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Wedding attire - is this ok?

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Williteverrainagain · 06/08/2026 19:12

Hi, I have never been great at clothes. I often seem to get things slightly wrong. I am 56, 5' 6 and a size 18 currently (bloody menopause). We are going to a wedding in a two weeks time (family member) and the invite says "Dress to Impress". I am not that confident in myself at this weight but I do care what I look like.

I have ordered this dress:

https://katyawildman.com/products/the-always-zip-pocket-dress-in-charlottes-roses

And these shoes:

https://airandgracelondon.com/collections/flat-shoes/products/anais-olive-suede-and-gold-leather-pointed-t-bar-flats

I intend to wear a double-layered gold necklace (Mint Velvet) and have ordered a suede olive green clutch bag. I can no longer wear heels so shoes need to be flats.

Can anyone with advise me if they think this is a good combination.

Thanks!

The 'Always' Zip Pocket Dress in 'Charlotte's Roses'

Look and feel amazing in the ballerina length ´Charlotte's Roses' Zip Pocket Dress. With a cream base and subtle greens and warm reds this is a fabulous wear 'Always' dress. New for 2026 the ballerina length is elegant and flattering and perfect for we...

https://katyawildman.com/products/the-always-zip-pocket-dress-in-charlottes-roses

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WeddingDressguest · Yesterday 12:29

I think it is lovely but then I now dont understand the comments and negativity I got on my own thread about my attire.

That is a white background dress with colourful flowers on it.

I made my own thread about wearing a white background dress woth colourful flowers on it to a gay civil partnership reception involving 2 grooms. I who was told in no uncertain terms that I could not wear a white dress even one covered in coloured flowers, even pairing it with a not white coloured jacket, so you would only see the skirt of the dress, because I would be usurping the grooms, and people might think I was the bride and congratulate me randomly?!

Pleased to see you haven't got similar comments and i'm assuming there will actually be a female bride there.

Maybe I'll just wear the damn dress anyway, seeing as people have told you, it's okay.And I think your dress is okay and lovely

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Williteverrainagain · Yesterday 12:24

LadyRoughDiamond · Yesterday 08:55

As a fellow flats-wearer (can also no longer wear heels after an op) I think the dress is the absolute perfect length and that your shoe choice is great! Don’t be swayed by people suggesting a low or block heel - funky but elegant flats like these are far cooler. There’s something a bit aging about clinging to heels - especially a low block one.

I must admit I do look at shoes with a block heel and think they look very frumpy. I love the ones I have chosen, I have been hankering after them for absolute yonks to go with a different dress, which is sadly too small for me at the moment. But then buying the new dress I thought they would work with that one as well so finally I had a reason to buy them.

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Lomonald · Yesterday 12:23

Williteverrainagain · 06/08/2026 20:15

Thank you. I think you’re right. I rarely wear jewelry apart from rings but my sister is always telling me to wear more.

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You don't have to some women love jewellery and love the "statement " of jewellery which is great, but it doesn't have to be your thing .

Your dress and shoes are gorgeous.

ImpossibleGermany · Yesterday 12:22

Love the dress. I like the shoes but don't love them. The front of the shoe is nice but I think that dress needs a bit of a heel. Other than that I think you've chosen well.

middleagedandinarage · Yesterday 12:20

Wow, love that!!

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Williteverrainagain · Yesterday 12:20

Weeellokthen · Yesterday 09:41

Sorry, i just don't think they match the gorgeous dress. A wee wedge, maybe

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Thank you, I will see how it looks when it all arrives and if it doesn't work then I have time to choose something else. I used to love my heels.

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Williteverrainagain · Yesterday 12:18

Pushmepullu · Yesterday 09:56

Can I borrow the dress for next year please? It’s lovely. I like the shoes too but I think that you need to try the dress and shoes together to see if they work. Have a fab time, and don’t get any stains on the dress!

