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There is a poster that seems to be here just to harvest replies. What should I do?

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Another2Cats · 13/05/2026 21:33

Very much as the title.

There is a poster here who made her (their?) first post on 25th April.

Since then, she (they) has made 57 posts, of which 55 are starting threads that appear to be just there for soliciting engagement. This is done by way of asking a question and providing a three or four word opening post. Or sometimes only a single word in the opening post.

Should I highlight this to @MNHQ and, if so, should I link to all the 55 threads that they have started since 25th April?

For context, I am often on the Genealogy board and it was only after seeing two threads started by this person there that I took notice and realised that they had also started multiple threads on other boards as well.

This included Chat, Other Subjects, Tech Tips, AIBU, Property/DIY, Music, Sports, UK Travel, Education, Baby Names, Living Overseas, Style and Beauty, True crime and unsolved mysteries, Bullying, Parenting, Pets, Food/Recipes, Wildlife nature & conservation, and Telly Addicts.

Starting 55 new threads in the space of two and a half weeks which appear to be very much about soliciting engagement doesn't seem to really be in line with what MN is really all about.

Just to add to that, the username of this person is a direct reference to a thread that the newspapers back then picked up on. It was a thread from 2013 that people who were here then would likely remember and the poster is likely purporting to be somebody with a history dating back to then (despite their first post being on the 25th April this year).

Without giving the name of this poster, it would be like if she had called herself something like "Isle of Wight bollards" or "stacking goats".

Am I even right to call out this sort of harvesting of replies?

Are MNHQ likely to do anything about this even if I do make a complaint?

OP posts:
Calliopespa · 13/05/2026 23:23

Smallorveryfaraway · 13/05/2026 23:21

Others might have a different answers, I think... They could be trying to harvest information about posters which could be used if MN was hacked and usernames were linked to email addresses, then you've got a bunch of useful info about those people. I think that's fairly low risk but you never know. Some of the questions are the same or similar to security questions for online systems etc. name of first pet for example.
Second, and what I think this is, is AI bot traffic. Which will be for machine learning purposes. Or to drive traffic as MN sells advertising and will need engagement stats for that. Now I'm not saying it's MN doing this, to be clear, I think it's just machine learning bots.
Third, it's someone who is actually trying to identify another user. If they have suspicions and that particular user gives the right answers to the questions then they could be identified.
Lastly it's someone who is very very bored but also doesn't have anything interesting to talk about.

Does anyone know if you can just block a user so you can't see their posts anymore?

This is one very good reason for tweaking immaterial details: make your ds a dd, your DB a DSis etc ...

Smallorveryfaraway · 13/05/2026 23:21

ChocolateAddictAlways · 13/05/2026 23:09

EDIT: I have just read the most recent posts and now understand! I can't delete this piat annoyingly

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Can someone explain to me what the reasoning behind those posts is? Is it just to generate traffic on MN?

I am completely unaware about issues around social media so would appreciate being enlightened :)

Edited

Others might have a different answers, I think... They could be trying to harvest information about posters which could be used if MN was hacked and usernames were linked to email addresses, then you've got a bunch of useful info about those people. I think that's fairly low risk but you never know. Some of the questions are the same or similar to security questions for online systems etc. name of first pet for example.
Second, and what I think this is, is AI bot traffic. Which will be for machine learning purposes. Or to drive traffic as MN sells advertising and will need engagement stats for that. Now I'm not saying it's MN doing this, to be clear, I think it's just machine learning bots.
Third, it's someone who is actually trying to identify another user. If they have suspicions and that particular user gives the right answers to the questions then they could be identified.
Lastly it's someone who is very very bored but also doesn't have anything interesting to talk about.

Does anyone know if you can just block a user so you can't see their posts anymore?

SnowFrogJelly · 13/05/2026 23:20

Why not just hide and ignore

Calliopespa · 13/05/2026 23:20

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 23:17

@ChocolateAddictAlways

Hopefully this will help. .

People asking intrusive questions on message forums sometimes do it to harvest personal information, and it is a common form of social engineering. They often try to build a profile of you to facilitate identity theft, account takeovers, or phishing attacks.

Here is how to identify and deal with this behavior:

Common Info-Harvesting Techniques

The "Slow Burn" Build: They ask innocent, non-intrusive questions over time to gain trust, eventually moving on to deeper personal details.
Fake Relatability: They mimic your situation (e.g., "I'm going through the same thing, what bank do you use?") to trick you into sharing sensitive info.
The "Why" Game: They act overly interested in your daily routines, location, workplace, or family to map out your digital footprint.
Contradictory Probing: They may post controversial takes to make you angry, hoping you will reveal personal details in a defensive, emotional rant.

