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Political threads, bullying and echo chambers

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TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 18:23

I just wanted to clarify Mumsnet’s stance on this as it seems really ‘off’.

I’m a long time poster and not aware that I’ve had posts deleted before or done anything controversial.
A political thread came up in my feed so sort of ‘advertised’ to me by Mumsnet. So I had a look.
Lots of posters are on this political thread who know each other well and have similar political leanings. That’s fine, but there were posts supporting anti-immigration and pro posting flags on roundabouts. So I felt a need to challenge as I don’t share that political stance,

Cue the group of long time posters to jump on me, accuse me of goading, derailing, telling each other to ignore me, referring to me as an ‘it’ - or ‘crying to Mumsnet’ when I ask for clarification - and - as a group encouraging each other to post rock gifs each time I post. Any perceived ‘goading’ or ‘derailment’ by me was minuscule compared to the onslaught of animosity from the bullying group.

Mumsnet told me to stay off the thread and to discuss my political thoughts elsewhere.

I’m sorry, but I’ve never come across this on Mumsnet before? I thought threads were public and all are free to post?
It felt like echo chamber, and rather than address the bullying, gang-like behaviour - Mumsnet seems to be accepting it.

I won’t be posting on the thread anymore. But I’m really disappointed that Mumsnet doesn’t moderate these threads fairly or adds them to my feed when I’m not actually welcome to post there at all and they are only for people of a particular political persuasion.

OP posts:
ProfessorRedNine · 20/11/2025 09:29

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 20/11/2025 05:08

Ok. Well clearly all the posters have come from there to bully me here!

I’m going to close my account with Mumsnet now.

It’s become a place for bullies.

OK thanks bye.

ProfRedLorryYellowLorry · 20/11/2025 09:17

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 20/11/2025 05:08

Ok. Well clearly all the posters have come from there to bully me here!

I’m going to close my account with Mumsnet now.

It’s become a place for bullies.

So people who don't agree with you are "bullying" you?

You don't seem to be engaging with the points raised at all. Maybe Mumsnet isn't the place for you.

DrBlackbird · 20/11/2025 09:13

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 20:29

@GetOverTheEgo

Thread 17

“I say this you tube channel and I think the title really sums up the UK at the moment where a lot of the 'Backwardness' and lack of critical thinking is coming from those on the Left.

That YouTube has nothing particularly insightful to say and just some random dude amusing himself whilst driving so why worry about it?

I do, however, agree that the left is most definitely demonstrating an unfortunate lack of critical thinking these days. Too much group think / wrapping up all ‘left’ causes into one left perspective and not enough informed understanding and unpacking of individual issues.

This is extremely worrying as we desperately need effective leadership from both right and left.

Both need each other for checks and balances, but Brexit threw the political landscape into chaos and it’s never recovered with Johnson kicking out the intelligent Tory MPs, businesses struggling to do business with our biggest trad partner and Starmer making v bad choices for his cabinet. Reeves being the worst choice.

FuckOffMadison · 20/11/2025 09:03

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 20/11/2025 05:08

Ok. Well clearly all the posters have come from there to bully me here!

I’m going to close my account with Mumsnet now.

It’s become a place for bullies.

Or, you know, you could be the one in the wrong? Maybe take some time for personal reflection?

And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…
And this comment is just absolutely fucking nasty of you.

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 20/11/2025 05:08

Ok. Well clearly all the posters have come from there to bully me here!

I’m going to close my account with Mumsnet now.

It’s become a place for bullies.

OP posts:
Traceysgoingtobelivid · 20/11/2025 01:38

ktopfwcv · 20/11/2025 00:20

You cannot name change on a thread you've already engaged in.

I don’t think that is what that poster is saying, they are saying that on each thread the OP name changes and then claims to be a new poster when they are anything but.

TooBigForMyBoots · 20/11/2025 00:48

@TenLittleSweetWrappers Mnet is full of robust debate threads. Thankfully it also makes room for more chilled threads where posters hang out with like minded people.

It's a breach of Mnet etiquette to crash such a thread.

