Laugh reaction

This is making you sound paranoid now.

Are you seriously suggesting there are gangs of friends on MN, who message each other to tell them to laugh at a post, even though no-one can see the response except the person that posted it ?

There has been a thread disliking the laugh emoji a little while back and so you're definitely not the only one OP.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/5234727-get-rid-of-the-laugh-reaction

I think a shocked face or a no / shaking head face would be useful. Then people can show disagreement without mocking.

"someone came onto a thread and started getting stuck into a poster because of some reply/ comments she perceived as an attack on some one else on the thread. And she actually said that the poster she had leapt to the defence of had been supportive of her some time back when she was going through a bad time and since then they had been friends and kept in touch with each other."

Is this the crux of your argument OP? You were on a thread once and poster X revealed they were friends with poster Y off board.

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How does this translate to the laugh reaction button being used inappropriately across the boards?

It would appear to be being used to try and drive posters off threads. And the impression I get is that it's actually often certain posters ganging up together to try and silence people who don't agree with them.

How have you jumped to this conclusion, when no-one can see the responses except the person who made the post that is being responded to ?

OP - how do you know that people are ganging up and posting laugh emoji reactions all over Mumsnet inappropriately? I genuinely don't understand as I thought they weren't visible to anyone but the individual poster?

If you have noticed certain posters doing this systematically and repeatedly to you in a bullying way, then you can report them to HQ. I don't understand this thread at all.

I hardly ever get any reactions, I feel I must be exceptionally dull .

Yes, this completely. You never know how vulnerable somebody may be.

It's a bit like when an OP writes something like "I've just found out that my husband has been having an affair for 5 years. We have three children under 8 and I'm pregnant. I confronted him and he told me to pack my bags and leave. The house is in his name only and I've nowhere for us to go. I'm absolutely in peaces" - then some 100% weapons-grade nob comes straight on to point out the word error, as though that's the most/only important thing.

Except it's even worse, because at least if they post a nasty, boorish response on the thread, at least others can see it too and tear into them reciprocably to defend OP and help her to see that she very much isn't the unreasonable one.

It's very easy to say don't let it affect your day - but when you're really upset about something and you're looking for help and support at a very vulnerable point in your life then the last thing you need is someone reacting to your post with a laughter emoji that no-one else but you can see. It was suggested on a previous thread that the obvious thing to do would be to remove the function from certain threads, but MN didn't want to do that.

I think we'll just have to disagree.

People are free to conduct themselves in their interactions with others however they wish - and they may just be having a bad day, or that might just be how they always are and it makes them very happy; but I personally think that the online equivalent of wordlessly sneering in somebody's face, like a school bully, is neither a kind nor mature thing to do.

I like this post

I know. But you can't let it get to you.

I am no angel. I know I have been a cow from time to time on here and have, rightly, been told to wind my fucking neck in.

All I can say is it's not worth your time getting upset with strangers over this shit. They pressed a laugh emoji. Leave them to it. Don't let it affect your day.

No

I think your post was utterly OTT as seems to equate a private laughing emoji response to a post they deem ridiculous …. As akin to an intrinsic and profound and very grave moral failing

You think that everybody is either a generally kind, fair, considerate person or a murderer - with nobody whatsoever in between?

I agre it can be quite jarring to receive the laughing emoji on something painful.
People can be quite nasty on here. I try not to take it personally though and just pity them. They are the schoolyard bullies who haven’t grown up.

And you can even turn that off

I thought the op was about laughing emojis to posters comments?
i have just read and indeed the op refers to her own post to an op getting one

No, it’s being used by some posters to mock someone who’s already having a really rough time of it. No need for it. At least they could be called out for their dickish response in the days before the laughter emoji.

But no one else can see the reactions can they? I just get an email that I ignore.

We are talking about someone using the laugh emoji to make the point they think a poster’s post is daft?

and not… murder?

The nasty people's worst punishment comes with living with the person they've chosen to be.

How could you ever be truly happy when your emotions are consumed with hatred and bitterness?

At least the rest of us can experience an unpleasant moment and then move on; for those who are this way, they can't or won't ever escape it.

That's not the point, though.

Tbh, they probably clicked then moved on and never thought about it again. If you let it get to you then you are giving some random more head space than they've any right to have.

I know it's easier said than done but if you can, roll your eyes and forget about them.