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WellingtonBootilicious · 2025-05-22T20:15:43+00:00

I say nothing inflammatory. No rascism, no sexism, no xenophobia. Because that is not me, I would never. So why are my posts being deleted? I’m adding to the discussion. Sometimes I may question if a pp is being deliberately stupid… is that a legitimate reason to be deleted? How thin skinned are we supposed to be to use this website? It’s becoming pointless even bothering to make a post. I made a genuine post about about how knife crime is a serious problem within major cities. Low & behold, it’s been deleted. I made some genuine points in the post, ones that could lead to a positive discussion. I’m starting to give up on MN, no other website is policed to this extent. I agree that hate crimes should be deleted. Of course. But I have done nothing of the sort.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:33

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:23

OP, (hand hold because you're getting a hard time on here) I understand you and I agree. This site is often like walking on egg shells on a minefield. It is a very hair trigger interventionist site. I am a member on many message boards and have been so over the years, and real bunfights are allowed and far more argy bargy than on here. The other sites I'm on the mods never ever intervene unless it's something illegal or racist or it's a personal threat. In fact, the dobber would be banned by the mods on other boards. Here though it is extremely interventionist. We're all adults here, no one should be reporting anything unless it's illegal or racist. This forum is like no other I've ever been on (and I've managed a few myself too), it can be really exhausting just phrasing a post. And I won't even start on the politically correct stuff about 'mental' etc (just roll my eyes in the back of my head).

It brings to mind the song 'the world seems difficult' by Mental As Anything. I wonder if they'll have to change their name now? (eyeroll)

Massive Attack had to change their name for a while.

Mental As Anything wasn't a phrase aimed at anyone through. I've been mentally ill for my entire life, medicated too (I know!). I'm mental as anything, crazy, bonkers, stupid in some ways and highly intelligent in others.

It's when you use those phrases to insult another person that things tend to go awry.
You can't call me mental, whether it be as anything or as nothing. You don't know me, therefore you would be insulting me.
Unless of course, you know better. You don't though.

If you're finding the forum (the entire?) is like walking on eggshells, then I suggest it's not for you. I hope your eyes get better.

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:32

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ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:28

LoafofSellotape · 23/05/2025 00:26

In my experience nice people don't call people mental and stupid and I'm sure you know that 😉

Nice people don’t call themselves nice either

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/05/2025 00:28

You keep saying you understand and you're sorry, then you double down and start justifying yourself again.

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WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:28

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:24

I thought you meant me then. I can be a vicious cow but I'm happy to admit when I'm talking to myself on a zombie thread (old people's AI)

However...! Yes, that was some link from the depths of Google. Like wheeling your ignorant granny out.

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It was literally the first link on google. I won’t accept blame for that.

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WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:26

Ok, I get it. I was wrong. I totally accept that.
I will take this as a learning curve.
If MN think I’ve crossed the line then hopefully I will get a ban so I’m not second guessing myself.

It was genuinely a turn of phrase. Maybe not one used in every household in Ireland, but it was in mine. As I’m typing it, I’m hearing it in my head. But obviously it’s not read that way.

I do feel like I’ve been sentenced to a terrible crime I didn’t commit. I feel the online life is not for me. Which is a shame as I feel a lot of you guys are wonderful. But fucking hell, you go in hard.
Maybe it’s just your turn of phrase 😆😭

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LoafofSellotape · 23/05/2025 00:26

In my experience nice people don't call people mental and stupid and I'm sure you know that 😉

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:25

NattyTurtle59 · 23/05/2025 00:09

I've had posts deleted in the past also OP without having said anything particularly bad. Some posters are happy to dish out insults but run crying to MN admins when someone has had enough and gives it back. We are supposed to be adults - if someone takes offence at "are you stupid?" (and I've seen much worse, which is somehow okay) then they are - sorry - a snowflake.

I’ve actually read a few of your comments on other posts and not at all surprised by this, it’s probably got something to do from the all personal attacks you post, not that they’re a snowflake 👀

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:24

NattyTurtle59 · 23/05/2025 00:09

I've had posts deleted in the past also OP without having said anything particularly bad. Some posters are happy to dish out insults but run crying to MN admins when someone has had enough and gives it back. We are supposed to be adults - if someone takes offence at "are you stupid?" (and I've seen much worse, which is somehow okay) then they are - sorry - a snowflake.

Completely agree. On other forums, the mods would ban and boot those posters arses for being troublemakers.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:24

Boreded · 23/05/2025 00:17

And quoting something a decade old 🫣 - times have definitely changed since then

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I thought you meant me then. I can be a vicious cow but I'm happy to admit when I'm talking to myself on a zombie thread (old people's AI)

However...! Yes, that was some link from the depths of Google. Like wheeling your ignorant granny out.

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:23

OP, (hand hold because you're getting a hard time on here) I understand you and I agree. This site is often like walking on egg shells on a minefield. It is a very hair trigger interventionist site. I am a member on many message boards and have been so over the years, and real bunfights are allowed and far more argy bargy than on here. The other sites I'm on the mods never ever intervene unless it's something illegal or racist or it's a personal threat. In fact, the dobber would be banned by the mods on other boards. Here though it is extremely interventionist. We're all adults here, no one should be reporting anything unless it's illegal or racist. This forum is like no other I've ever been on (and I've managed a few myself too), it can be really exhausting just phrasing a post. And I won't even start on the politically correct stuff about 'mental' etc (just roll my eyes in the back of my head).