Abitofalark · 20/11/2025 00:40

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 18:53

@SquirrelosaurusSoShiny
I’ve not really seen a thread/series of threads like this before though! One poster is seen as the ‘host’. Then they all welcome each other each time a new thread in the series is created. Any poster they deem to be unacceptable - they gang up and back each other! It’s like the huddles you used to get in the school playground…
And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…

I've seen exactly that in the television section. It's awful when a discussion descends into chatter, as it usually does, and becomes personal derailing and off topic trivia. One self appointed boss controls the thread, on occasion even stating that only certain sorts of comments are welcome; anyone new (not part of the usual crowd) who enters the thread and doesn't toe the approved line is rounded on and hounded out.

ktopfwcv · 20/11/2025 00:20

Insanityisnotastrategy · 19/11/2025 21:59

I've seen you on that thread and you are clearly not posting in good faith either there or here. Constant attempts at derailment and claiming you're oh so worried about Reform when that is not the focus of the thread and it is not populated by Reform supporters. Name changing and claiming to be a new poster, making post after post that simply do not address anything being discussed. Did nobody ever teach you any manners?

You cannot name change on a thread you've already engaged in.

ilovesooty · 20/11/2025 00:13

I wouldn't have any common ground with people on the threads in question, so I stay off them. It's just the polite thing to do. It's rude to insert yourself into a group of like minded people and start challenging them. There are plenty of generic threads with wide ranging viewpoints where you can do that.

NoWordForFluffy · 19/11/2025 22:33

there were posts supporting anti-immigration and pro posting flags on roundabouts. So I felt a need to challenge as I don’t share that political stance
My (albeit brief) AS didn’t show you challenging anything about immigration or flags on roundabouts. You’re either misrepresenting your intentions in posting there, or this happened under a previous username (if you’ve name changed, how long have you been following and posting on these threads that you just happened across?)

They didn't challenge under their old username either.

Wouldwoodknot · 19/11/2025 22:25

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 18:53

@SquirrelosaurusSoShiny
I’ve not really seen a thread/series of threads like this before though! One poster is seen as the ‘host’. Then they all welcome each other each time a new thread in the series is created. Any poster they deem to be unacceptable - they gang up and back each other! It’s like the huddles you used to get in the school playground…
And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…

A political thread came up in my feed so sort of ‘advertised’ to me by Mumsnet. So I had a look.
You’ve posted repeatedly and followed them across to the next thread to continue posting.

there were posts supporting anti-immigration and pro posting flags on roundabouts. So I felt a need to challenge as I don’t share that political stance
My (albeit brief) AS didn’t show you challenging anything about immigration or flags on roundabouts. You’re either misrepresenting your intentions in posting there, or this happened under a previous username (if you’ve name changed, how long have you been following and posting on these threads that you just happened across?)

Cue the group of long time posters to jump on me, accuse me of goading, derailing, telling each other to ignore me, referring to me as an ‘it’
They were referring to your behaviour as “it”. As in “it’s annoying when somebody keeps inserting themselves into a long-running thread to argue with posters who know each other”.

Mumsnet told me to stay off the thread and to discuss my political thoughts elsewhere.
This is exactly what you should do. I’m decidedly left-leaning, and all a quick look at those threads revealed was people across a political spectrum who are annoyed with this Labour government.

And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…
You’re engaging in the behaviour you’re complaining about: trying to get people on side to mock those who you feel are “bullying” you. Just stay off their threads and leave them alone.

Traceysgoingtobelivid · 19/11/2025 22:12

Thanks everyone, as I suspected! OP has been rumbled.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 19/11/2025 21:59

I've seen you on that thread and you are clearly not posting in good faith either there or here. Constant attempts at derailment and claiming you're oh so worried about Reform when that is not the focus of the thread and it is not populated by Reform supporters. Name changing and claiming to be a new poster, making post after post that simply do not address anything being discussed. Did nobody ever teach you any manners?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 19/11/2025 21:36

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 18:53

@SquirrelosaurusSoShiny
I’ve not really seen a thread/series of threads like this before though! One poster is seen as the ‘host’. Then they all welcome each other each time a new thread in the series is created. Any poster they deem to be unacceptable - they gang up and back each other! It’s like the huddles you used to get in the school playground…
And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…

I have a night job.

