What time would you leave a family BBQ with primary-aged children?

So are you hosting but want it to finish up early? Are you in the uk? Schools are on. Holiday / does it matter?

Me neither, toddlers just maybe but not primary school age. They'd be awake as soon as they had to get out of the car anyway, just straight upstairs and teeth/toilet bed.

No idea, I’ve never done it myself. I guess different things work for different people though.

Even at 4 I think that’s over the top. If they fall asleep in the car just carry them in and undress them then?
I’m sat here shaking my head because I’m just baffled that anyone would be so ruled by routines like this. I’ve never come across the likes of it. 😳

I think that was just so that if they fell asleep in the car on the way home they could be transferred straight to bed already in pjs and teeth brushed?
A lot depends on the age of the primary school children. There’s a huge difference between a 4 year old and an 11 year old!

I’m usually a stickler for routine but with this age, summer holidays, location close by, family friends, I’d be more relaxed and possibly 8-10 pm if kids can sleep in tomorrow?

I’m shocked people would be so caught up about bed times that they’d bring pyjamas and toothbrush in the car, or give them a shower at the host’s house. Wtf just chill out. 😳

Oh and please don't insist on helping clear up, beyond carrying things into the house, I'd far rather do it in peace once everyone's gone.

A maximum 3 hour visit window time seems to work for us, but I guess arriving at 3-4 might extend it a little.

I mean it's the summer, it could go on till 10 or 11 easy if everyone is enjoying it. I sense though that you thought your guests stayed too long. What time did they leave?

Well if I was the host I wouldn’t expect anyone to consider that I had to tidy up or put the kids bed because I have invited people and they’re there to have a good time. Do it in the morning if it’s late.

Don’t host things if you’re pissed off that people aren’t considering that you’ve got to tidy up

Its the school holidays so anytime I feel like it! Unless its clear the hosts are ready to wrap things up. Live a little!

When the kids get tired , could be anytime before 11 .

This. Its the summer holidays.

I’d be led by the kids. It might be 6pm, it might be 10pm. My 5 and 7 year old were roasting marshmallows on the fire pit with the neighbours at 10pm last week. Other times, they’re clearly bored or dysregulated and a swift exit is essential. It depends entirely on the environment and how they’re handling it.

No real bedtimes here in the summer holidays. It depends how tired they are.

Did you organise a bbq now worried how long they will stay?

Id say not before 8. But if having fun and a few drinks, could be 10 or later.

If the host wanted to people to leave at a particular time I would expect that you be part of the invitation.
BBQ at ours 3-9pm
Otherwise I would assume it goes on until the evening (that’s how it works with my friends and family - we just tell each other if it ends early).

No I don’t necessarily think of the host no - if they have organised a family bbq then they have to accept it will go on longer than the usual kids bedtime

When they start getting tired. Or, because mine both had NDs, when they started getting bored, which was usually after they'd eaten.

Because I think most of us know when to leave , if the host starts clearing or if she mentions kids going to bed then I think most people leave

On a Saturday ? Are this close friends ? Are you close ? If all is going well then make a night out if it .

People go home when the kids start becoming feral. I would anticipate them getting bored around 18:30 if they've already been there two hours before they get food. They'll eat half a hot dog and then want to leave 😂.

However mine was a total night owl who's never slept much so I could never use the excuse of bath/bedtime. It's a good one whether you're hosting or trying to leave.

I would not put a time on it. I’d leave when it seems it’s ending if the DC are still happy and having fun. Many hosts want to party to carry on so I’d be led by them. My dc would get up for next day plans regardless however I’d have to consider my ability too 😅

By 9pm

I help and clean up as we go along. Now that ds1 is older, I give him the nood off it is time to ask for the hover.

The host has the easiest and they tend to give their children a quick shower, whilst we are there. And if needed I have given my own dc a quick shower and gotten clothes from the car. Dc sleep on car journey home.

This is only with family and freinds I'm close with. But for birthday parties or one day thing. We tend to leave early. I tend to make myself busy with tidying up and reminding my children where the bin is. I prefer to stay at home, but my children love making freinds.