Im a minger Help!!!!

You look in great shape to be honest. I just think you could do with a better shaped jumper.

Do you sew OP? It looks like you have a bit of a sewing set-up behind you.

How and why is it on Facebook?

If you want to explore the idea of makeup book a John Lewis full makeup consultation (not all the stores do them) which costs £46, which is refunded from any purchases. I went because I didn't feel my makeup made me look how I wanted it too. The changes were: much lighter dewy foundation, repositioning of blusher, much more eye makeup with darker colours near my eyes, lip pencil and lip oil instead of lipstick. I'm a fair bit older than you and can't begin to explain how much better it made me look, people actually said they had never noticed what lovely green eyes I have before! This year I have lost 3.5 stone, remodelled my body at the gym and bought loads of new clothes, but the new makeup was possibly the best bit of the journey.

Oh dear. I found her to be dreadful.

Whatever you do, please go to a DENTIST not a salon or social media adverts for the teeth whitening. A dentist is only about £300 and will provide safe products.

A lot of their clothes are, but not all of them. They currently have some lovely knitwear in that isn't bland or frumpy.

There is a lot of Seasalt hatred on MN with some outdated and preconceived ideas, although I agree that some of their clothes should go into room 101.

hey are shapeless and lose their shape even more in the wash

@Sussexserpents That has not been my experience with the few pieces I have owned.

Have you ever been checked for an ovarian cyst?

If it's the colour of mud or moss, give it a toss.
Have a look online for a colour analysis - this will tell you which colours suit your features best.
Then discover your body shape. This will tell you which cut of cloth will suit you best.
Then go shopping, find stuff in the cut and colour best for you and choose the ones you'll be most confident and comfortable in.
As for makeup, take it easy. Buy yourself a quality tinted SPF, and tinted lip balm for every day wear. For fuller face makeup pop into John Lewis or Boots and ask the women at the makeup counters for advice and help, it's much easier in person than online.

The other thing that will make a massive difference to your look and confidence is hair. Keep your hair pretty and you'll always look a little more polished.

Look at Skin and Me as a starting point. Its great stuff.

Also adding in, as someone who also lives in a rainy climate (I see you’re NI) wide trousers and jeans are so impractical. I struggle a bit with jeans shape but have settled on Levi’s 501 cropped with slim ankle boots/ballet pumps or slim trainers. I’m 53 and can’t be bothered wearing anything that annoys me 🤣

Hi, based on your most recent post about being conscious of your stomach area, I think dresses would be great for you. I wear with boots and tights in autumn winter. To make you feel more feminine (if that’s what you want?) I would go for softer shapes and textures. A v neck or round neck. How about something like this? You could wear a thin polo under it when it’s cooler. Dresses are quite practical too. I’m a teacher and I live in them!

https://www.johnlewis.com/white-stuff-kate-cord-midi-dress-dark-navy/p115818616

I think your issue is one of just not being very fashionable - and that’s fine if it’s not your goal!

to ease you in, I’d recommend googling ‘Next The Set’ which will bring up mix and match coordinated basics such a fine knits, hoodies, t shirts etc

it’s a good starting point

@OhYeahOhYeah

how do you get tret?

What do you do for yourself for pleasure and fun? That certainly helps with feeling good in yourself and about yourself. Book a department store personal shopper person to help with a style you like, comfort clothes in softer colours. I use a plain aloe Vera gel on skin at night and a simple moisturiser on morn, ive just started self care Sundays where I do collegen mask hair mask paint my nails ect. Hrt too I'd die without it both normal and vaginal estrogen have made me feel a lot more perky in myself as does creatine lionsmane biotin, get your brows shapped tinted and eyelashes for more definition on face without having to do make up. Wear matching undies for yourself. Read erotic fiction...if you feel a bit more sexy you look it. I'm single but these things have started to make me feel less like my nan

I wasn't going to post again because, if it were me, I'd find all this advice overwhelming but op, why on earth are you thinking of getting rid of clothes you love? That brings back memories of Trinny and Susannah at their worst.

Tret is an absolute game changer isn’t it!

They are shapeless and lose their shape even more in the wash. I’m convinced they only good on the very tall slim models

I dont even think it looks good on the model, the outfit the model is wearing looks old and frumpy but she can get away with it as shes so slim. Paired with something else perhaps but those jeans look dreadful. Baggy stuff on tiny people doesnt look great, in particular as you get older. The oversized look is great for teens/early twenties but 40s/50s not so much (IMO).

Sea salt is horrific. Bland and frumpy

This is easy though as you can say this to chat gpt and it will give you ideas for what is flattering for your shape. Sometimes its not what you expect to be flattering that is.

The jumper looks ok on the young slim model but is not becoming on the @BitterHarvest (I speak as someone similar)

And I agree no White Stuff or Seasalt, they’re fine, but not if you’re looking for a glow up

Do you not go on date nights with your husband?
go out to catch up with friends?
you can wear makeup up then
@BitterHarvest

@Iclyn

a dress with a gillet on top?! Ewww

The colours OP is wearing is complete opposite of soft summer, can guarantee she would look 100 times better is the soft summer pallette.

Raspberry/white would look good on me, definitely great colours for me to wear as long its the blue toned rasperry colours, my friend who is autumn would look dreadful in them.

It isnt just the colours though, the fit like you say isn't right either.

Definitely no white stuff or sea salt-you are much too young. And really look at your colour palate-that is doing you no favours. I also find trousers that are too short, showing socks is not a good look