaring your love to someone you might need to ask for a professional reference in the future.

No, don't do anything. If he wanted to he would.

I agree.

If you confess your feelings you are putting huge pressure on the situation to hat would likely screw up the beginning of any relationship anyway! You’d effectively be giving up a huge opportunity for a guy. Don’t do it. He will feel the pressure, you might start to feel bad about it. It’s a doom scenario, not a romcom happy ending.

Could you be looking for a reason not to go because you are scared?

It’s so tricky because of Australia; you’re basically saying ‘I would stay for you’ which is a LOT of pressure on a new relationship. Oh I dunno on this one sorry!

I think hand in your notice and see what he does, I’m sure his reaction to that will tell you a lot.