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Is it acceptable to imply another poster is a pervert because they disagree with you about a topic?

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TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:10

So in a feminism thread, the members leep insinuating that I am a man with some sort of pee fetish because basically I disagree with them that women have to strip half naked or routinely wear several more layers than men. I've reported these posts as personal attacks but they dont seem to get deleted.

Can I clarify that it is ok to insinuate that someone is a different sex and a pervert because they disagreed with me? I'm asking before I head to other threads.

OP posts:
AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 15:08

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 11/06/2026 15:01

Women pull layers down to their knees to wee. Men don’t.

No-one has to remove anything.

Exactly, no one is removing any layers of clothing and it doesn’t matter how many layers a woman is or is not wearing compared to a man, we should have single sex spaces.

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 15:07

SpudGunToo · 11/06/2026 14:53

Are those arguing otherwise possibly applying the TRA definitions of men and women while everyone else is using the normal one?

I am certainly not.
No one is actually removing layers of clothing to pee.
Clothing is being pushed down or to one side.
The number of layers of clothing is the same so why that is even mentioned makes no sense.

In the grand scheme of things, it’s a very weak argument for single sex spaces and not the sword I would fall on. The arguments saying women need safety, dignity, privacy are much better. Number of layers of clothing worn is irrelevant. Don’t women in a swimming pool or gym need their own toilets too? Even if all they have on is an itty bitty bikini?

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 11/06/2026 15:01

Women pull layers down to their knees to wee. Men don’t.

No-one has to remove anything.

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 15:01

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:49

Men don’t take down their trousers
they unzip
Men don’t have to remove tights
Men don’t have to pull down their knickers because men can wear underwear with an opening so they simply open the opening

This is why men have urinals. They can zip and go

I can’t believe I’m having to explain this

I can’t believe you’re explaining it in such elaborate detail either, we all know what we are taking about.

The disagreement seems to be over the use of removing layers when what is meant is pulling down layers of clothing further.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:56

SpudGunToo · 11/06/2026 14:53

Are those arguing otherwise possibly applying the TRA definitions of men and women while everyone else is using the normal one?

Possibly

But they are saying women and women are women biologically
If they mean transwomen then they’d be saying it

They aren’t the same so 🤷‍♀️

Flukeman · 11/06/2026 14:54

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 14:05

My pregnancy has no bearing on my feelings on the matter. My race does.

Nobody knew or mentioned your race. They implied you might be a man because you wanted details about how they toilet.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:53

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:35

Same clothing = same number of layers.
Man in kilt, same number of layers as me a woman in a dress.
Unless it’s true men in kilts are always going commando. Then I suppose that would be one case where it’s fewer layers.

Does anyone else think this is about the stupidest justification for women to have single sex spaces? As opposed to, well, safety? Dignity?

FWIW
i haven't said it’s the reason we need single sex spaces

It is one reason that we need more facilities than men

It’s also a reason in terms of voyerism. If you are lowering clothing and exposing yourself to use the toilet men in adjoining facilities can get footage.

Which they have done

SpudGunToo · 11/06/2026 14:53

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:49

Men don’t take down their trousers
they unzip
Men don’t have to remove tights
Men don’t have to pull down their knickers because men can wear underwear with an opening so they simply open the opening

This is why men have urinals. They can zip and go

I can’t believe I’m having to explain this

Are those arguing otherwise possibly applying the TRA definitions of men and women while everyone else is using the normal one?

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:49

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:30

Sorry, how are these extra layers?

Men remove the same number of layers of clothing to pee from their urinogenital area as women.

Standing or sitting.

Technically, neither men nor women fully remove any layers to pee.

Men don’t take down their trousers
they unzip
Men don’t have to remove tights
Men don’t have to pull down their knickers because men can wear underwear with an opening so they simply open the opening

This is why men have urinals. They can zip and go

I can’t believe I’m having to explain this

SpudGunToo · 11/06/2026 14:44

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:30

Sorry, how are these extra layers?

Men remove the same number of layers of clothing to pee from their urinogenital area as women.

Standing or sitting.

Technically, neither men nor women fully remove any layers to pee.

They do not.

Men open their flies, pop out their penis
and urinate standing up. No layers removed.

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:38

I think I would not even mention this we need single sex spaces because we wear more layers of clothing. It’s right there along with we need single sex spaces because men leave very big stinky turds.

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:35

Same clothing = same number of layers.
Man in kilt, same number of layers as me a woman in a dress.
Unless it’s true men in kilts are always going commando. Then I suppose that would be one case where it’s fewer layers.

Does anyone else think this is about the stupidest justification for women to have single sex spaces? As opposed to, well, safety? Dignity?

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:30

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:24

Although OP is referring to more layers to remove when needing a pee
Which of course women do

with the exception of those men who prefer to sit of course

Edited

Sorry, how are these extra layers?

Men remove the same number of layers of clothing to pee from their urinogenital area as women.

Standing or sitting.

Technically, neither men nor women fully remove any layers to pee.

SpudGunToo · 11/06/2026 14:24

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:10

So in a feminism thread, the members leep insinuating that I am a man with some sort of pee fetish because basically I disagree with them that women have to strip half naked or routinely wear several more layers than men. I've reported these posts as personal attacks but they dont seem to get deleted.