It brings to mind the song 'the world seems difficult' by Mental As Anything. I wonder if they'll have to change their name now? (eyeroll)

Boreded · 23/05/2025 00:17

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:09

That's a terrible argument in your defense.

Shovel anyone?

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And quoting something a decade old 🫣 - times have definitely changed since then

Arina22 · 23/05/2025 00:17

Personal insults are not allowd op

Are you stupid is a personal insult and should be deleted.

Youre meant to attack the post, not the poster. So you could write "i disagree with the post'

Boreded · 23/05/2025 00:16

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 22:09

But that’s exactly what I mean by that? Would it be more polite to simply ask if they don’t understand?

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Now who is being stupid

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/05/2025 00:10

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 22:27

It was 2 posts on one thread.

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And one on this one.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:10

ButteredRadish · 23/05/2025 00:00

You’re not usually told if a post you made is deleted

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Until you get properly told 🤣

NattyTurtle59 · 23/05/2025 00:09

I've had posts deleted in the past also OP without having said anything particularly bad. Some posters are happy to dish out insults but run crying to MN admins when someone has had enough and gives it back. We are supposed to be adults - if someone takes offence at "are you stupid?" (and I've seen much worse, which is somehow okay) then they are - sorry - a snowflake.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:09

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 23:22

If you say 'you're mental', 'you're off your head' - it's fine if they're just being a bit crazy. "Like if you say the ref is blind, he should've seen the ball, There's nothing wrong with that but if you go up to a mentally ill person and call them mental then that's mean-spirited."26 Sept 2013

https://www.bbc.co.uk

From the bbc website

That's a terrible argument in your defense.

Shovel anyone?

SemperIdem · 23/05/2025 00:06

@WellingtonBootilicious

I’m sure you’re a nice person, I think here it’s just a case of reflecting on the tone of your posts and how they read. Words matter.

If MN HQ were of a mind to ban you, they would do so.

murasaki · 23/05/2025 00:06

I don't have a problem with the hobby bit. Calling someone mental is completely unacceptable though.

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WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:03

SemperIdem · 22/05/2025 23:45

Quietly reflect on it, rather than post a thread about how fed up you are?

I did exactly that, hence realising that actually I maybe wasn’t being very helpful when posting on some threads and that was why my posts were deleted, because I was stressed at the time.

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Yes I agree that’s probably what I should’ve done.
I’ve had an emotional week and reacted in a way I wouldn’t have usually.

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WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:01

GarlicPile · 22/05/2025 23:47

Amateur! And you're here moaning that you're fed up of your posts being deleted. Two posts. In ten years 😂 You seem to have somewhat hyperbolic tendencies, OP, and to be a tad sensitive (ironically).

Meanwhile, some people are terribly fragile. I've had posts deleted for saying "Don't be silly". Not often, but it's happened. You can appeal, but it hardly seems worth the effort.

Btw, somebody failing to understand your point doesn't mean they're stupid. It means you didn't explain it well enough. I'm sure you get that, as you aren't stupid ... are you??!

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Perhaps i’ve had more than that over the years and name changes.. I don’t know, I’ve never kept track. But I’ve honestly never been the type to post inflammatory things. I don’t set out to offend or aggravate posters. At least I think I haven’t.

Clearly I’m wrong.

This post has really upset me tbh. I’m not a nasty person. There may have been a few instances where I’ve posted reactively. Maybe after a few glasses of wine. But I’ve never wanted to cause harm or set out to be a troll.

That’s not who I am. If MN think I am then I hope they ban me. Because I feel awful now.

I honestly thought my deleted posts deserved to stand. I may have been a bit flippant in my language but the points I made were valid.

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ButteredRadish · 23/05/2025 00:00

Barrenfieldoffucks · 22/05/2025 21:39

Honestly, in nearly 15 years I don't think I've ever had a post deleted, and I've been a part of many a heated discussion. To have this happening repeatedly makes it sounds very much like a you problem.

You’re not usually told if a post you made is deleted

TheBig50 · 22/05/2025 23:49

TheBig50 · 22/05/2025 23:42

@WellingtonBootilicious

It all depends on reporting.

There is so much worse that is said and slips by. Unfortunately it only takes that one person to report your post - or indeed posts if they have it in for you.

I got my first warning for DFOD - I'd only ever seen it on these boards so assumed okay.

It's the merry button pushers. It makes a mockery really as most reported posts will be by someone with a gripe.

I didn't read the whole thread...

I'm surprised you're still allowed to post... Blimey.

I'm going to shut up now.

GarlicPile · 22/05/2025 23:47

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 23:17

I’ve had 2 posts deleted in 10 years. All today as far as I know.

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Amateur! And you're here moaning that you're fed up of your posts being deleted. Two posts. In ten years 😂 You seem to have somewhat hyperbolic tendencies, OP, and to be a tad sensitive (ironically).

Meanwhile, some people are terribly fragile. I've had posts deleted for saying "Don't be silly". Not often, but it's happened. You can appeal, but it hardly seems worth the effort.

Btw, somebody failing to understand your point doesn't mean they're stupid. It means you didn't explain it well enough. I'm sure you get that, as you aren't stupid ... are you??!