Another thread on 'active' being destroyed

I was just reading that thread and thought it was horrendous.
But... if it's removed from active, will it be seen enough to get responses? I guess it depends on how people use the site, but personally I only use the 'active' button, i don't go into individual forums.

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There’s a special type of absolute loser who gets off on kicking people when they’re down, and mumsnet is full of them. Embarrasing people.

I think the issue with some posters going out of there way to attack the OP is an issue with more active topics too, but very much agree that threads in sensitive topics should not automatically go into active posts. It really does invite in the nasties.

They need to learn to use the moderation tools that are built into the software to prevent banned posters from simply making new accounts

tbf they do do this

I think people forget that it’s real humans who are also on the internet and so speak without care not necessarily with active ill will but throwaway. Comments like it’s a tabloid or just gossipy stuff. I’ve read that thread and I was about to start jumping in defence of the Mum but decided against escalating stuff. It’s also possible that the algorithm put it out there for traffic? I dunno just guessing but that’s the kind of topic that gets people involved.

What needs to happen is that moderators need to permanently ban people that post vile shit like that. They need to learn to use the moderation tools that are built into the software to prevent banned posters from simply making new accounts. They need to be taught how to see where accounts first accessed Mumsnet from so they can see if the first access was a link from a gossip forum where people harass and attack others. Traffic originating from those sources is unlikely to ever be anything but a problem on a site like this. It is fine for women that are self-professed shut-ins that have never been in relationships to want to interact with other women here. It is not fine for them to tear into others regarding their relationships or children when they have no experience whatsoever of either of them.

But alas, I suspect that the owners of MN care only about ad revenue and will never bother to clean up the cesspit.

She is doing exactly what is right for her children - making sure they are attending extra curricular activities and that her money isn't being wasted. No idea why she was getting torn apart

Typical mn

No not at all, but a woman who is on police bail and has had her kids removed is probably the modern equivalent of passing a stock in medieval times and having a pail of rotten veg. People remember user names and peoples stories and I would say the first rule of mumsnet is don’t post on AIBU, I do agree trending is very harmful and should be more carefully curated…however I suspect the mumsnet algorithms are not neutral and like most of social media, certain content gets highlighted.

I completely agree. How hard must it be to be in such a vulnerable state and come on here hoping for a bit of kindness and advice and instead to get a real kicking.

Agreed - i saw it and the response was cruel and disproportionate

But surely that shouldn’t give people the right to be nasty bullies?

Agree. I flagged the same issue a few weeks ago on a thread from a DV victim who was ostensibly asking AIBU about whether a friendship was appropriate that her partner was complaining about. The worst part was people who hadn’t even read about the DV taking the query at face value and telling her to end the friendship, the worst message she needed - virtually all of whom changed tack once the context was flagged by other posters.

@saraclara the poster has also posted on AIBU. People read between the lines .

It's a huge 24hour site, there should be appropriate levels of moderation and oversight at all times.

The irony is that this thread is now in trending so probably sending more people to the other one.

I agree with you though.

Thanks for highlighting. Mumsnet is going downhill rapidly; I've lost count of the things I've reported recently. It's no longer a place of support. The press sniff around for stories; Mumsnet adds posts to emails and other social media; it's all about driving revenue through ads. I've never seen it this bad, and I've been here for a while.

@saraclara I do wholeheartedly agree with you ,trending has a really bad habit of highlighting threads that should remain with their smaller target audience…but sometimes( as in the one example you are picking up in your op) ,the op has more than one thread going on…if people have read the other thread( s) or older threads and have more of the story,or know the poster of old, it can bias them in one direction and make people more “ upset” or angry/ less tolerant than they should be.

Ask night watch to hide the thread,until MNHQ can review it in the morning.

Totally agree. There should be a place for sensitive threads which aren't available for the circus of nasty posters wanting to stick the boot in.

Yes I would never ask anything on this site anymore. There's lots of stuff I'd love advice about but I made the mistake of posting once(different user name) and well, never again. It was on the step-parenting board so you can guess how that went.