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Why so much hate on MN?

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Oncetwicethreetimesmore · 21/09/2026 18:44

@MNHQ
Why so much hate on MN?
Posters hiding behind complaints about the government, presenting themselves as reasonable actors, to push hate about asylum seekers, people with disabilities, benefit claimants..Mostly the same names all day everyday.
I am told to report - MN just not interested.
I am told to hide the thread..
Why isn't moderation better?
I know this will always exist and exists on other platforms but MN makes no effort to even try to anything about it.
You can't really sell MN as a caring, supportive site with all this stuff offered on a daily basis in active.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 19:05

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 25/09/2026 19:03

Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious

Well there we go. Apparently people can't possibly suffer from one of the multitude of Anxiety disorders if they can pass a driving test.

Indeed. It's almost as if people think that people might be affected by different conditions in different ways, isn't it?!

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 25/09/2026 19:03

Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious

Well there we go. Apparently people can't possibly suffer from one of the multitude of Anxiety disorders if they can pass a driving test.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 19:02

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:45

If you believe that Labour "rewards the workshy", could you tell me a) whether you are confident that there were never any fake claims for PIP when the Tories were in power, and b) why you think the proportion of new claims that are successful has been steadily dropping under Labour, and how this downward trend supports their alleged attempts to "reward the workshy"?

No response to this yet @LuckyHazelFox. Is that because you're still ignoring me for some inexplicable reason, or is it simply the case that you can't think of a good answer?

dreamiesformolly · 25/09/2026 18:47

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

I like facts just fine. You're the one who appears to be scared of them. 'Not that hard to get', well as I was saying to a pp, why don't you apply for it yourself then, seeing as you seem so jealous of people who get it? The way you're talking, it'd be a doddle.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:42

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

So you know all of their details and you know them well, but you didn't know enough to know that there would be no need to hide savings for PIP because it isn't means tested anyway?

Hmm

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:40

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:46

Why does she have to hide his savings? Has it suddenly become means tested but they’ve kept it a secret?

Possibly because he gets money on top of pip that is means tested. He doesn't work, he's in his 40's and isn't physically disabled but apparently suffers with anxiety but I've never met him although he lives near me. He mostly stays with his gf. Passed his test with flying colours so can't be that anxious. Oh, and as an aside, she tells me he rants about the government and asylum seekers. I am not making this up.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:38

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 18:33

I don't think I have seen anyone on this thread claim that? Could you link to the post please?

Was I specific to this thread? I don't believe so.

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:35

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:03

One is son of acquaintance. Just passed driving test, bought 5 year old BMW, now private number plate and when having his latest review she had to hide his savings as he could only keep 6k in savings (think it's 6k)

Yep. As I suspected you know feck all about PIP. There would be no need for your acquaintance (who is seems unusually keen to share her son's financial circumstances with you) to hide savings.

If I was a suspicious type I'd conclude you are telling porkies.

Edited

And you'd be wrong!

roxyro · 25/09/2026 18:34

dreamiesformolly · 25/09/2026 16:33

You might think you know these people's full circumstances but you almost definitely don't have the full picture. PIP is very difficult to get and I simply do not believe you that you know four people who are faking disability. You're just choosing to assume that to suit your narrative. (And before you start assuming I must be on benefits myself, I'm not - I'm very fortunately still able to work, for now, albeit I have various chronic conditions I need to accommodate. But unlike some people I'm actually capable of empathising with those who need extra help in life, especially as I'm likely to need it myself one day.)

And you can call me dramatic if you like, I don't give a shit. What I actually am is angry. Not with any one specific poster, but with the utter ignorance and selfishness so many people display on these threads.

I am 100% positive I know these people and their details as I know them well. You choose not to believe me as you don't like facts. PIP is not that hard to get if one knows how to fill in the forms and what to say. There's an industry out of there of people who quite legitimately help people to fill in the forms and because they are back paid from when they first claimed, they agree to pay 50% of their backpay to these people. I don't know of any that have failed in their application with this help.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:34

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

Same. But the atheist version!Wink

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 18:33

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:25

Same as those who reckon they live next door to asylum seeker hotels - or used to, I suppose.

I don't think I have seen anyone on this thread claim that? Could you link to the post please?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:33

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:23

Which brings us back round to the consistency of deletions. Is telling somebody to grow up a personal attack? It's hard to keep up. Two posters have said it. Have they both been deleted?

Personally, I don't think it is a personal attack and I don't think it warrants deleting. Regardless of who is saying it.

I have seen infinitely more egregious and offensive posts left to stand, even after reporting, hence my objections to the inconsistent nature of the moderation.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 18:30

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 17:54

What I found interesting is that PIP is designed to help people cope with the extra costs of their disability. We all understand that for some people this might be a carer, a cleaner, or a mobility scooter etc. But several times I have heard that for people with ADHD, or anxiety, the extra cost is 'taxis, as public transport may be difficult'. I've never actually heard another example - keen to hear them with an open mind.

I have adhd but I don't claim PIP because I don't need it. PIP isn't awarded because of a specific diagnosis but because of the particular difficulties that each individual is facing. I know a lot of people with adhd and very few of them actually claim.

ADHD costs me a bloody fortune though. I am lucky enough to be a high earner and so I can suck it up, but there are undoubtedly extra costs.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:25

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Same as those who reckon they live next door to asylum seeker hotels - or used to, I suppose.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:23

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:04

And continue to get your posts deleted? Seems a waste of time to me tbh.

Which brings us back round to the consistency of deletions. Is telling somebody to grow up a personal attack? It's hard to keep up. Two posters have said it. Have they both been deleted?

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 18:22

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

Yes I understand that.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:09

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:37

Do I need to be on benefits to have an opinion? No I don't believe I do. People can talk about what they want, as has been confirmed.

I agree with that actually. I have never been on benefits and my opinion counts, as does yours.

We just have different opinions. Mine is “ there but for the grace of God”.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 18:04

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 16:39

So, first you inferred I was without empathy, and now I am a hater?

I shall give you a miss, and will continue to post.

And continue to get your posts deleted? Seems a waste of time to me tbh.

LizzieW1969 · 25/09/2026 18:03

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Yes that is curious. I certainly don’t know of anyone who boasts about fiddling the system to obtain PIP! Both my DD1 (17) and my DB (58) claim it and it was a tough process to get there.

I know of several other genuine claimants too.

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:57

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TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:55

Anyway, the benefit bashing is a derail from the subject of the thread, but a very good example of it.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 25/09/2026 17:54

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

Edited

Not just one... they appear to all know loads!

KateDibi · 25/09/2026 17:54

What I found interesting is that PIP is designed to help people cope with the extra costs of their disability. We all understand that for some people this might be a carer, a cleaner, or a mobility scooter etc. But several times I have heard that for people with ADHD, or anxiety, the extra cost is 'taxis, as public transport may be difficult'. I've never actually heard another example - keen to hear them with an open mind.

TemperanceWest · 25/09/2026 17:53

LuckyHazelFox · 25/09/2026 17:51

It can be as odd as you think. It happens.

Yes I can accept there is the odd idiot that boasts about fiddling PIP or whatever. But it is very intriguing how every MN benefit basher knows one of these idiots.

AutumnLoverButNotYet · 25/09/2026 17:53

Differentforgirls · 25/09/2026 17:46

Why does she have to hide his savings? Has it suddenly become means tested but they’ve kept it a secret?

Yes, just one clue that they know absolutely nothing about it!!

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