And a day job.

nearlylovemyusername · 19/11/2025 21:28

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 18:53

@SquirrelosaurusSoShiny
I’ve not really seen a thread/series of threads like this before though! One poster is seen as the ‘host’. Then they all welcome each other each time a new thread in the series is created. Any poster they deem to be unacceptable - they gang up and back each other! It’s like the huddles you used to get in the school playground…
And constant posting! I guess they don’t have a day job…

there is some contradictions in your posts - the above and "I’m a long time poster ".

MN is a perfect place for debate.

Have you never seen a thread where OP is trying to chose an expensive handbag, posters try to help and then a few sods join in to say they'd never spend more than 50p on a bag and OP should give it to charity?

Have you never seen a Christmas thread, on a Christmas topic, where posters enjoy themselves discussing gifts, food, whatever, even in March, and some strugglers join it to say it's too early, not appropriate, whatever?

If you haven't seen it you can't be a long term poster.

There is a great freedom of speech here, so if you don't enjoy a thread, especially long running one with an established community, you aren't sentenced to spend your time there.

ETA: and you're right, some of them might not have a day job. Do you have any issue with this?

BIossomtoes · 19/11/2025 21:24

SidekickSylvia · 19/11/2025 19:52

Why join a group of people you don't agree with, to tell them you don't agree with them? What's the point? If you overheard a group of strangers in a cafe talking about holidaying in Dubai, and you objected because of their human rights record, would you pull up a chair and interrupt their conversation to tell them? Would you expect to be welcomed? Accuse them of bullying if they told you to piss off, or told each other to ignore you?

You won't change their mind, and they won't change yours. Find a thread you enjoy. Don't be that annoying poster that derails and makes the whole thread about herself.

This. It’s really rude to barge in to a thread with an established community of posters who clearly have a commonality of views and start arguing with them. The pub table analogy is very apt. There are plenty of political threads if that’s what you want to discuss.

ProfRedLorryYellowLorry · 19/11/2025 21:18

So if I see a thread about the Green party, full of Green party supporters chatting to each other, but I don't agree with the Green party, I should complain when they are not 10000% welcoming to me and my tedious carefully thought out arguments against them when I try to take over their thread?

Of course there are some "echo chambers" on here, OP. It's the way a forum site evolves.

SidekickSylvia · 19/11/2025 21:15

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 20:08

@SidekickSylvia

I probably would stand up to anyone being xenophobic or flying flags on roundabouts in real life though? Or should I ignore it?

Do you think you have the right to tell everyone how to think? That's incredibly arrogant and intolerant. What difference do you think you make? And I don't believe that in the real world you go elbowing your way into strangers conversations to tell them their views are wrong, because they're not the same as your views.

NoWordForFluffy · 19/11/2025 21:12

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 20:29

@GetOverTheEgo

Thread 17

“I say this you tube channel and I think the title really sums up the UK at the moment where a lot of the 'Backwardness' and lack of critical thinking is coming from those on the Left.

The post clearly says they agree with the title of the YouTube video, not the full content of it.

Little bit of misrepresentation from you there.

FuckOffMadison · 19/11/2025 20:47

Bleh, you made me read thread 20. They all seemed very civil and talking about UK Labour and their policies until YOU tried to shoehorn Trump and yesterday's news about him into the conversation. No wonder they got pissed off (although I've not seen that from them either).

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 20:29

@GetOverTheEgo

Thread 17

“I say this you tube channel and I think the title really sums up the UK at the moment where a lot of the 'Backwardness' and lack of critical thinking is coming from those on the Left.

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music that you love, upload original content and share it all with friends, family and the world on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJTRAhTl_tM

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GetOverTheEgo · 19/11/2025 20:22

Gonna need more evidence than that.

And the intent.

The threads you mention are very scathing of such things. In fact they joke and make fun of such nonsense.

I think at best you are taking things out of context innocently.

TenLittleSweetWrappers · 19/11/2025 20:19

@GetOverTheEgo

The first post I came across was a YouTube link of (can’t remember exact name) Garydoescars - promoting flags on roundabouts.

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GetOverTheEgo · 19/11/2025 20:14

I lurk on the thread you have mentioned and they most certainly do not support flags on roundabouts.

They do, however, challenge your statements. Respectfully.