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parents evening with my dyslexic child i I am in tears please help

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overdraft · 18/10/2006 19:38

I tonight have had personal attacks fromds teacher and its my fault because he doesn't listen or organise himself. What have I got to do to make people understand. I feel so upset she was really rude

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maggiesmama · 18/10/2006 20:14

hey. big hug to you. just to say that it is an outrage that she was so incredibly rude. and i really think you should complain because she clearly doesnt understand about dysloexia.

and also to say i am pretty dyspexic too, and i mnagaed to get two degrees, an ma and a phd. so it can come good, withthe right supprt. please please dont worry about objecting to anyone who doesnt support you all in this.

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foulmoonfiend · 18/10/2006 20:12

I really understand, believe me. Mine's nearly 9 and I've just been told ''dyslexia or not there's no excuse for his bad handwriting, he could do it if he tried harder'' FFS! He has auditory dyslexia. They've never heard of it.
I got the 'dyslexia not an illness line too and told that ''he's infuriating me because he will not listen and fidgets and gets distracted and refuses to knuckle down''

I also got told ''we have no money, no time and no resources to help him. I hope you get him into a good secondary school cos they get all the money and we can't offer any more support.''

Do you feel as alone as I do Overdraft?

ediemay · 18/10/2006 20:09

Dear overdraft, I cannot say anything helpful and have no useful experience of this but I just wanted to say that you sound like an absolutely lovely Mum and that no-one has the right to be judgmental of you. You will get great advice from experienced people here, I am sure.

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overdraft · 18/10/2006 20:06

hugs to you foulmoonfiend. I feel so angry and like they don't ever understand dyslexia .It is not just about not being able to read and write as well as classmates.I am shaking still

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overdraft · 18/10/2006 20:04

He does not take instructions and listen because I have let him get into bad habbits

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overdraft · 18/10/2006 20:03

He is in year 6 and is 10.Thankyou so much for talking to me.In half an hour I learnt that my son does not know what a plural is.
My son fiddles when he is under pressure.I listened to the teacher for 5 minutes and then she spoke to him.I said to him 2are you listening?". the teacher had a go at me again and said If that was my son I would have told him to listen to me before now.She continued to tell me that i do to much for my son and dyslexia is not an illness.My other son was climbing a tree the other night in the playground while ds1 was doing football practise.I was watching football and chasing my pre schooler about too and told him to come down.She said she was watching him out of the window and it is just not good enough and he shouldn't have been up there and my children just do what they want.My son forgot his lunch the other day and apparently he should have gone without to teach him a lesson.

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foulmoonfiend · 18/10/2006 19:56

oh I was just about to start an identical thread overdraft. Can we give each other a hug please?

ks · 18/10/2006 19:51

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TwigTwoolett · 18/10/2006 19:48

demand a meeting with teacher / head of year

write down NOW exactly what it is she said and how you perceived it .. really the quicker you write it down the less risk there is of it changing slightly

the meeting should determine an action plan to help your child prosper and learn to listen and organise himself

how old is your child?

RTKangaMummy · 18/10/2006 19:48

has he got iep?

how old is he?

does she know his needs?

Who gave him DX?