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Is it acceptable to imply another poster is a pervert because they disagree with you about a topic?

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TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:10

So in a feminism thread, the members leep insinuating that I am a man with some sort of pee fetish because basically I disagree with them that women have to strip half naked or routinely wear several more layers than men. I've reported these posts as personal attacks but they dont seem to get deleted.

Can I clarify that it is ok to insinuate that someone is a different sex and a pervert because they disagreed with me? I'm asking before I head to other threads.

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Shedmistress · 11/06/2026 13:21

Maybe stop asking women what their layers are? It does sound like you are aiming for details that are none of your business.

I asked after someone said that women have a lot more to remove. I asked what the "lot more" was. Quite simple really. Still haven't got an answer.

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TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:46

LadyLooo · 11/06/2026 13:26

I mean pervert is a bit strong but why are you bothered if people think you're male?

I've been accused many times of being male by people who can't seem to accept someone can have a vagina and disagree with them.

But given none of us know what sex anyone here is, it was never going to bother me 🤷‍♂️

Honestly? It's triggering as a Black women because it is something that white people use against Black women often as part of their overall racism. I'm not saying they all know i am Black, but that is why it is genuinely upsetting.

@Anotherdayanotherexcuse And no I cant imagine the numerous extra layers that women wear that men do not.

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LadyLooo · 11/06/2026 13:26

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:19

They said i am a man and a pervert. Is that enough name calling?

I mean pervert is a bit strong but why are you bothered if people think you're male?

I've been accused many times of being male by people who can't seem to accept someone can have a vagina and disagree with them.

But given none of us know what sex anyone here is, it was never going to bother me 🤷‍♂️

Shedmistress · 11/06/2026 13:21

Maybe stop asking women what their layers are? It does sound like you are aiming for details that are none of your business.

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:19

Anotherdayanotherexcuse · 11/06/2026 13:18

Disagreeing with you isn't a personal attack unless they're actively calling you names. And some threads can be quite robust. People can be all shades of unpleasant but that's the internet. If you can't cope then don't comment 🤷

They said i am a man and a pervert. Is that enough name calling?

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TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:18

SockPlant · 11/06/2026 13:12

Report the posts. If they are against the rules they will be deleted

Yes I did report them. One has now been deleted since I made THIS post.

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Anotherdayanotherexcuse · 11/06/2026 13:18

Disagreeing with you isn't a personal attack unless they're actively calling you names. And some threads can be quite robust. People can be all shades of unpleasant but that's the internet. If you can't cope then don't comment 🤷

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:18

That's not the topic of the disagreement. It's literally because people are saying women have many more layers of clothes to remove before they pee and I am asking what these layers are. Then I was told I am a male pervert who wants to hear about how women pee.

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TheyAreLovelyLovelyPeople · 11/06/2026 13:16

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faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 11/06/2026 13:14

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SockPlant · 11/06/2026 13:12

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