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DS expelled (KS2), waiting for aspergers assessment, come and tell me what the hell I should do and talk to me about home educating - would that drive me completly mad?!!

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triggerfish · 16/10/2008 23:23

can anyone give more info on aspergers and what will happen next..

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triggerfish · 16/10/2008 23:49

I do feel the school are being very supportive. I know they have to protect the staff and children from getting hurt. I think my main concerns are for him long term. If he can't manage at primary, then what about secondary and even more daunting, the big wide world?!

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MadBadandWieldingAnAxe · 16/10/2008 23:44

You can also get help from the Advisory Centre for Education.

mabanana · 16/10/2008 23:43

sorry, no he was four. Agree with Candlewax, they are acting illegally. DOn't stand for it.

mabanana · 16/10/2008 23:43

My ds was diagnosed at three. Why do you have such a delay? Have you asked your GP to refer you to a developmental paediatrician? YOu really must. I see he is being excluded. This is not on - is this a formal exclusion or are they just asking you to pick him up? Make them make it formal so the LEA get worried. What is triggering his outbursts? Is there a pattern - eg at the same time of day? During the same activity? What did he do when he flew off the handle? I found giving my ds extra food mid-morning almost completely solved his meltdowns.

Candlewax · 16/10/2008 23:40

Ah, so it is not a permanent exclusion. The school are just reducing his hours. This is still illegal by the way. I hope they have put it all in writing to you because if they have not, they are acting illegally.

You must write to or telephone your LEA in the morning and ask them what they are going to do about it all.

Your son is legally entitled to a FULL TIME EDUCATION and if he is only doing mornings, he is not getting that.

Tiggiwinkle · 16/10/2008 23:38

Why has he been expelled? What help were they offering him?

Candlewax · 16/10/2008 23:38

Another thing, do the school know that you are awaiting a diagnosis?

You can Appeal the expulsion to the Governors. You need to speak to someone quickly and get help. IPSEA are very good.

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triggerfish · 16/10/2008 23:37

He flew off the handle at school this a.m.
The school already have someone working 1:1 with him but they need funding to have someone all day every day. He hasn't been assessed for aspergers but it looks like a strong possiblity. He is still allowed in for the mornings, I just have to collect him at lunchtimes.When did you DS get diagnosed mabanana?

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Candlewax · 16/10/2008 23:35

Triggerfish, if your ds has been expelled then it is the duty of your LEA to provide him with an alternative FULL TIME education and I believe they have a legal duty to provide this within 6 days. Off to Google that for you now.

I hope you are a SAHM because otherwise there may be problems for you because if they educate him at home, you or another responsible adult will have to be there.

They may offer a PRU (pupil referral unit) and if they do RESIST LIKE MAD. If your ds does have Aspergers, he will be put with children who may display behaviour that he may copy and it is not desirable in someone with Aspergers as they will only copy to be like the children they are with.

My heart goes out to you. You will have to be strong here and be prepared to fight your LEA to get the right provision and the right school for your ds.

Does he have a Statement at all? If he does not, then I would seriously suggest that you write to your LEA asking them for an assessment for a statement as soon as possible.

My ds has Aspergers (dx when he was 9). He is now 13 and has been out of school a year and he only gets 8 hours home tuition and that I had to fight for with legal help. He is home because he cannot cope in a mainstream situation.

mabanana · 16/10/2008 23:30

Expelled! Why? (my ds is same age and has Aspergers btw)

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triggerfish · 16/10/2008 23:29

He is 7. Very bright, musical, quite shy, lacks confidence and self esteem. Has a hideous temper when things go wrong or don't go his way!

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Tiggiwinkle · 16/10/2008 23:26

That is a big question! What kind of things do you want to know? How old is DS?