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Thread Deleted ( Parts 1,2,3, and 4)

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AnneKipankitoo · 05/03/2025 11:18

I saw that thread 4 was deleted with the message
about breaking Mumsnet guidelines.
The 3 previous threads were deleted too.

Which guidelines were broken?

OP posts:
AnneKipankitoo · 05/03/2025 13:23

KellyMumsnet · 05/03/2025 13:09

Just another quick update to say we've updated the deletion messages on those threads now to give a bit more information. Apologies that that was overlooked when they were originally deleted.

The deletion messages have been changed @reallypromising

OP posts:
AnneKipankitoo · 05/03/2025 13:21

reallypromising · 05/03/2025 12:56

Actually the first one said this ...

I did not see that one. I looked at the messages for 3 and 4.
Still, I think letting it go to 4 full threads… but as someone said that is a lot of attention and footfall.

OP posts:
cait967 · 05/03/2025 13:21

Bumcake · 05/03/2025 13:18

I’m sorry it got zapped before the inevitable pregnancy reveal. Twins!

oh that was thread 5 for sure

RainingRoses · 05/03/2025 13:20

I don’t have a link to the threads. Why was it deleted?

It always is the ones that drag on for several threads…

NomorekittensSteve · 05/03/2025 13:18

Noooo that thread was my nighttime boredom read! 🤣

Bumcake · 05/03/2025 13:18

I’m sorry it got zapped before the inevitable pregnancy reveal. Twins!

anothermnuser123 · 05/03/2025 13:18

YourIcyReader · 05/03/2025 12:15

I’m surprised it lasted as long as it did, it was so obviously nonsense.

It was so clear, the way it constantly escalated and the OP kept saying but should I stay while the supposed behaviour escalated.

I reported it to MN and said it wasn't even hidden with how obviously fake it was but they clearly left it up for the clicks, which I even suggested in my report. It's clear they won't remove even an obviously fake thread if its driving traffic.

People asked why people care if its fake but some posters invested hours into giving advice, a couple in particular were very vocal on the threads and I felt bad they wasted so much time on what was clearly utter rubbish.

Gardendiary · 05/03/2025 13:17

Gymnopedie · 05/03/2025 12:23

I read some of the first thread and right at the beginning it sounded vaguely credible. It was getting less so by the end. But as soon as it went to a second thread I stopped bothering. It triggered my BS radar.

I read thread one and didn’t twig - it was really quite mundane - bloke plays football and is a dickhead, did it escalate from there?

5128gap · 05/03/2025 13:10

WilmaTitsDrop · 05/03/2025 13:00

At the risk of emphasising my duff-ness, can anyone tell me why someone would put so much time, effort and mental energy into running a post about an entirely fake scenario? I mean, I just can't even begin to fathom out what someone would achieve by doing this?

It could be anything from mental illness to loneliness 🤷‍♂️

It's been happening ever since chat forums were invented.

There are also subreddits set up for people to laugh at mumsnet. They like to play little games like seeing whether they'll be spotted as a troll, how outrageous they need to be before we twig, or as I suspect in this case, seeing if they can set a record for how many responses they can get.

Alwaysinamood · 05/03/2025 13:10

Argh disappointed in myself for getting so caught up in this!! I honestly thought it was real and she was genuinely naive

BeansOnToast41 · 05/03/2025 13:09

After all the talk of Thai massage parlours and happy endings, the fact the OP’s final post said she just wanted a “fairytale ending like in the movies” felt like the point where they just couldn’t keep a straight face anymore

KellyMumsnet · 05/03/2025 13:09

Just another quick update to say we've updated the deletion messages on those threads now to give a bit more information. Apologies that that was overlooked when they were originally deleted.

Salad666 · 05/03/2025 13:08

Honestly the more I read the more it sounded like a plot in Footballer's wives 😂

LBFseBrom · 05/03/2025 13:07

I didn't think it was a genuine thread so am not surprised and don't care that it's gone.

ThanksItHasPockets · 05/03/2025 13:05

Alwaysinamood · 05/03/2025 12:42

What’s a PBP? I was so invested in this and really hope the Op has the courage to leave him. Her last post sounded like she wasn’t going to and needed solid evidence, but there was so much evidence!

It wasn’t real.

