Im a minger Help!!!!

Well we are not all carbon copies of each other are we? You're talking about ageism but then you're lumping women of a certain age as a uniform band. We're not. People like certain brands and not others so what. I'm much older than 50 and find Seasalt not current enough for my taste. I live in a wealthy conservative town and most of the women I see in there are in their 70s or older. I possess one raincoat from them. The same people haunt White Stuff across the road from them although maybe somewhat younger. White Company - now that's a younger crowd again. Crew Clothing like the White Stuff customers. Fat Face younger.

But some brands are frumpy just as some are fashion forward, sometimes their paths cross, right enough

Each to their own

The OP specifically asked for advice to look more current to match her DH’s look better

I am late fifties and wouldn’t even think of wearing lots of these brands, as they are an older, more conservative look than I’d choose.

The ageism on here is shocking. It is.
The block dissing or approval of certain brands is too.

Yeah, theres something up with your left eye too - maybe Bells palsy?

Ok sorry, I'm middle aged, definitely not young according to my 20 yo kids, I feel 25 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I like getting older so never an issue to me!

No, you’re not “quite old” lol. The ageism on here is shocking.

Big crazy ex girlfriend fan 😂

Agreed.

Also, great user name

Apologies for the blanket dissing! I didnt really mean it as harsh as it sounded!

Look, I have fluffy disney pjs so I cannot talk!

I get what you mean @SexyFrenchDepression , but I don't like blanket dissing of good brands.

Some of the suggestions on here are good, some bad.
I was curious as to what your suggestions were.

(Only my jimjams look 'Seasalt')

I think for me the key thing is good fabrics. Now I’m older I really appreciate silk, cashmere and good cotton. I think the OP should have a look at Pinterest and see what kind of looks she likes and go from there.

I find if I’m “influenced” it never feels like me. I may be 53 but I still like clothes and need to trust my own style rather than listening to others so much! (Note to self) Pinterest is great and then you can work from there, factoring in the colours that suit. I also use reverse image on google a lot.

At the least colours that are flattering, I cant answer exactly for the OPs shape, but there have been loads of suggestions on here by people similar shape and suggestions of how to find out what would look good. Definitely something with a bit more shape though and not short trousers.

@SexyFrenchDepression , What do you recommend for someone in their mid-50s?
In particular, one who has had 5 DC and has an hourglass figure.

I'm quite old myself. I'm entitled to an option, my specific 90 yo nan wore very similar stuff, I am commenting on my experience. My 70 yo mum would say its frumpy, shes allowed an opinion also. I can only comment on their website as never seen a store before.

I dont care what people wear at what age, i hate any comments either way, eg that person cant wear x,y,z at their age, people can wear what they like but OP is specifically asking for stuff to improve her look.

Of course not, presumably you dont wear your pjs out, the others stuff you mentioned is standard stuff which I mentioned anyway. I am 47 so not young but I hope I have many years before I turn to a really drab wardrobe, if ever. I look for stuff that suits my shape, size etc which is different to the OPs, there have been loads of good suggestions on the thread.

Its bog standard, fairly boring stuff, good staples as you say but if OP wants to look better then its not the way forward. Its the opposite of what she's asking for. It most definitely is dressing for middle age which is fine if its what you want.

I'd never heard of Seasalt so have just had a look on their website 😱 no wonder i haven't heard of it, its the sort of stuff I would have bought my 90 yo nan!

😒
Please stop with the ageism!

I dislike their sludgy colours, patterns and tunics, but they sometimes have plain pieces in brighter colours. Their website doesn't do their clothes any favours, yet their shops present the clothes in a much better way. They currently have some lovely knitwear in.

I have a Seasalt near me, and 90% of the time I have a look around and don't buy anything, but occasionally they have an absolute gem. Their clothes are well made and are often made from organic cotton. Their sustainability credentials are better than many other popular brands of clothing.

Shall I bin my excellent raincoat, t-shirts and pyjamas?
They probably are aimed at a 'middle-aged and older' demographic, but they are good for staples.

What do you recommend for someone in their mid-50s?

agree 100%!

@BitterHarvest I get what you mean about the stomach . No matter what you do having 5 kids is going to show ! I too want to hide it with longer tops . Telling me to tuck in leaves a big stick out thing and then short legs . So I don't like trousers and tops . I do tend to wear a lot of dresses but not always practical I know .

I love this woman’s style OP - some looks are OTT but I get inspiration from many of her outfits:

www.shopltk.com/explore/fabfatand40plus

I'd never heard of Seasalt so have just had a look on their website 😱 no wonder i haven't heard of it, its the sort of stuff I would have bought my 90 yo nan!

I definitely think OP can find much better stuff for her age. The odd jumper from there is fine for bumming around indoors but for a put together outfit to do more than go to the supermarket or walk the dog I don't think its right for someone in their mid 50s.

I don’t get the hate for Seasalt either, although I avoid their printed jersey dresses and anything called a tunic. Generally their clothes are well made and wearable, and they have some good designers who make interesting shapes. They never descend into cheap like M&S or cutesy like Whitestuff, except in their socks, but I quite like a bit of whimsy inside my boots. I hate Roman, Very, Sosander, Joe Browns and Live Unlimited though, so, each to their own.

If you're going to try make-up, I advise that you go softly softly. Try a lipstick close to you own lip colour but a bit brighter. Get advice for that (i recommend bobbi brown), and get use to putting it on and seeing yourself with it. Small changes, bit by bit.

It's not. I thought the same but I went to the shop to buy something for my mother and found lots of nice clothes there.

They are wearable, decent quality,practical clothes that actually fit real women with real lives.

I wouldn't pick the brand for a 'glow-up' but the clothes aren't hideous by any means.

I get a dermatologist prescription face cream from Dermatica, which has tretinoin in the formula.

It is super and has really made such an improvement to my skin for fine lines, radiance and plumpness.

It isn’t the cheapest but is so much more concentrated than any retinols you can get over the counter, and tret isn’t something you can get on the high street, so to me it is well worth the £29.99 each time xx