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Aspergers being mentioned again. Just want to talk.

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LynetteScavo · 16/11/2011 21:35

After a long meeting with the school today about ds1 (12), Apspergers has yet again been mentioned. School kept asking me if a diagnosis would help DS, and help him understand why he cant make friends/only has one friend. Seems a weird reason for a full blown DX. Surely the school should just realise what type of person he is and deal with it.

He won't be able to walk around adult life wearing a t-shirt with a diagnosis on.

3 ed psych's have ruled Aspergers out (only one actually tested) and I don't think he will ever have a diagnosis, which is fair enough. Smile

On paper he ticks every box for aspergers, but I thought he was coping in every day life. Apparently not at school. Sad

Ds is happy with no friends. Just because he doesn't look happy doesn't mean he isn't.

Does he need friends?

Should I just try and teach him how to make friends, even if he doesn't want any? His social skills are really good now. He says hello and goodbye without being prompted, and nods in all the right places.

Confused
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wannabestressfree · 16/11/2011 21:59

Well I think yes then. Sorry if I am being a bit thick am very tired. If I can offer any advice I will. Have one with diagnosis, statement etc and one without. Younger one has more traits though rather than severe.

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LynetteScavo · 16/11/2011 21:47

"Could he just be on the spectrum without being diagnosed?"

I guess that is my question.

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wannabestressfree · 16/11/2011 21:43

Could he just be on the spectrum without being diagnosed? When things were explained to me I was told it varies hugely. I have one ds severe and one with 'traits'.

I always think with the friends thing some people don't have lots of friends if any. My ds' lack of friends bothers me more than him. He found it easier when he joined in with clubs like warhammer which seem to attract aspie type boys that bore each other to death and make very little eye contact {I apologise in advance if I offend any very sociable warhammer types}:}