parents evening with my dyslexic child i I am in tears please help

The teacher's comments were ignorant and rude so she's really not in a position to criticise anyone else's behaviour, is she? Nasty piece of work. Suspect she's too darn lazy to make any effort WRT understanding dyslexia. Do write a letter explaining how ill-mannered and obstructive she was. She has no business criticising your parenting. Who on earth does she think she is, Supernanny or something?

omg I'm on your behalf. How appalling and in front of your ds too. Can you meet the SENCO and bypass the teacher. Like Twig's letter.

It may not be an illness per se but it is a recognised condition of which she sounds very ignorant. ds struggles with some of the things you mention - chews, concentration/distractibility - and suspect he has some dyspraxic traits. They need support and structure to create coping mechanisms and help them learn, not criticism.

Bloody hell if I said that to any of my parents I would get hauled over the coals!!!! I have tried to tell 1 parent there son is not gifted and talented and is a little naughty and no board because he is not being stretched but I did not put it like that and I am sure when she gets home she will think about what I said and not be pleased!

OHH poor you and your ds! What about having soemthing to fiddle with in class when he is supposed to be listing. A couple of my kids last year had stress balls because they needed to fiddle, thus they could do this, be listening to me and not disturb the other children. And as for going without his lunch - my god he is only 10!

I am 35 and I forget my lunch and I don't think I 'deserve to go without' to teach myself a lesson. I think this remark is a bit of a litmus test that shows that this teacher is not altogether with it.

What on earth does saying "dyslexia is not an illness" have to do with anything?

Hugs, and hope you feel better.

overdraft - just wanted to sympathise with you. I'm sure there's an 'issue' with my dd - last years teacher made me feel like an overprotective parent and was very dissmissive of me. This years has already told me she agrees with me. I felt very upset last year and incredible frustrated. All the others have given you great advice. Just wanted to lend my support.

I find some teachers' attitudes regarding dyslexia just stagering. Why is there still such ignorance?

DD3 had it fairly mild - managed to do Toe By Toe with her at home during yr4 and this really helped her confidence. We were lucky - there were a couple of sympathetic/understanding teachers at her primary and so we have been able to conquer a lot.

Friend of mine paying for her son to do the Dowe (sp?) training (he is dyspraxic too). Some schools SEN budgets can stretch to this. She's paying herself with money she was going to spend on getting a new kitchen.

Overdraft ... its only a starting point .. and I only did it because I appreciate how angry I would be in your position .. and I don't think anger does you any good when confronting your child's teachers / school

I do hope it helps

HUGE HUGS TO YOU AND YOU SON. HE IS SO LUCKY TO HAVE A MUM LIKE YOU.

Sorry, took ages to write that (in between sorting out bubble bath fight upstairs! ), and I see that your DS already has an IEP.

overdraft, this is appalling!

You must be so upset.

I've been there re school and provision for dyslexic children - I've got two of 'em!

Twig's letter is great.

Copy it in to the head of governors too, and the LEA.

Phone your LEA and find out who the parent liaison officer is, and ask them to help. They could also be at the meeting you arrange. If not, take a relative or friend who can take notes for you.

I know this is a very upsetting time for you, but you'll have to be very strong.

The school may close ranks in support this teacher, and you will need to put everything in writing, as well as making notes of what they say.

Your son needs an IEP at least to help him access the curriculum effectively.

Overdraft, do you find the dyslexia Institute lessons helpful? (I mean does your son? Is it helping him?' Cos if the snswer is 'yes' and it's helpinghis confidence, then you are not wasting your money. Your teacher sounds like an ignorant, bitter old bat with no empathy.
Have another hug ...

It was implied, not inferred.

X threads Twiglett

Sorry for you overdraft.

I'd reiterate what Twiglett said about writing it all down (which you have now anyway), and then write to the Head. (Easier to write IME, as then you don't get flustered and can lay out your points clearly).

I'm a teacher. It's her job to try and understand your DS's enducational needs and do her best to help him.

shit .. that took ages .. sorry if thread has moved on (I like writing letters )

I personally would take a letter in tomorrow and copy in all the relevant people, detailing what you believe was said ..

have done below as a starting point as I am obviously not emotionally involved .. feel free to ignore me

Dear Head / Head of Teacher / Teacher

I am writing to request / demand a meeting following tonight's parents evening where Mrs xxx's comments about my parenting and my child's behaviour took me completely by surprise.

Obviously I appreciate that any issue with my child's behaviour must be addressed and I am hopeful that we can agree an action plan to hel phim to overcome any such issues.

Further to my meeting with Ms xxx, I understand the following:

My son fiddles when he is under pressure

It was inferred, unprofessionally in my opinion, that XXX has problems with concentrating when Ms xxx speaks

I would like to establish Ms XX's training with regards to coping with children with dyslexia as I am concerned at her response to some of DS's obvious issues.

I am slightly concerned that the relationship between ms xx and my family may have disintegrated already to a stage where we will be unable to develop an appropriate action plan. I will admit to feeling personally insulted and demeaned by some of Ms X's remarks which included comments on my ability to control my 3 children outside of her classroom and her advice that should my 10 year old forget his lunch he should be made to starve to learn a lesson.

I would very much appreciate a meeting to discuss these issues and agree an immediate action plan

Please telephone me on xxx xxxxxxxxx

Yours sincerely

...............................................

Hth

What a dreadful woman

My DS is Dyspraxic and year 7

his junior school weren't any good until he got an IEP

I think you should insist your DS gets one and they act on it

Hi overdraft

I have no advice myself but kittypickle has had loads of experience with her dd. I have left a message for her to look for your thread.

with a teacher who is so unempathetic and rude i am not surprised your son doesn't know what a plural is. i am a teacher too and i'm appalled. if you wanted your mum to be overcritical at your parental skills - none of her goddamn business anyway - you surely don't have to go to a parents' night to get that.

will try to be more helpful later.