Page 18 | FWR being trolled by a user called AidaP

Hedgehogforshort · 2026-04-08T19:35:27+00:00

Hi MNHQ can you please address the issue of a certain poster called AidaP who is not participating in debate he is just trolling. to be clear this person is a trans woman who has been convicted of violence and is posting promotion of acts of violence against women elsewhere. in particular there is one elsewhere about using a roughly hewn rolling pin to rape women. you realy need to look in to him it is just so not on that he is being allowed to bother us here.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:40

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:34

And yet, they are when it comes to establishing policies that are designed to provide them with protection from harm, those are based on safeguarding principles and always have done.

Talking about safeguarding is not taking any power away from women. Safeguarding is one of the equitable accommodations women and girls need to protect them. Even things like providing a woman to chaperone in a medical appointment where a male doctor might be doing a skin check on a female patient is part of that. Maybe you notice these things.

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Do they specifically use language like "safeguarding" in these documents?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:39

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:35

If you said 'fuck x with a splintery rolling pin' then yes, I would consider that a threat. If you are inclined to say things like that, perhaps you should reconsider doing that.

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I asked a specific question. I'm asking if you think every time someone says "fuck that person", you see it as a rape threat. Or only when they add the latter.

See to me, if I thought someone was saying "kill him", I'd object (in most cases); I wouldn't need someone to say "kill him with a gun" for it to be objectionable.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:35

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:29

So if I said "Fuck Aida", would you consider that a rape threat?

If someone said to me "fuck you" in response to my post, is that saying they want to fuck me without my consent?

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If you said 'fuck x with a splintery rolling pin' then yes, I would consider that a threat. If you are inclined to say things like that, perhaps you should reconsider doing that.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:34

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:27

Women arent inherently vulnerable adults who need safeguarding. Let's not encourage that line of thinking, please.

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And yet, they are when it comes to establishing policies that are designed to provide them with protection from harm, those are based on safeguarding principles and always have done.

Talking about safeguarding is not taking any power away from women. Safeguarding is one of the equitable accommodations women and girls need to protect them. Even things like providing a woman to chaperone in a medical appointment where a male doctor might be doing a skin check on a female patient is part of that. Maybe you notice these things.

ohwtf · 09/04/2026 17:33

This is all so unhinged

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GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:29

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:24

and because it is an inanimate object and not a human, it will not be considered a threat.

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So if I said "Fuck Aida", would you consider that a rape threat?

If someone said to me "fuck you" in response to my post, is that saying they want to fuck me without my consent?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:27

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:25

yes. And if could be said, anyone who is considered a target for such a threat.

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Women arent inherently vulnerable adults who need safeguarding. Let's not encourage that line of thinking, please.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:26

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 17:22

I think HQ should just ban him then and delete this thread, so as not to give him any more of the attention he craves.

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I agree

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:26

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Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:25

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:24

Who is inherently vulnerable on this site? Women?

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yes. And if could be said, anyone who is considered a target for such a threat.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:24

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:23

They could also say "fuck that stupid post with a spiky butt plug".

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and because it is an inanimate object and not a human, it will not be considered a threat.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:24

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:23

Safeguarding is not just for children at all. That is one aspect of safeguarding. Safeguarding is for any vulnerable person.

MN bans on IP addresses etc. Sure a Previously banned poster can reregister but then they can be banned again. Their net is actually pretty good.

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Who is inherently vulnerable on this site? Women?

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:23

Wonderingaboutthing · 09/04/2026 17:19

Eh? Safeguarding is about adult’s responsibility towards children in their care. It has absolutely nothing to do with the obligations of an internet forum towards adult users who are anonymous and not in physical proximity with each other.

Absolutely vile posters should be banned. Though I can see the challenges in banning someone because of something they said on another site. Also the challenge they could just re register the next day with a new account.

Ignore and don’t give trolls the oxygen they crave.

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Safeguarding is not just for children at all. That is one aspect of safeguarding. Safeguarding is for any vulnerable person.

MN bans on IP addresses etc. Sure a Previously banned poster can reregister but then they can be banned again. Their net is actually pretty good.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:23

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They could also say "fuck that stupid post with a spiky butt plug".

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 17:22

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:20

He has posted links to threads he is contributing to as well on blue sky.

He is very up front that it is him.

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I think HQ should just ban him then and delete this thread, so as not to give him any more of the attention he craves.

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:22

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Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:20

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 17:18

Ahh thank you, that's what I was asking about

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He has posted links to threads he is contributing to as well on blue sky.

He is very up front that it is him.

Wonderingaboutthing · 09/04/2026 17:19

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 12:49

Hi Becky

Thanks for this. However, if a poster has been abusive and their very presence on the board is continuing that abuse, is that not a safeguarding issue where posters are being subjected to abuse because the poster continues ?

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Eh? Safeguarding is about adult’s responsibility towards children in their care. It has absolutely nothing to do with the obligations of an internet forum towards adult users who are anonymous and not in physical proximity with each other.

Absolutely vile posters should be banned. Though I can see the challenges in banning someone because of something they said on another site. Also the challenge they could just re register the next day with a new account.

Ignore and don’t give trolls the oxygen they crave.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:19

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:17

I don't imagine for a second they would agree.

So that's a no you didn't report it then.

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No because I probably agree too.

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:19

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:17

He has admitted that he posted it. He even linked to it proudly and in another post encouraged us to report him to the police.

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Oh did he now? What an excellent suggestion.

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 17:18

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:17

He has admitted that he posted it. He even linked to it proudly and in another post encouraged us to report him to the police.

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Ahh thank you, that's what I was asking about

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:17

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:16

HR would probably agree with whatever she thinks should fuck off.

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I don't imagine for a second they would agree.

So that's a no you didn't report it then.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2026 17:17

FaceBothered · 09/04/2026 16:46

But anyone on Mumsnet can choose whatever user name they want as long as it's not already taken?

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He has admitted that he posted it. He even linked to it proudly and in another post encouraged us to report him to the police.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:16

SirChenjins · 09/04/2026 17:10

Hope you reported 'her' to HR.

Or does HR in the generic East East not care about that sort of aggressive sexualised language in the workplace?

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HR would probably agree with whatever she thinks should fuck off.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 09/04/2026 17:15

lifeinthelastlane · 09/04/2026 17:10

Just because you have a colleague who behaves like this (🤮) doesn't change the meaning

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Yeah it's a colloqualism. A way to emphasise that you really think that thing should fuck off.