I’m getting really fed up of my posts being deleted.

In that case, it would be even more important to stop using insults.

I haven't seen any of your posts so I can't comment on them, but if you feel you have good points to make, just make them without using insulting language.

Perhaps you could just write something anodyne, like:

"I don't agree with you - I believe that............ because............."

It's actually very verbally aggressive to start a conversation with:

"Are you stupid? You're wrong because................"

I used to work in a call centre helping people with processes and forms. Sometimes they wouldn't understand my explanation. By op's logic I could have asked them 'are you stupid'? And it would have been perfectly acceptable 😂

Don’t think you know what stupid actually means if you think it’s a word for someone who isn’t getting what you mean. Maybe be clearer when you’re trying to explain?

I know a lot of Irish people. None of them would ask "are you stupid?" unless they were trying to be rude.
Actually, the only person I know who used to say it regularly was my abusive ex. Who wasn't Irish.

That’s not what stupid means. It means being unintelligent. Not bright. Incapable of understanding.

Emotionally intelligent people don’t need others to reconsider their stances. They can challenge it but accept they will have a different opinion.

Hmm, on the rare occasion I’ve had a post deleted, I have probably deserved it. If you’re having posts deleted regularly, look at what you’re posting and be really careful to stick to the Talk guidelines?

Asking are you stupid is rude though. It means you’re referring to them as someone who lacks common sense or has a low level of intelligence. Why can’t you rephrase your question that isn’t a personal attack? Know idea where you’re from but people don’t go round asking that just because they might not agree with them, it comes off quite immature and closed minded.

I’m Irish. I can assure it’s not something ‘we’ throw around.

Yup. I fell foul of the troll hunting proscription when I was a newbie because I wrote "Found the [t-word]!"

Yes. That would be a healthy way to discuss rather than call people names.

Sorry, but I'm also Irish, living in the UK and other countries for decades, and calling someone stupid is incredibly rude. Which part of Ireland are YOU from a OP because it is certainly not acceptable on the East coast where I'm from!

Wow. Are you still arguing that you are right/have mitigating reasons rather than accepting you were wrong and were actually insulting?

It might be time for some quiet reflection OP.

Well calling them stupid is rude so probably comes under no personal attacks. These are guidelines OP to familiarise in future

Mumsnet Talk is an open forum. Our policy is to keep intervention to a minimum and let the conversation flow but in keeping with our mission to make parents' lives easier, where necessary, we will use our discretion to delete posts (or ban posters).
We do have a few forum rules to make sure we keep Talk a good place to hang out:

• No personal attacks
• No posts that break the law, including hate speech of any kind
• No trolling, misleading or deliberately inflammatory behaviour
• No trollhunting
• No spamming
• No multiple accounts

Maybe MN isn’t for me.

If you can’t change the way you communicate to fit talk guidelines, then mumsnet will make that decision for you.

This one…

I don’t think I’ve ever had a discussion on something with someone where someone has said ‘Are you stupid?’ in response to a point made. Can’t really see how that advances anyone’s argument. Is there the expectation that the person will reply ‘Yes, I am. Thank you for pointing it out’. You may well have good points to make but you undermine yourself by making comments re someone being stupid if you take a different view to them. Just make your point, no need to comment personally in that way.

This wide eyed innocent act is hilarious. Trying to make out it's some sort of harmless regional expression lol.

I had a quick look at your posting history and you are pretty abrasive. Why not own it?

Live by the sword, die by the sword I say. If you have a gloves off approach to posting you can't complain about a gloves off approach to moderation

I saw your post's and felt they were genuine and definitely added to the discussion.

This is starting to remind me of that comedy sketch where the guy pays for an argument. 🤣

Ask yourself if you would speak to anyone in real life like this. Your family speak to each other like this according to you, but would you say it to a stranger you had just met? Or even a friend? It’s rude and derogatory.