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Could Neurodiverse Mumsnetters be renamed or its description changed to clarify it is for adults?

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 08:53

Please consider modifying the name and description of the Neurodiverse Mumsnetters board to make it clearer that it is intended for neurodivergent adults.

We often see threads from parents of neurodivergent children that would be more appropriately in SN Children. The posters would be more likely to get the support they seek if they posted in the correct board.

Additionally, some threads are unpleasant to read because children like the children we once were are described mainly in terms of the challenges they pose to their parents. Whilst this is understandable because parents don't ask for help with the aspects of parenting that are not challenging, it has the unintended effect of increasing the negative messaging that we as neurodivergent adults see about neurodivergence, and we get enough of that already without it being posted on the board set aside for us to support each other.

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TheLambtonWorm · 12/07/2026 09:58

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 12/07/2026 09:50

Actually @Werhere is right here, you may not have meant it to come across like that, but it reads as I don’t like when you post you have difficulty in your life as I feel that you are talking about me and that shouldn’t be allowed.”

It doesn't come across to me like that at all. It's perfectly clear OP wants a space dedicated to adult issues, not parenting ones.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 12/07/2026 09:50

Werhere · 12/07/2026 09:31

Read your op. You are essentially asking for partners to also not be entitled to post

Actually @Werhere is right here, you may not have meant it to come across like that, but it reads as I don’t like when you post you have difficulty in your life as I feel that you are talking about me and that shouldn’t be allowed.”

Werhere · 12/07/2026 09:31

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 09:22

No, I've understood perfectly. What you just said, I was agreeing with. I started with "Partners aren't parents". It's not partners I'm talking about.

Read your op. You are essentially asking for partners to also not be entitled to post

EmpressaurusKitty · 12/07/2026 09:27

Parents insist on posting on MNers without parents threads & I think the Black MNers board has similar problems.

You’ll get comments like ‘It came up in Active’ and ‘I have a right to give my opinion.’

Good luck though.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 09:22

Werhere · 12/07/2026 09:17

You have misunderstood
the SEN child board is for parents with ND child

this thread I regard as for those you are ND adult but their partners and families can also post surely

Edited

No, I've understood perfectly. What you just said, I was agreeing with. I started with "Partners aren't parents". It's not partners I'm talking about.

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 09:20

Itshotinherebutainttakingoffmyclothes · 12/07/2026 09:16

I think it’s more complicated as ND people are more likely to have ND children which makes it a more complex situation.

We often have posters who discuss the difficulties of parenting whilst being themselves neurodivergent. This isn't the same as neurotypical parents asking about how to get an ECHP. Nor is it the same as parents posting a laundry list of behaviours and asking if their child is neurodivergent.

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Werhere · 12/07/2026 09:19

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 12/07/2026 09:17

There is a stand alone thread for that @Werhere , ill try and find the link, it is v supportive, apart from the odd “this is harmful for those with ND to see negativity”.

Ah I didn’t realise

babschicken · 12/07/2026 09:18

Being pedantic but also technically the board should read neurodivergent rather than neurodiverse...bugs my autistic rigid brain every damn time.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 12/07/2026 09:17

Werhere · 12/07/2026 08:59

Are you joking?

what about the partners of those with ND who want to learn more?

There is a stand alone thread for that @Werhere , ill try and find the link, it is v supportive, apart from the odd “this is harmful for those with ND to see negativity”.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 09:17

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 09:16

Partners aren't parents of neurodivergent children wanting to know how to best raise their children or start a support (aka "vent about how my disabled child makes my life hard") thread. Parents of neurodivergent children have the SN boards for these purposes.

You have misunderstood
the SEN child board is for parents with ND child

this thread I regard as for those you are ND adult but their partners and families can also post surely

Itshotinherebutainttakingoffmyclothes · 12/07/2026 09:16

I think it’s more complicated as ND people are more likely to have ND children which makes it a more complex situation.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 12/07/2026 09:16

Werhere · 12/07/2026 08:59

Are you joking?

what about the partners of those with ND who want to learn more?

Partners aren't parents of neurodivergent children wanting to know how to best raise their children or start a support (aka "vent about how my disabled child makes my life hard") thread. Parents of neurodivergent children have the SN boards for these purposes.

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AnonymityAnonymity · 12/07/2026 09:14

I think you raise a valid point OP.
I think having a board title that makes it clear it is primarily intended as a support tool for adult ND people would be helpful.

Werhere · 12/07/2026 08:59

Are you joking?

what about the partners of those with ND who want to learn more?