How to Handle Intrusive Questions

Flip the Script: Ask them back: "What’s your intent in asking that?" or "Why do you want to know?".
Use Humor/Vagueness: Deflect with a smile. "Why? Are you writing a biography?" or "That’s top-secret information".
Set Firm Boundaries: It is acceptable to say, "I prefer not to discuss that," or "I keep my private life off this forum".
"Brutal" Honesty: If they are persistent, give an absurdly awkward or detailed answer that makes them uncomfortable, such as "I only discuss my credit score with my accountant and my psychic".

Protecting Yourself Online

Use Pseudonyms: Never use your real name, birthday, or location in usernames or bios.
Report and Block: If a user persistently asks intrusive questions, report them to the forum moderators and use the block function immediately.
Check Privacy Settings: Ensure your profile, post history, and contact information are not public.
Assume Everyone is a Stranger: Treat everyone on a public forum as a stranger, regardless of how long they have been active.

People asking intrusive questions on message forums sometimes do it to harvest personal information, and it is a common form of social engineering. They often try to build a profile of you to facilitate identity theft, account takeovers, or phishing attacks.

Yes, this is a better expressed version of what i was thinking in my post above ...

Calliopespa · 13/05/2026 23:18

There have been a few I assumed were AI.

I would not be answering anything like my middle name, DOB etc... It's like they are trying to collate profiles.

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 23:17

@ChocolateAddictAlways

Hopefully this will help. .

People asking intrusive questions on message forums sometimes do it to harvest personal information, and it is a common form of social engineering. They often try to build a profile of you to facilitate identity theft, account takeovers, or phishing attacks.

Here is how to identify and deal with this behavior:

Common Info-Harvesting Techniques

The "Slow Burn" Build: They ask innocent, non-intrusive questions over time to gain trust, eventually moving on to deeper personal details.
Fake Relatability: They mimic your situation (e.g., "I'm going through the same thing, what bank do you use?") to trick you into sharing sensitive info.
The "Why" Game: They act overly interested in your daily routines, location, workplace, or family to map out your digital footprint.
Contradictory Probing: They may post controversial takes to make you angry, hoping you will reveal personal details in a defensive, emotional rant.

How to Handle Intrusive Questions

Flip the Script: Ask them back: "What’s your intent in asking that?" or "Why do you want to know?".
Use Humor/Vagueness: Deflect with a smile. "Why? Are you writing a biography?" or "That’s top-secret information".
Set Firm Boundaries: It is acceptable to say, "I prefer not to discuss that," or "I keep my private life off this forum".
"Brutal" Honesty: If they are persistent, give an absurdly awkward or detailed answer that makes them uncomfortable, such as "I only discuss my credit score with my accountant and my psychic".

Protecting Yourself Online

Use Pseudonyms: Never use your real name, birthday, or location in usernames or bios.
Report and Block: If a user persistently asks intrusive questions, report them to the forum moderators and use the block function immediately.
Check Privacy Settings: Ensure your profile, post history, and contact information are not public.
Assume Everyone is a Stranger: Treat everyone on a public forum as a stranger, regardless of how long they have been active.

DoYouLikeYourNaneFred · 13/05/2026 23:10

flossydog · 13/05/2026 22:52

The next thread is going to be "do you like the three digit code on the back of your debit card?"

😂😂😂

& people will STILL answer!!

ChocolateAddictAlways · 13/05/2026 23:09

EDIT: I have just read the most recent posts and now understand! I can't delete this piat annoyingly

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Can someone explain to me what the reasoning behind those posts is? Is it just to generate traffic on MN?

I am completely unaware about issues around social media so would appreciate being enlightened :)

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 13/05/2026 23:08

Oh.
Just come across this poster.
Stranger and stranger.
Wonder what they are playing at.

blacksax · 13/05/2026 22:58

Of course it has to be a complete coincidence, of course it does, but I've just checked my emails. Someone has tried to hack my X account this evening, only a few minutes after I posted on one of these spurious threads.

I haven't used the X formerly known as twitter for ages.

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 22:55

AutumnClouds · 13/05/2026 22:54

If someone sent you a letter what would they write on the envelope?

😆

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 22:55

flossydog · 13/05/2026 22:52

The next thread is going to be "do you like the three digit code on the back of your debit card?"

'Or what was the name of your first pet?'

Their first (and one and only) post ...

'Dappy.'

With the mother's maiden name one, a few posters were giving away quite a lot of clues and information about themselves. It's quite scary. 😬

AutumnClouds · 13/05/2026 22:54

flossydog · 13/05/2026 22:52

The next thread is going to be "do you like the three digit code on the back of your debit card?"