If you have seen the first episode of Season 4 of Ted Lasso you will understand when I say I am like Hannah Waddingham. I need a bib most of the time, so I can't guarantee the no stain approach!

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Williteverrainagain · Yesterday 12:17

Thelondonone · Yesterday 10:32

I love the dress and the shoes. I also have pf and I would probably try to get a small heel ´bubble’ to stick on the sole in the heel area-it will help and shouldn’t be noticeable.

Thank you, another pp suggested the same so I am going to look today and see what I can get. @Pearlstillsinging

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BippidyBoppety · Yesterday 12:15

I don't think I've ever seen such universal approval of a dress.

It's fab, OP. Have a great time.

Thelondonone · Yesterday 10:32

I love the dress and the shoes. I also have pf and I would probably try to get a small heel ´bubble’ to stick on the sole in the heel area-it will help and shouldn’t be noticeable.

Aco8171 · Yesterday 10:27

Epoisses · Yesterday 07:54

Well I wore a red dress when I got married!!!

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As did some of my friends I’m not disputing that as an option!!!! Also when you’re the bride you can wear what the hell you want!!!

YouSawBrigadoon · Yesterday 10:23

I think it’s a fabulous choice (and I hate prints!). It’s a shame you have to stick to flats, but the ones you’ve chosen are really nice.

BCBird · Yesterday 10:02

Im.56. I.looove this dress.

Pushmepullu · Yesterday 09:56

Can I borrow the dress for next year please? It’s lovely. I like the shoes too but I think that you need to try the dress and shoes together to see if they work. Have a fab time, and don’t get any stains on the dress!

bt1234 · Yesterday 09:55

I've ordered the chocolate shoes! Thanks so much for sharing

OopsThatWasExcessive · Yesterday 09:47

That is a beautiful dress! She does it in block colours too - had to stop myself ordering in a block colour as it's insanely expensive for an impulse buy 🤣 but perfect for an occasion.

Sparkletastic · Yesterday 09:43

Fabulous outfit!

Weeellokthen · Yesterday 09:41

Williteverrainagain · 06/08/2026 19:22

What is it about them that you think might not be great. I definitely need flats, and I thought ballet pumps are just too casual. The invite said a bit of sparkle wouldn't go amiss so I thought perhaps adding in the gold would work. Even though I am quite weighty at the moment, I have really slim legs and ankles so chunky shoes don't work - but open to suggestions.

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Sorry, i just don't think they match the gorgeous dress. A wee wedge, maybe

bt1234 · Yesterday 09:35

I love everything! But in particular those shoes!
I don't wear heels either and don't like showing my toes and these are perfect!
I'm going to get some, what colour is best for dinner, drinks etc - I'm thinking either the cream or the bright red?

Horses7 · Yesterday 09:26

Love it 😻

Pearlstillsinging · Yesterday 09:19

I think it's a lovely outfit, perfect for a wedding guest. I, too, can now only wear flat shoes but often put adhesive arch supports from Amazon in them for comfort.

RayonSunrise · Yesterday 09:02

Lovely outfit, OP. I have those shoes in a different colour and they are super comfy (wearing them today to commute!). I’ve not had plantar for a while though. I echo the previous poster who mentioned stretching and exercises, I found that helped mine considerably.

LadyRoughDiamond · Yesterday 08:55

As a fellow flats-wearer (can also no longer wear heels after an op) I think the dress is the absolute perfect length and that your shoe choice is great! Don’t be swayed by people suggesting a low or block heel - funky but elegant flats like these are far cooler. There’s something a bit aging about clinging to heels - especially a low block one.

PhaedraTwo · Yesterday 08:53

Williteverrainagain · Yesterday 08:47

Oh thank you. I did google yesterday to find out who the model was but didn’t think to check her height.

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If you expand the "description" section it says

New for 2026 the ballerina length is elegant and flattering and perfect for wearing both flats of heels. I am 5'4.

Funderthighs · Yesterday 08:53

It’s perfect.