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Help me get back on track with life

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sandinmysock · 01/09/2026 20:18

l’ve been on here for years but name changed.
l’m quite literally lost in life, I don’t know how to change? I have had a pretty rubbish year so far in many different ways. I know it could be far worse.

I feel lost, hopeless and up and down most of the time. The ups are weird they come from nowhere.
I can’t even keep the house tidy, I start to tidy and clean but I never finish, I just get half way through then move onto something else! I annoy myself so much.

My other half is so much better at life- ing than me I don’t think I’ve ever been any good at it! He is an amazing partner and Dad, I feel he could do so much better than me. I don’t think I bring much to the table. I am just a pity party and hate it!

How can I change and be a better person and not be so pathetic?
thanks for listening.

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AndAllOurYesterdays · 01/09/2026 20:22

Firstly, start by reframing how you talk and think about yourself. You make an effort to keep your home clean and tidy for your family. You don't always get all the way there (who does with young kids?!) but you try. You've got through all that's happened this year and you've kept on going.

You get the picture, think positively and kindly about yourself and that will really help you actually be more positive.

sandinmysock · 01/09/2026 20:35

Thank you for replying, yes you are right but how do I reframe my thinking, I am struggling with this part a lot.
I have got through everything you are right, it’s calmed down now and I’m struggling to process

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OneTake · 02/09/2026 19:58

Do you listen to podcasts at all?

sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 20:10

Yes I do like listening to podcasts, is there on which could be of help to me?

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IWetMyPlants · 02/09/2026 20:20

How old are you? I got to 40 had a miscarriage, a non fault car accident going through perimenopause felt like a crazy person. Up yet down, tired hated looking at myself in the mirror and put myself down massively. I started doing meditation on YouTube, started doing classes at the gym. You have to be kind to yourself and do some self care. It makes a massive difference. Also the negativity makes you start to believe it. Start little... Sending hugs your way ❤️

SereneGoose · 02/09/2026 20:21

Are you me?

OneTake · 02/09/2026 20:24

Listen to The Positive Mindset podcasts

sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 21:27

@IWetMyPlantsyes yes it’s a vicious circle of dragging myself down. I’m in my 40’s so that’s playing a big part probably. I feel like I need someone to shake me!

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sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 21:28

Oh @SereneGoose it’s absolutely shite isn’t it! Are you ok?

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IWetMyPlants · 02/09/2026 21:40

sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 21:27

@IWetMyPlantsyes yes it’s a vicious circle of dragging myself down. I’m in my 40’s so that’s playing a big part probably. I feel like I need someone to shake me!

We are getting 'older' I wanted to step into being 40 and feel amazing but actually I have to try and convince myself now. Looking at these young uns fresh skin immaculate makeup and firm lol while out bodies and faces are changing by the second it feels. But we have knowledge and skills they don't. I do a lot of self care now face masks buy nice shampoo just for me (have to hide it from said DD) I microneedle my face. Do exercise, read books, go for walks etc. The kids being off for the 6 weeks isn't great either the routines gone out the window, you can clean all day, the minute the rise from the dead it's a mess anyway. So give yourself some credit. ❤️

SereneGoose · 02/09/2026 21:47

Sandinmysock lovely evocation....hello! Thank you...Im alright but definitely looking for a big old shake down. Lets do it...tomorrow! X

sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 22:05

Ahaha I must admit I bounced quite happily into my 40’s, I think I’m actually quite content with that it’s doesn’t really bother me, although I’m definitely not firm probably need to work on that lol! It’s just my bloody brain that’s letting the side down and I think I create all the mess in our house at the moment, it’s me I’m the problem I can’t blame the kids!

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sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 22:09

I’m going to start with the positive mindset podcast, thank you @OneTake

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sandinmysock · 02/09/2026 22:12

@SereneGoosehopefully tomorrow is the day, I will get rid of the that bloody sand

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SereneGoose · 03/09/2026 17:36

Hey sandinmysock! Just me saying hello. How's today been for you? X

sandinmysock · 03/09/2026 18:39

Hey! Not too bad considering, I just want this year over!

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