If someone sent you a letter what would they write on the envelope?

flossydog · 13/05/2026 22:52

planespotter71 · 13/05/2026 22:42

Yeah they posted today asking do you like your mothers maiden name ?

The next thread is going to be "do you like the three digit code on the back of your debit card?"

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 13/05/2026 22:50

Sounds like a creep that’s trying to find an ex partner.

fashionqueen0123 · 13/05/2026 22:46

I saw them post today and saw the user name and thought hmm really?

planespotter71 · 13/05/2026 22:42

Yeah they posted today asking do you like your mothers maiden name ?

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 22:41

The first thread was 'what's going on outside your house now?'

Their first (and only) post...

'Nothing.'

What was the point? Confused

Also questions asking about peoples childhood homes, and surnames, and demographic of their villages/towns, and trying to find out what people have - and don't have - within 10 minutes walk of their house, their village or suburb crime rate, asking about peoples mums and dad's fashion (trying to gauge their ages,) what accent do people have (fishing for the areas people live in,) popular girls names when people were at school (fishing for posters ages...) And asking people if they like their mum's maiden name, (maybe in the hope someone may mention their mum's maiden name...) All rather odd.

Oh, and there are a few more random threads peppered here and there in the middle of them all.... Wink

So the fishing for info ones don't stand out too much! Wink

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Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 13/05/2026 22:41

It’s pretty easy to figure out which poster you are talking about but I am curious as to what the point of ’harvesting replies’ would be?

AutumnClouds · 13/05/2026 22:39

Some of the posts do seem more like they are trying to identify someone they already have quite a lot of information about though, like about things about childhood and parents that go beyond maiden names into anecdotes. But then some seem very much to aim to identify where someone is living now. My guess is not random harvesting but a stalker of an ex who is a mumsnet user.

BatchCookBabe · 13/05/2026 22:34

AutumnClouds · 13/05/2026 22:03

Oh wow it looks a lot like they’re either trying to identify a specific person on here or like they’re building profiles. It doesn’t look like normal engagement farming as they aren’t all particularly interesting questions, but they are extremely identifying ones. How weird and disturbing.

Oh my... Confused Like the Facebook posts that ask

'Your first pet, the street you first lived in, and your mother's maiden name is your country star name.'

So mine would be Jessy Wellings Jones ...

First dog Jessy, first street Wellings Avenue, mother's maiden name Jones.

I used to answer these things, but it was the early days of social media (pre 2010) and at the time I didn't realise my information was being harvested, and sometimes for nefarious purposes... Like the 3 questions I put are questions/answers you have answer to access your bank details and credit card account etc...

This is giving the same vibe.

I am never posting on one of this poster's threads again... I have only answered a couple, but I'm done now. I think this kind of thing has been around for some 2 decades, but people drop their guard when they're posting on a friendly message board, and it just seems like a bit of fun.

(nb; these are not real answers for me.)

blacksax · 13/05/2026 22:28

ForTheTitle · 13/05/2026 22:26

It would be interesting to find out if a private message follows engaging with the thread. It would be easy to strike up messaging, with the information gleaned…then use the built friendship for whatever…

Not so far........😂

ForTheTitle · 13/05/2026 22:26

Anyusernamewilldo8963 · 13/05/2026 22:23

I have seen a couple of the threads mentioned but I haven't even clicked on them so wouldn't have noticed it's the same username each time. The ones like "whats your middle name" etc just from the title alone I was a nope! I probably can be identified if you knew me and read all my threads but that just screamed to me "I'm trying to identify someone" so it staggers me that people actually opened the thread let alone engaged in it!

I agree with others though that I would report each thread, not sure if anything will be done about it but at least you can be at peace knowing you've tried to protect any vulnerable users from engaging in these identifying threads

It would be interesting to find out if a private message follows engaging with the thread. It would be easy to strike up messaging, with the information gleaned…then use the built friendship for whatever…

blacksax · 13/05/2026 22:24

flossydog · 13/05/2026 22:16

It looks like it's trying to get answers for password protection. Mother's maiden names, pet names etc. Combined with leaked emails, it could be used for nefarious purposes.

^ Totally agree with this.

Even if not, it is bloody annoying when a poster starts a thread and then fucks off.

Anyusernamewilldo8963 · 13/05/2026 22:23

I have seen a couple of the threads mentioned but I haven't even clicked on them so wouldn't have noticed it's the same username each time. The ones like "whats your middle name" etc just from the title alone I was a nope! I probably can be identified if you knew me and read all my threads but that just screamed to me "I'm trying to identify someone" so it staggers me that people actually opened the thread let alone engaged in it!

I agree with others though that I would report each thread, not sure if anything will be done about it but at least you can be at peace knowing you've tried to protect any vulnerable users from engaging in these identifying threads