DoYouReally · 05/03/2025 13:01

The first two threads seemed possible but unlikely.

By thrle third one onward, it was very obvious that it was complete rubbish.

I got a post deleted for saying "no one can be this stupid".

It's a very sad reflection on someone's life if fake threads if how they get their thrills.

oakleaffy · 05/03/2025 13:01

HolySchmokes · 05/03/2025 12:00

Yes - always interesting how it gets worse and worse. I read the OP of thread 2 and saw how much it had moved on from thread 1 and instantly closed it.

Agreed...Fast moving can well mean fiction- Especially sex based topics.

WilmaTitsDrop · 05/03/2025 13:00

Sebsaloysius · 05/03/2025 12:29

I always thought I was a pretty clued-up sort of middle-aged idiot. I'm clearly the exact opposite. I read all 4 threads and at no point did it occur to me that it wasn't genuine.

At the risk of emphasising my duff-ness, can anyone tell me why someone would put so much time, effort and mental energy into running a post about an entirely fake scenario? I mean, I just can't even begin to fathom out what someone would achieve by doing this?

I'm fairly new to MN in the grand scheme of things. I think I'm going back to Chat and Take a Break magazines!

At the risk of emphasising my duff-ness, can anyone tell me why someone would put so much time, effort and mental energy into running a post about an entirely fake scenario? I mean, I just can't even begin to fathom out what someone would achieve by doing this?

It could be anything from mental illness to loneliness 🤷‍♂️

It's been happening ever since chat forums were invented.

Bingbopboomboomboombopbam · 05/03/2025 12:59

To be fair whether it was true or not there wasn’t much more to add.

The OP was going in circles not actually addressing anything. If it’s true, she’ll just stay because she didn’t get a full on explicit movie so therefore she had no proof.

Lord help us.

CowTown · 05/03/2025 12:59

LennysRucksack · 05/03/2025 12:52

I only glanced at the very first post, eye-rolled and closed it as I personally felt OP was overreacting - granted I didn't read that closely, before anyone comes at me.

Saw things had escalated to 4 threads and thought...must be all bullshit. Wish I'd had a chance to read it all now, sounds like it was enthralling. A footballer, aye?

Yes, DH was the star player in his Sunday league. He bragged to his football friends about having anal sex with OP, sexually harassed a younger teammate’s sister so badly that he was banned from the pub where she worked, had a secret stash of Viagra, frequented strip clubs (and often went missing from the group on boys’ nights out), and went to massage parlours that only accept cryptocurrency. OP’s MIL backed her boy and told OP to look the other way. Am I missing anything?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/03/2025 12:58

Port1aCastis · 05/03/2025 12:54

Oliver's army years ago was all BS and so were the sad widow threads, but people fell for them. As for the threads in question today I read the first one thought what bollocks and didn't bother reading anymore.
Maybe the poster who wrote the threads is a) a wannabe author or b) just an attention seeker either way id say find something better to do love

I don't know about the oliver's army thread but sad widow was one that I knew from another chatboard, way back and she was a genuine (but overreaching) person who had this absolute determination to put herself in the saviour role.

I wish she would have been a troll but she wasn't.

Noodlehen · 05/03/2025 12:57

StumbleInTheDebris · 05/03/2025 11:43

Sounds like Arsenal couldn't risk reputational harm of their star player!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

reallypromising · 05/03/2025 12:56

Actually the first one said this ...

Thread Deleted ( Parts 1,2,3, and 4)
Port1aCastis · 05/03/2025 12:54

Oliver's army years ago was all BS and so were the sad widow threads, but people fell for them. As for the threads in question today I read the first one thought what bollocks and didn't bother reading anymore.
Maybe the poster who wrote the threads is a) a wannabe author or b) just an attention seeker either way id say find something better to do love

SerafinasGoose · 05/03/2025 12:54

WearyAuldWumman · 05/03/2025 12:47

Oh...I feel like such a fool.

Don't. The fools are the ones posting amateur creative writing exercises for shits and giggles.

I'll still respond if I think the thread is generating an interesting discussion despite its OP being a figment of someone's lively imagination.

Real 'trolling' is something I understand to be far more sinister than just making up silly stories. It seems on MN its meaning has become diluted somehow. But trolling, in the real, old-fashioned sense of that word is corroding this site far more than the fantasists, IMO.