Im a minger Help!!!!

Hair: always do something with it. Use some product. A spritz of hairspray to keep wispies down.
ballerina bun
chignon
neat pony

Make-up. Minimal is fine. Keep brows groomed. Light dusting of a light bronzer, a few strokes of black mascara. A tinted lip balm in a very natural shade.

Teeth. Lots of people neglect teeth as they age. Stay on top of this. Get a professional bleach kit from the dentist. I know a few people who bleached in their 50's and 60's and it was amazing.

www.pinterest.com/ideas/cute-stay-at-home-mom-outfits/960365128972/

The only thing that really comes to mind for me is to brighten the colours. But you have to wear what makes you feel good and comfortable.

My town is Belfast so it’s got most things.

Try Envoy of Belfast. Fabulous shop.

White trainers, denim shorts and a crop top.

Turning into your Grandmother and seemingly wearing your Grandfathers clothes. Come on you’re not a minger you’re fiftyish just get some better clothes.

Ah missed this re colours. Yeah soft summer is very different to the colours you're wearing, it honestly makes such a difference, my friend is an autumn and was very the opposite so has now changed colours and it has made a huge difference.

I use giorgio armani luminous silk foundation and powder, so much better than my previous mac stuff that is a lot thicker, I thought I was hiding more age by using it but using a lighter foundation and luminat8ng powder it looks so much better.

I actually dont mind the jumper but the trousers/shoes would be a no for me.

And you're definitely not a minger!!

Free Presbyterian. Pastors look wives with traditional wives at home. So conservative.

I loved doing this, I would highly recommend. I was on the right track colour wise but there were a few I have now started wearing and some I have binned. It really helped with ny make up/hair colour also.

I also agree with the poster whi suggested putting your photo into chat gpt. That will help with some ideas.

I think your figure looks good, but I do agree with most others, even my 70 yo mum wouldn't wear it.

Skin wise, I used skin and me for a while, it really worked for me, it is expensive so I asked AI for alternatives and I now use various products that do the same. Skin routine twice a day is a must IMO. Skin and me trial is cheap so may be worth doing for a couple of months.

I tend to go for jeans and fitted tops/jumpers, usually v neck. Dressing for your shape is vital, chat gpt can help with that also.

🤣 it makes me look ten times worse, I don’t tuck anything in.

What's a 'free P pastor's wife'?

Get yourself down to Dunnes and try for a bit more of a current look. See attached . Some cardigans or crew necks or v necks worn with a white t shirt underneath for a bit of warmth if you need it. How about a coord set for when at home?

I have read this so often on MN I did it the other day, only for DH to helpfully point out that my top was half stuck in my waistband. Clearly not pulling off the effortless French tuck chic I was aiming for…

And I think this is the jumper you are wearing which in reality is an ok jumper, I think it’s how you are standing which has made people think it’s not so nice. If you click on each colour you will see the different style trousers they have dressed thr models in. One of the different styles might suit you better with the jumper you already own. I try to make the most of what I have by buying different things to mix in with my clothes for different looks.

www.seasaltcornwall.com/fruity-striped-merino-jumper?glCountry=GB&glCurrency=GBP&color=47422&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23171850874&gbraid=0AAAAAD_rcomNlc0i7vz4an6HFNpCIsWa-&gclid=CjwKCAjwi-zWBhAdEiwAqlRf-MSKMBVGKXpkitRRJ2uhMNjEdBNjaScdQet4-xPbP0j9F2UusIO7lBoCxCEQAvD_BwE

You really don’t look like a size 18. Are you sure? If have guessed a 14. Is it worth trying clothes a little smaller / tighter.
I am a lot younger but actually think your shoes are on trend and your trousers are ok too. Axe the baggy jumpers and let your figure show. Highlights, nails done, bit of make up (maybe bit of Botox / filler if you fancy it) will make a whole world of difference. Also getting eyebrows done if gappy have them micro bladed into a good shape.

