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thinking of moving to one of scotish islands

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ReapersSideKick · 24/07/2026 12:16

i live on main land scotland i own my own home and considering relocating to one of scottish islands i know theres negatives as well as positives im curious if anybody else has done this and theyre experience has been

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Ilovemyshed · 26/07/2026 08:44

ReapersSideKick · 26/07/2026 08:29

why do u call it running away ive had nothing but hasstle here why live somewhere where people dont want anything to do with u and lie about u behind your back to justify what theyre doing its about wanting to live somewhere where i can live my life without getting hasstle im not going to get that here

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But you won’t get that in a tight rural community either. Everyone knows your business and if you don’t fit in you will be miserable.

backformoreofthesame · 26/07/2026 08:46

Sounds like a bigger community with a greater diversity of people is needed not a small tight knit one

and if you need to reinvent yourself / work on that before moving so you are in a better place

AgnesMcDoo · 26/07/2026 08:58

ReapersSideKick · 25/07/2026 20:41

i havent been to any islands i was looking at propetties in millport thats close to me

Millport isn’t the worst idea. It’s so close to the mainland and not at all remote.

ChapmanFarm · 26/07/2026 09:02

ReapersSideKick · 25/07/2026 22:36

maybe my best option is too look into moving somewhereelse onbthe mainland but somewhere a bit more rural

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What are you trying to achieve with the move? What do you want that you don't have now?

I don't have the totally bleak Mumsnet attitude to this but equally when someone just says 'an island' it's a red flag. I'd seriously consider Orkney for example but even then living in Kirkwall is very different to Papa Westray.

To make a big move always run to something and not away from something.

zurigo · 26/07/2026 09:38

TBH OP it sounds like you will take the drama wherever you go. Most of us have never had people gossiping about us, so why do you think that has happened to you where you live now? Before you go and move to a remote community I think a bit of soul-searching might be in order.

The most anonymous place to live is in a big city. In a small, rural community there is nowhere to hide and people have to be not only self-sufficient, but also community-minded. You will need to build relationships with your neighbours on a small island and you won't just be left to your own devices. There was a really good TV series about Britain's islands called 'Our Tiny Islands' on C4. Series 1 episode 1 is about Fair Isle - you should watch it. It's very eye-opening about the reality of living on a small Scottish island and how everyone in the community has a role to play - some of them many roles - and how when new people move there it's essential that they realise that they will be required to participate in community life. They really don't want people who just want to be hermits. Series 1 episode 3 is about Eriskay - another Scottish island https://www.channel4.com/programmes/our-tiny-islands

Glowglowdancer · 26/07/2026 11:23

You should move to glasgow

CurdinHenry · 26/07/2026 11:39

ReapersSideKick · 26/07/2026 08:24

its nt the strugglingvto fit in that bothers me is that people cant live and let live i have no quality of life here

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In the countryside, and especially in an island community, your business will be everyone's business.

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ReapersSideKick · 26/07/2026 13:46

zurigo · 26/07/2026 09:38

TBH OP it sounds like you will take the drama wherever you go. Most of us have never had people gossiping about us, so why do you think that has happened to you where you live now? Before you go and move to a remote community I think a bit of soul-searching might be in order.

The most anonymous place to live is in a big city. In a small, rural community there is nowhere to hide and people have to be not only self-sufficient, but also community-minded. You will need to build relationships with your neighbours on a small island and you won't just be left to your own devices. There was a really good TV series about Britain's islands called 'Our Tiny Islands' on C4. Series 1 episode 1 is about Fair Isle - you should watch it. It's very eye-opening about the reality of living on a small Scottish island and how everyone in the community has a role to play - some of them many roles - and how when new people move there it's essential that they realise that they will be required to participate in community life. They really don't want people who just want to be hermits. Series 1 episode 3 is about Eriskay - another Scottish island https://www.channel4.com/programmes/our-tiny-islands

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thats basicilly blaming the person whose getting bullied putting the blame on them because of that response heres hoping you go through something similar after having done nothing and itll open your eyes a bit

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ReapersSideKick · 26/07/2026 13:49

ChapmanFarm · 26/07/2026 09:02

What are you trying to achieve with the move? What do you want that you don't have now?

I don't have the totally bleak Mumsnet attitude to this but equally when someone just says 'an island' it's a red flag. I'd seriously consider Orkney for example but even then living in Kirkwall is very different to Papa Westray.

To make a big move always run to something and not away from something.

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peace being able to live my life wthout being watched gossiped about and being made to feel like a piece of dirt thanks for resposes but as some posts are getting nasty im going to stip responding

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