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Why was my post deleted?

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BlackMilk · 16/03/2026 21:25

Hi,

I posted a comment on the AIBU thread about the woman babysitting her friend’s baby and it got deleted. I genuinely have no clue what guidelines I’ve broken. Would you be able to tell me please?

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BlackMilk · 16/03/2026 21:48

I don’t know how to post a link to the thread but it’s called To tell this friend I can’t continue to give this level of help

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purpleme12 · 16/03/2026 21:45

Very occasionally I do see them delete comments that I can't see are actually nasty or break any guidelines. It's weird.

Mostly I agree with ones that are deleted but occasionally you'll wonder why they deleted certain ones

Batties · 16/03/2026 21:44

“It was a little bit harsh to be honest” there’s your answer then.

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BlackMilk · 16/03/2026 21:43

It was a little bit harsh to be honest but I wouldn’t have thought to the point it broke talk guidelines.

It said that she should help her friend access help but otherwise set healthy boundaries and stick to them.
It also said she shouldn’t go round talking to her friend’s mum/ husband/ hv because she was making a lot of presumptions about the situation and that she should back off, not get deeper involved.
I did say she was being ridiculous (as in by getting over involved) and that I thought she must be enjoying the drama to come on here and give all the details.
I wouldn’t have been so harsh if it wasn’t in AIBU.
Maybe it was too mean? A lot of the other comments are much worse though.

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Zov · 16/03/2026 21:30

Also, can you post a link to the thread?

Zov · 16/03/2026 21:29

Looks like yours was reported but the 'leech' one wasn't.

Can you say roughly what it was you said (I didn't see it?)

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BlackMilk · 16/03/2026 21:27

There are other comments on there calling the friend a “fucking leech” and they are allowed but not mine?

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