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Punchbag- good or bad?

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surreygirl1987 · 07/12/2024 21:58

My son is autistic and has ADHD. He occasionally lashes out at school. It is rare but he does hit his peers, on average around once a half term. He is in Year 1.

He is impulsive and gets angry easily. We're trying to think of strategies to help him manage this. Someone has suggested a punching bag at home might help, for him to use as a release for emotions. However, I'm concerned that this could have the opposite effect - that it will teach him to use his fists when he is upset or angry / somehow train him to punch people as he will get used to it. We did try him on judo but he didn't enjoy it and we didn't force him to continue.

Can anyone advise? Would a punchbag be a good or bad thing for him? Thanks so much.

PS grateful for any alternative ideas we can try at home. We've considered diet (he was low in iron, so he has supplements, plus other supplements/vitamins), he does a kids' journal before bed each evening, gets plenty of sleep, plenty of exercise (and we've just decided we'll take him out for a few minutes run around the field next to our house each morning which might help set him up for the day), very little screen time, firm consequences and reward system, and we're going to trial ADHD medication soon. If there's anything else we can try from home (school is a whole other matter and would need a whole different thread - he has an EHCP) we'd be grateful.

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BrightYellowTrain · 01/02/2026 03:08

Cheers.

surreygirl1987 · 01/02/2026 00:56

BrightYellowTrain · 31/01/2026 04:05

No more of a ‘problem’ than a random who needs to NC in order of resurrect a zombie thread to tell someone to ‘be kind’.

As I said, you don’t get to police where or when I post on a public forum.

You really need help 🤦🏼‍♀️

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BrightYellowTrain · 31/01/2026 04:05

No more of a ‘problem’ than a random who needs to NC in order of resurrect a zombie thread to tell someone to ‘be kind’.

As I said, you don’t get to police where or when I post on a public forum.

surreygirl1987 · 31/01/2026 00:11

summergirl1967 · 28/01/2026 13:05

I'm sorry you had to police your own query for help @surreygirl1987 This journey with our neurodivergent kiddos (I have a 5 year old dragon) is hard enough emotionally, mentally, and physically. If only other adults would be kind enough to respect when to step back and just encourage not dictate. It's not personal. We're not rejecting you. We're looking for support and space to share. Not attacks. Be kind!! Good luck to all on this journey to raise good humans. Be kind everyone!

Thanks @summergirl1967

And an update for anyone reading this thread... we didn't get the punch bag in the end. My son started ADHD medication, and we also did more activities that the OT recomended each morning before school, which had a really positive effect on how he coped at school each day. No hitting for many months now, which is brilliant, and he is thriving. Long may it last! ❤️

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surreygirl1987 · 31/01/2026 00:09

BrightYellowTrain · 28/01/2026 13:18

I did not attack the OP Hmm. Neither did I dictate anything.

Oh my god, in 2024 I told you to move on, and now it's 2026 and you're still posting on my thread 🤣 You seriously have a problem.

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BrightYellowTrain · 28/01/2026 13:18

I did not attack the OP Hmm. Neither did I dictate anything.

summergirl1967 · 28/01/2026 13:05

I'm sorry you had to police your own query for help @surreygirl1987 This journey with our neurodivergent kiddos (I have a 5 year old dragon) is hard enough emotionally, mentally, and physically. If only other adults would be kind enough to respect when to step back and just encourage not dictate. It's not personal. We're not rejecting you. We're looking for support and space to share. Not attacks. Be kind!! Good luck to all on this journey to raise good humans. Be kind everyone!

surreygirl1987 · 10/12/2024 12:43

🙂

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BrightYellowTrain · 10/12/2024 11:24
Hmm
surreygirl1987 · 10/12/2024 11:21

Okay. But I think it's time for you to move on. Thank you for your attempts at help anyway.

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BrightYellowTrain · 10/12/2024 11:20

Repeating it doesn’t give you any more authority.

surreygirl1987 · 10/12/2024 11:20

I think it's time for you to move on. Thank you for your attempts at help anyway.

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BrightYellowTrain · 10/12/2024 11:13

And, like I said it is a public forum. You don’t get to police where others can and can’t post.

surreygirl1987 · 10/12/2024 11:12

Okay. Like I said:

I think it's time for you to move on. Thank you for your attempts at help anyway

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BrightYellowTrain · 10/12/2024 10:58

It is a public forum. You don’t get to police where others can and can’t post.

surreygirl1987 · 09/12/2024 23:37

BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 22:24

it is well known that what a parent does at home can often improve a pupil's ability to regulate in school.

I haven’t said otherwise.

They are not entirely separate worlds, which dont impact upon each other.

That is exactly the point I was making! And thus improving one often improves the life in the other too.

And I suggested things that you could do AT HOME!

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Okay. Like I said:

I think it's time for you to move on. Thank you for your attempts at help anyway

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BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 22:24

it is well known that what a parent does at home can often improve a pupil's ability to regulate in school.

I haven’t said otherwise.

They are not entirely separate worlds, which dont impact upon each other.

That is exactly the point I was making! And thus improving one often improves the life in the other too.

And I suggested things that you could do AT HOME!

surreygirl1987 · 09/12/2024 22:15

Okay - I think it's time for you to move on. Thank you for your attempts at help anyway.

And to answer your question, it is well known that what a parent does at home can often improve a pupil's ability to regulate in school. They are not entirely separate worlds, which dont impact upon each other. What a parent does with a child at home can have a hugely positive (or negative!) impact on a child's day, whatever setting they are in. For instance, feeding my child well, getting him to to yoga in the morning before school, not rushing him, listening to calm music on the way to school, can all improve my son's day in school. I asked for advice on what I can do personally for my son at home - whether a punchbag has been found to help or not. We don't have an issue with aggression at home but he does sometimes get aggressive at school, where demands are obviously higher. Of course, I'm not at school with him, so I'm looking for things I can do AT HOME with him to help. I hope that helps answer your questions.

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BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 21:56

If you don’t think DS might need help with emotional regulation at home (even if linked to school) why are you considering a punch bag to use as a release for emotions at home?

surreygirl1987 · 09/12/2024 21:53

BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 21:39

“He is impulsive and gets angry easily.”

I meant it could improve ^this.

Yeh - at school!
Thanks for your help...

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BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 21:39

“He is impulsive and gets angry easily.”

I meant it could improve ^this.

surreygirl1987 · 09/12/2024 21:35

Thanks - home life is pretty great, but looking for things we can do with him at home that will improve his wellbeing overall.

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BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 21:14

Sensory OT input would help at home as well as school. And improving school life often improves home life too.

surreygirl1987 · 09/12/2024 17:55

He has an OT but not specifically SIOT - that's not on his EHCP. Thanks though. Looking for ways my husband and I can help from home really.

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BrightYellowTrain · 09/12/2024 17:16

Sensory Integration Occupational Therapy. Sometimes called SIT instead. OT with a sensory integration focus with an OT who has training, qualifications and experience in sensory integration.