Can I clarify that it is ok to insinuate that someone is a different sex and a pervert because they disagreed with me? I'm asking before I head to other threads.

It’s hard to understand what other than a fetish would lead someone to ask women how they undress to urinate while berating them for not allowing men into their spaces.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 11/06/2026 14:24

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:17

I am sitting here in a dress and also wondering what the extra layers would be? I am physically wearing fewer layers than a man in boxers and shorts.

In all truth OP, name calling is frequent on MN and it is often done by posters who are too proud to admit they are wrong so they resort to personal attacks.

Reporting helps but often it’s best to just disengage and come back in a day or so when heads are cooler. Anyone seeing the exchange can see who is being rude and who is not.

Too, some posters confuse questioning a rationale with being diametrically opposed. It’s annoying when you do agree with the general issues raised but not the stated reasons why - like you can be for women to have single sex spaces for toileting but not agree it’s due to extra layers of clothing- but they’re hurling accusations at you.

I find it helps to state the parts of a post that you do agree with before questioning details you don’t think are correct.

Although OP is referring to more layers to remove when needing a pee
Which of course women do

with the exception of those men who prefer to sit of course

AmberTigerEyes · 11/06/2026 14:17

I am sitting here in a dress and also wondering what the extra layers would be? I am physically wearing fewer layers than a man in boxers and shorts.

In all truth OP, name calling is frequent on MN and it is often done by posters who are too proud to admit they are wrong so they resort to personal attacks.

Reporting helps but often it’s best to just disengage and come back in a day or so when heads are cooler. Anyone seeing the exchange can see who is being rude and who is not.

Too, some posters confuse questioning a rationale with being diametrically opposed. It’s annoying when you do agree with the general issues raised but not the stated reasons why - like you can be for women to have single sex spaces for toileting but not agree it’s due to extra layers of clothing- but they’re hurling accusations at you.

I find it helps to state the parts of a post that you do agree with before questioning details you don’t think are correct.

Overtheatlantic · 11/06/2026 14:16

I mean I honestly couldn’t say what all the layers are but perhaps in cultures where women dress very modestly it’s more involved? For most western women it’s pants and trousers or skirts. I don’t know but I do know that MN has had a lot of threads lately with heightened emotions.

NovemberMorn · 11/06/2026 14:16

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 14:05

My pregnancy has no bearing on my feelings on the matter. My race does.

This is a very odd thread, but to try to allay the OP's fears.
I have been called male and black several times on forums, I am female and white, so far I haven't been accused of being pregnant, but then I do talk about the 1970's and my grandchildren a lot....so maybe I will be spared that one.

Does it matter how many layers a woman has to peel off to pee? Some like to be heavily padded, some go commando...who cares?

Shedmistress · 11/06/2026 14:15

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:46

Honestly? It's triggering as a Black women because it is something that white people use against Black women often as part of their overall racism. I'm not saying they all know i am Black, but that is why it is genuinely upsetting.

@Anotherdayanotherexcuse And no I cant imagine the numerous extra layers that women wear that men do not.

So it it triggering to you especially, because people code you as a male for asking what underwear women are wearing?

Aye right.

Anotherdayanotherexcuse · 11/06/2026 14:09

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 14:05

I dont think im being obtuse by wondering what these layers are.

Yes you are. You have a whole internet and Chat GPT to inform you.

LejlaKapovic · 11/06/2026 14:05

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:10

So in a feminism thread, the members leep insinuating that I am a man with some sort of pee fetish because basically I disagree with them that women have to strip half naked or routinely wear several more layers than men. I've reported these posts as personal attacks but they dont seem to get deleted.

Can I clarify that it is ok to insinuate that someone is a different sex and a pervert because they disagreed with me? I'm asking before I head to other threads.

You must be new to the internet 😁. People will say the dumbest things when they can hide behind a screen and avoid accountability. I wouldn't take random people online's comments personally.

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 14:05

Anotherdayanotherexcuse · 11/06/2026 13:51

Go and look up the term obtuse. Then you can decide if it's an insult or not.

I dont think im being obtuse by wondering what these layers are.

OP posts:
TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 14:05

DeadBug · 11/06/2026 13:54

Don't forget you're pregnant as well,op

My pregnancy has no bearing on my feelings on the matter. My race does.

OP posts:
DeadBug · 11/06/2026 13:54

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:46

Honestly? It's triggering as a Black women because it is something that white people use against Black women often as part of their overall racism. I'm not saying they all know i am Black, but that is why it is genuinely upsetting.

@Anotherdayanotherexcuse And no I cant imagine the numerous extra layers that women wear that men do not.

Don't forget you're pregnant as well,op

Anotherdayanotherexcuse · 11/06/2026 13:51

TheHateUGive · 11/06/2026 13:46

Honestly? It's triggering as a Black women because it is something that white people use against Black women often as part of their overall racism. I'm not saying they all know i am Black, but that is why it is genuinely upsetting.

@Anotherdayanotherexcuse And no I cant imagine the numerous extra layers that women wear that men do not.

Go and look up the term obtuse. Then you can decide if it's an insult or not.

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