Im a minger Help!!!!

Change the trousers for jeans, katch me, online, do great jeans, definitely size down though, get a belt, u could then tuck a jumper in at side or front, trainers or loafers
makeup…. Mixson tinted moisturiser Is great, touch of blurring powder, long wear lip stain, mascara, get eyebrows tinted. The makeup will take 5 mins.i work from home and do mine everyday. Makes me feel better

Who says that it’s ’not Good’?
It doesn’t matter what the style is ‘now’, styles go in and out of season and in a few months something else will be ‘in’. Silly to be a slave to all that nonsense.Wide leg trousers flapping round in the rain look silly and are so uncomfortable, but that’s just my opinion!
We should all wear what we like and feel comfortable in.

The Op is asking for advice to update her look. No one would have made suggestions if she was perfectly happy with her choice of outfit.

Agreed. How tall are you OP?

You don't look a size 18. One tip though, don't wear horizontal stripes, generally they make people look wider.
Personally I wouldn't recommend mns jumpers, they seem to not have enough length in them and seem very 'aggy'.
You need to find a style that suits you. You could go to a personal styling session at John Lewis which is free just for advice. You don't actually have to buy anything there and then, its just to give you an idea.
A correctly sized bra is always a good place to start as clothes will always hang better.

Good luck Op.
Was going to suggest going to a John Lewis as they have advisers to help with new styles, if you are near one. They are free and no obligation to buy.
A general guideline is that horizontal stripes make you look wider, so farewell to that top.
Boots do sp 50 foundation and they will analyse best colour for you.

You are not a minger! I like your clothes, they have personality. I’ve seen a few people recommending Gazelles, why must we all dress and look the same and only that is considered fashionable? It’s so boring.
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Something like this

Get your colours done as it's amazing how much fresher you look in the right colours. You don't necessarily need make up when your clothes are in harmony with your own colouring but a lot of analysts will advise you on make up, too. Some will also do a style make over but you could just book a free appointment with the personal stylist at your nearest JL or other department store next time you plan to refresh your wardrobe.

You're not a minger but you're a good sport.

Where is the outfit from OP? My DD 78 year old grandma would wear that and has a lot of stuff like it. Have a look at some Google images of modern classics thing to help and go into shops and try some things on. So my version (late 30s) of your outfit would be a nice sweatshirt pairs with wide leg jeans or trousers and some trainers or ballet flats

Who says that it’s ’not Good’?
It doesn’t matter what the style is ‘now’, styles go in and out of season and in a few months something else will be ‘in’. Silly to be a slave to all that nonsense.Wide leg trousers flapping round in the rain look silly and are so uncomfortable, but that’s just my opinion!
We should all wear what we like and feel comfortable in.

Can I just say I can tell from your posts why your husband is attracted to you - you are great craic!!

If you have a bit of money to throw at this many makeup brands like MAC and Charlotte Tilbury will do a makeover or makeup lesson where you get the value to spend on makeup, e.g. spend 30 or 60 on the MAC one and they’ll do you up (tell them to go natural or you’ll get a fright given you’re not used to it) and you can use that money to buy something. I have always spent a little more on things like skincare and foundation and highlighter/blush and if and when I do buy cheaper Boots stuff it’s lipgloss, mascara.

Re clothes, do some research on your body type and colour profile. It’s so hard to tell from that photo but I’d suggest some more structured trousers like cords (come into fashion again) or tailored elasticated ones and trying a tucked in top.

Unless clothes make you happy, I'd not pay so much mind to them as has been recommended so far. Because I get the feeling you feel bad about your appearance in general rather than just that you're not dressed fashionably?
If that's the case, them I'd start with the foundations rather than the top coat.
Good nutrition, excercise and relaxation. Weights and yoga for posture and muscle tone. Anything you need dentistry wise, get it done. Start a good skin care routine, and get a fantastic haircut.
Once the basics are in place, doesn't matter if you're not a 'current' or you dress for comfort, you'll still look and feel better. And most of these things bring health benefits too.

I need a nice bushy beard, good suggestion.

You look slimmer than that, and shapely. The clothes don't flatter you though. Lots of good ideas above.

I'm 100% sure that this is partly because men can grow nice distinguished beards to disguise their jowls...

😂😂😂

on the high street I actually really like m&s for classic pieces and online I like Saint and Sophia - good for flattering wardrobe staples.

how big is your town - mine the Debenhams closed a couple of years ago but when it was open you could do personal stylist appointments. I never did it myself but a few friends did - one when she needed a MoB dress and one when she got a new job and both raved about it

I know exactly how you feel. My DH gets better looking every year. How can that be?? I, on the other hand, look like a big, old hag.

I must admit that I thought the photo was of your husband. Even for a man, I think the outfit is old fashioned and drab. Sorry.

I think it’s worth going to a big M&S and trying a load of jeans on as a starting point.

I think you need to wear some brighter colours or add more contrast. Something that stands out. It looks like you are purposely trying to camouflage yourself in that outfit 😂

This is great advice!

Are you sure you are an 18 and not just WEARING 18? You look slim from this pic.

She's dressed it in a knitted bin-bag, that's why. But you can see she is slim with a waist.

Is that jumper even remotely your size? The colours are terrible too.

OP you've got great bones there, just ditch the sea of brown and try some neutrals or nice colours in a flattering size.

Primark have some lovely fitted jumpers this year.

I honestly can’t tell you are a size 18 in that photo. Your shape looks good to me but the clothes are very shapeless and unflattering colours for most people.

I can understand why you don’t want to post your unobscured photo publicly but I would echo the other suggestion to post the photo you’ve already taken into an Ai tool (I use chat gpt but if you have Gemini or copilot they would work too).

Your prompt is effectively your opening post on this thread but add the words “be honest and don’t try to compliment me”. And ask advice. When it returns the first answer, read it and ask follow up up questions based on what you already have in your wardrobe (take photos of what’s hanging up or in your drawers). Then when clothes are sorted ask it about your hair and skincare. You don’t need makeup if you don’t want to. Men look absolutely fine without it so why can’t women?