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Moving into a refuge tomorrow, help me make a list

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YesIveNamechanged80 · 13/07/2026 13:34

Myself and my child are moving to a refuge over 130 miles away tomorrow, I’m in a flap because it’s all so overwhelming.
Im hoping to drive there if I can get help with petrol.
Pets are being fostered, I’m breaking my heart over missing them already and we’ve not gone yet.
Im trying to make a list of things to take and my brain has gone to mush.
Clothes - how much?
Basic toiletries
Chargers and laptop
Medication
Passports and documents

I literally can’t think, do I need bedding, towels, and what do I do about food, I literally did a big food shop on Saturday and I can’t afford to replace it. I can no longer work being so far away so my life has literally turned upside down. I will just have universal credit.
What do I do about bills for home? My source of income has just vanished so what about things like my utility bills, my car finance etc. I don’t even know if I’ll be able to return to my job because I might be too far from it when I get rehoused.
Can I get help with fuel?
We have a little cottage booked next month, will I need to cancel it?

Please help

Thank you

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PrimeSeason · 13/07/2026 17:13

Just to say that I am sending you all the love and good luck in the world. Wishing a better, happier, safer life for you and your child x

YesIveNamechanged80 · 23/07/2026 18:24

I’m in, been here a few days. Nothing like what I was expecting, the staff are amazing. I feel like I can breathe and my daughter is smiling again.
We are both sitting here all relaxed, sun is shining, new starts round the corner.
Thank you all for your support and best wishes x

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MadamDicey · 23/07/2026 18:58

Awe ,i needed something to bring a wee smile to my face today , and I saw this ......
I am so glad you are safe and relaxed , you are showing your daughter what a strong woman you are .
I hope you get every happiness you deserve.
Well done on getting you and your daughter safe X

JanFebAndOnwards · 23/07/2026 22:51

Thanks for the update OP. Lovely news

spinningplatez · 23/07/2026 22:56

Sending support. So glad you’re safe and the staff are being great. I will donate to Refuge tonight inspired by this thread!

UncharteredWaters · 23/07/2026 23:04

Does your work have paid sick leave? We would happily issue a sick line med3 for stress which would keep your income going.

UncharteredWaters · 23/07/2026 23:05

I saw your update! So glad it’s going well!

nocoolnamesleft · 23/07/2026 23:08

YesIveNamechanged80 · 23/07/2026 18:24

I’m in, been here a few days. Nothing like what I was expecting, the staff are amazing. I feel like I can breathe and my daughter is smiling again.
We are both sitting here all relaxed, sun is shining, new starts round the corner.
Thank you all for your support and best wishes x

Oh, what a beautiful update. So glad for you. Going to go make a refuge donation in honour of this.

YesIveNamechanged80 · 23/07/2026 23:33

@UncharteredWaters no unfortunately, I work for a charity so no sick pay. It’s unpaid leave.
And thank you everyone, this place is going to help us heal. X

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TeaBiscuitsNaptime · 23/07/2026 23:51

I'm delighted to hear everythings going well. Well done you. Enjoy the sun and comfort while your there. And the peace!

Bertiebiscuit · 23/07/2026 23:54

YesIveNamechanged80 · 13/07/2026 15:19

Oh I could cry at the kindness, I feel so overwhelmed but thank all of you so so much. Tomorrow is the first day of our new start, told my child it’s a holiday. Hopefully it won’t take long to get settled into a new home. I’ll know then I’ve made it. ❤️

Sending you all the best for your future happiness, congratulations for taking this first step, I'm sure you will be alright, and i sincerely hope you can breathe and live freely and look forward to better days. Many many women are rooting for you.

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