I’m getting really fed up of my posts being deleted.

Quietly reflect on it, rather than post a thread about how fed up you are?

I did exactly that, hence realising that actually I maybe wasn’t being very helpful when posting on some threads and that was why my posts were deleted, because I was stressed at the time.

I would advise you to step away from this thread, name change and post within guidelines in future, keeping in mind what you have been told by both MNHQ and posters on this thread.

@WellingtonBootilicious

It all depends on reporting.

There is so much worse that is said and slips by. Unfortunately it only takes that one person to report your post - or indeed posts if they have it in for you.

I got my first warning for DFOD - I'd only ever seen it on these boards so assumed okay.

It's the merry button pushers. It makes a mockery really as most reported posts will be by someone with a gripe.

No idea why, it was just how the site was when I joined. A lot of very direct, sometimes hard hitting posts. Almost always accurate and intelligent though.

Posters weren’t needlessly spiteful when I first joined, but there was little room for error as a new poster. I also got some of the best advice of my life during those initial years. There are posters who have long since left or name changed, who I think of really fondly.

The site has grown exponentially since the tabloids began mining it for content, the demographic has broadened.

If you think MN is bad you should try Facebook.
There, ppl have to disguise words like m@π or w0m🅰️n to get past the censors!

You could also make an effort not to use disablist language.

But that's been mentioned quite a lot, and you don't agree.

You haven’t owned it. You’ve minimised, called people delicate, accused them of xenophobia and doubled down on your use of a slur.

‘Owning it’ would be saying ‘I was wrong and I’m sorry’, without qualifying it or attempting to justify it. You have not done that.

Have a look yourself. You need to learn to be more self aware so this doesn’t keep happening.

Trying to claim that the word mental isn't a slur, when used the way you used it, for a start.

Calling everyone who has responded to you nasty.

But why do things need to get to the stage where it’s brutal? Even children understand you can have different opinions, which is fine. The world would be boring if we all thought the same but now we have a toxic place full of hatred for no other reason than a difference of opinion on stuff that really doesn’t matter.

Hope so! But apparently as a southerner I should be offended?! 😂

Hang on, you've had just two posts deleted.

Two?

Fuss over nothing.

OP, I’ll say it again.

You need to code-switch when you’re talking to people online.

It’s not the same as talking with family or close friends.

Ni moi non plus.

I think it’s hilarious that the OP thinks she ought to be allowed to say what she likes, insult people (as it’s how they speak in wherever from Ireland she’s from - although I’ve literally never encountered an Irish person who does this), call them stupid, mental and petty. That’s apparently all fine. To the extent that she was so indignant at having two comments deleted that she started a whole thread about this offence to her person.

However, posters who have a problem with this are mean and nasty. They’re not allowed to say what they like. That’s apparently a ‘pile-on’.

Why not?
Several people have pointed out to you why this is a terrible disablist slur and you seem to be determined to argue that's it's perfectly acceptable.

I’ve been on MN for over 10 years now, and earlier this year had a spate of my posts being deleted.

I would say that MN posters have become thinner skinned than they were when I first joined (it was brutal) but also acknowledge that at the point my posts were deleted I was very pregnant and anxious due to health concerns, so was not my most measured self when posting.

It is baffling to me that you didn’t realise “are you stupid” was rude. At least own what you’re posting.

Not biting.

Op this is the problem. Not one person here has made any personal attacks on you. TBF i think they’ve been extremely nice considering how things can escalate. You’ve asked why and everyone who has commented apart from two have said it’s because of your language. Then you go off insulting people in the comments that prove their point. You have no self awareness and now are feeling sorry for yourself over a situation you have caused.

Unless you actually change your attitude then I don’t think things will improve for you as people do not want to hang around with a person who is thoughtless, nasty and rude.

Ahhh... very clever OP. You want us all to respond to you with "are you stupid?". Got it.

I think you're being very defensive now and not really helping your case.