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Is this a fob off by the doctors?

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Blackwidowsbite · 25/07/2026 12:28

So I’m 35, the last….id say 5-6 months I’ve been getting severe PMT to the point where I get really angry, snappy and irritable the week before I’m due on, then when I am on I feel sad, down and very tearful and have weird thoughts. I explained to the doctors this and that it’s only when I am due on but they have said about upping my anti depressants? I’m not depressed it’s only when I’m due on and I am on that I feel this way, it’s PMT but severe. I explained that I’ve never had this before and that it’s strange and how I get bad stabbing like pains in my my tubes also when I ovulate and I am due on and that I’ve started getting dark hairs round my top lip. All I was told was that it’s due to my age (really pisses me off!!) and that our bodies change as we get older. For me this is not normal and I’ve never suffered like I do now. It’s been like this since I had my last child in 2023. I just keep getting fobbed of and told it’s my age but I don’t think it is, I have however got a scan today internal vaginal one as they are going to check everything due to a month ago having an issue with the copper coil which has now changed. It just really annoys me that women’s health is not taken seriously when we know something isn’t right.

Would anyone else call this a fob off? Also if the scan comes back today as normal then what am I meant to do next? I’ve had bloods done and they are fine too. She also said that she could put me on the combination pill to see if that helps but I’ve tried various pills and they just in the past made me worse.

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orangehandles · 25/07/2026 12:31

Yes, they have indeed fobbed you off. Ask for a referral to the gynae department at the local hospital.

Blackwidowsbite · 25/07/2026 15:24

I thought so.

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Changeisstillpossible · 25/07/2026 15:36

I don't think it's possible to say from the information you've given whether it's a fob off or not.

The scan should show whether there's polycystic ovaries. So that sounds like a helpful investigation.

Treatment with certain antidepressants -some SSRIs- is recommended for PMDD. Not because a person is depressed, but because they help the PMDD symptoms.

Similar to me taking an antidepressant for pain management although I'm not depressed, because there's evidence that some antidepressants help with pain. Medications often have more than one use.

CrotchetyQuaver · 25/07/2026 15:40

Do you know when perimenopause struck in your older female relatives, because some of those symptoms could be perimenopause starting? See what the scan shows and take it from there

Blackwidowsbite · 25/07/2026 15:42

CrotchetyQuaver · 25/07/2026 15:40

Do you know when perimenopause struck in your older female relatives, because some of those symptoms could be perimenopause starting? See what the scan shows and take it from there

I was thinking this, my mum started her menopause in her early 40’s though…..

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Dunkerquetodover · 25/07/2026 15:52

Doesn't sound like you have been totally fobbed off. You have had bloods, a scan and offered an accepted treatment for pre menstrual dysphoria.

HardFuckingBird · 26/07/2026 23:48

SSRIs are a very appropriate treatment for PMDD. Far from being fobbed off, it sounds like you've had good care.

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