Similar to the jumper I own, I have it relaxed look so bigger than I need so not tight on my bust. https://www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.1301246003.html?srsltid=AYCX9vL1NNYFq9znN_nRoFt8xA_dQtqDLv4_ys2VxOVwyiIcskH4DKkM

https://www.marksandspencer.com/jersey-wide-leg-trousers-with-stretch/p/clp60506499?color=Wine&intid=mobileapppdpshare

I’ve worn similar to that this week, the wine style with the jumper. . I’m still not completely happy with the trousers as a bit too wide for me. But you are taller so should suit you better.

I have them in black. I’ve worn them with a patterned black with blue and green flowers blouse style top (no buttons as big busted so can’t wear buttons) and a khaki green pointelle jumper over. I already had top and jumper as I mix a few new bits with stuff I already own.

I didn’t feel spectacular in the outfit but was smart enough, just had my hair in ponytail no makeup. (Other days I’m in loungers or leggings, tshirt and hoodies).

black as black is easy!

Black is also great as well as easy. Let's be honest.

Though i do have a friend who looks like Morticia Addams in black. But most people look smart in black.

I'm not in to fashion in any way. But your dress style here is very unflattering OP.
If you are feeling insecure then go for a more womanly look.

Your post is great… how exciting wanting to have a glow up wear make up look after yourself and most importantly be proud of yourself not what your husband or anyone else thinks! Do it for your self.
get yourself to a make up counter in shopping centre I depending on budget go for Trinny or if you can Dior! However if too expensive only do it once then you know what makeup suit you and how to apply. Then use brands you can get in super drug x
go and see a person stylist somewhere like John Lewis I don’t think you have to pay it buy anything but it will be fun take a friend or daughter if you have one. Enjoy x

Also don’t call yourself that you certainly aren’t, your DH is lucky to have you.

I’m a similar size to you OP, and probably age. I’m 18 in tops 14 in trousers and I think it’s possible you are similar. It’s the bust that doesn’t fit in the tops lol

You have a better figure than me and I think you look fine. The jumper is also ok, I’d wear that at home. I’m sure I have far worse. I’d probably put the jumper with skinny jeans even though they are not even in fashion.

I’m 51 and the perimenopause plus chronic pain has done its job on me too, I go out to work each day so have to be relatively put together so at weekends I’m a slob in dog walking leggings, my tips (from myself and some over 50s on SM)

1. hair, you wear you’re hair everyday so a good cut and colour is an essential for me
2. I’ve really researched skincare this year, started with one product that would make a difference and built up a routine. It doesn’t need to be expensive and I know I’m not going to have 20 year olds skin again but my skin is starting to look and feel better, my dark spots are reducing too.
3. start with a good pair of jeans that suit your body shape, take a good few pairs into the changing room and find what looks good on you, I’m a classic pear with a big bum so skinny jeans, those barrel legs do nothing for me. Plus I’m only 5 foot 3, I’m living wide leg jeans just now, from there a nice pair of trainers, a few tops and a good jacket are the next key pieces.
4. Good luck and have fun experimenting

You have a great figure, so that's a good start. Spend some money at Uniqlo, buy some colourful trainers and jolly socks for when you leave the house, go to a good hairdresser and ask them to be bold with recommendations.

Get some natural looking makeup. A dab of lippie/mascara/blush (doesn't have to be all) for around the house. Put it on first thing, and you'll feel better every time you catch yourself in the mirror. Maybe a bit of tinted moisturiser too.

Lastly, a pair of simple earrings and some perfume.

Sounds a lot but isn't a huge departure from what your picture shows, and hopefully will perk you up a bit.

And agree with the posters who suggested bra fitting. Always worth it

Highlights, and a session with a personal shopper at John Lewis would be something I recommend. Maybe even try and new hairdresser? Mix things up a bit. If you're unsure of your style you could try Pinterest and create a board of things you like on other people. Maybe try and see what would work on you. I follow women, I guess you would call influencers, that I admire re their personal style and feel it matches my vibe.
Try some more modern shaped jeans and tailored trousers. Basics like long sleeve tees, cashmere jumpers etc. Create style not just throw on clothes. Use belts, accessories like jewellery, scarves and the right shoes for the right bottoms. For instance chisel toe or pointed boots, loafers, ballet pumps, low profile trendier trainers. Theres lots of guidance videos online about what shapes go together.