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Is JUST a homemade card really okay?

57 replies

Chatot · 15/07/2026 16:51

I’m an ex teacher but left over a decade ago. I’m always very adamant that parents shouldn’t feel the need to get a present for teachers, that it’s not expected and that my most treasured gifts were homemade cards.

Back then I’d get some gifts but definitely not the majority of the class and I really honestly didn’t expect it at all.

My son is in nursery class so we made a card, he drew a picture etc and I wrote a nice note. What I wasn’t expecting was to turn up and find that literally almost everyone had gotten the teacher a present - flowers, chocolates, wine etc. There were around ten other children arriving when we did and maybe 8 of them handed her a gift. She’s not leaving or retiring or anything so I was surprised.

Even my son noticed and asked me if it was Mrs Smith’s birthday.

Its made me doubt myself and the folded piece of card with bits of pipe cleaners stuck on. Have things changed regarding how common it is to get presents? Honestly I could have afforded a box of chocolates and now I’m thinking maybe I should have done that too.

I do stand by the fact that I didn’t expect anything as a teacher and loved the cards but I’m very sentimental and maybe assuming everyone feels the same. My son has SEN and she’s been great with him.

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UnPetitDunPetit · 15/07/2026 17:02

I agree. I've contributed to the class collection pot but it just seems like a contest between certain parents to appear the most generous. So many people on the parents' WhatsApp group have made sure to tell everyone that they've contributed to the pot too even though they've got something else from little Johnny. I've helped my DC make a nice home made card and that feels a much mire genuine gesture of appreciation. It's supposed to be from the children after all!

Abustedflush · 15/07/2026 17:00

A few years ago I bumped into the woman who had been my daughter’s reception teacher. She was lovely, and the first thing she said to me was that she still had the thank you letter I’d written her over 20 years ago, and she was thrilled to hear that my daughter was now an early years teacher too.
it was nice to think that the letter has out lasted any amount of wine or chocolates.

Chatot · 15/07/2026 16:58

Thank you all for the reassurance. I think it just surprised me because I never saw anywhere near that number of gifts for any teacher back when I was in the classroom. I was worried I was out of touch on current etiquette. Must stop overthinking things.

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Sirzy · 15/07/2026 16:58

I have been given a few presents already this week (we finish tomorrow) and it’s the cards and lovely messages which mean the most. The “Miss Sirzy is great because” with a lovely handwritten message from the reception child which they have so obviously done themselves made me so happy to get!

I am thankful for everything of course but it’s the little things with a lot of thought which I love.

GettingFestiveNow · 15/07/2026 16:57

There's lots of possible reasons why a teacher might not have wanted a box of chocolates. Handmade card from the student is always lovely. There is no obligation with gift giving and absolutely not to spend money.

Enrichetta · 15/07/2026 16:56

Nighttimenoise · 15/07/2026 16:53

I think a handmade card is lovely. I also think that buying teachers gifts should be knocked on the head.

I agree.

I bet Mrs Smith loved your son's card and will remember it more than any flowers or wine.

Nighttimenoise · 15/07/2026 16:53

I think a handmade card is lovely. I also think that buying teachers gifts should be knocked on the head.