Children about to meet exH’s girlfriend…

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tellmesomethingtrue · 18/07/2026 23:23

We sold the family home and divorced 9 months ago. Children have been getting used to the new routine (50/50 with each parent). ExH is about to introduce his girlfriend (together 11 months) to them. They are 10 and 12. Any tips or advice? I don’t feel anything much about this but it’s definitely been playing on my mind. I assume he sees a future with the OW then.

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Ohcrap082024 · 19/07/2026 04:04

I think context is really important here. You have referred to her as the OW but they have only been together 11 months. And your divorce was finalised 9 months ago? The timeline doesn’t quite fit.

If she was the reason why your marriage broke down and the dc know this, then there is a whole lot to discuss and think about.

If not, and the split was amicable, then it is a different ball game. It’s difficult to give advice without knowing the context really.

ktopfwcv · 19/07/2026 03:53

Sounds tough, OP. I can hear there's still feelings there. Be kind to yourself.

NearlyNewNonny · 19/07/2026 03:41

That last sentence was telling. Was she an AP or OW in the fact you were legally married, albeit separated, when they got together?

PollyBell · 19/07/2026 03:33

Unless they ask questions or comment themselves not sure why the need to mention anything

IMakeHisNervesBad · 19/07/2026 03:25

Just be as chilled as you can about it
Dont let the children think you feel a certain way, dont ask them leading questions.

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