Do you feel the same as me?

I like Suedonim's party analogy too. But unlike a RL party I can wander around lurking if I want, or just leave when I've had enough, without offending anyone!

I love mumsnet. Yesterday I was feeling a bit low for various reasons. I came on here, and completely ignored the contentious threads - as is my wont. I read at least two, possibly three threads, which made me laugh out loud, and really cheered me up.
So thank you everyone

Sometimes I wonder if people on here think I'm really boring, because I don't post on the chat/joke threads. But I do read them, laugh at them, enjoy them, but very rarely feel witty enough to contribute to them. But then it doesn't matter what you think, does it? Because it's not RL. And anyway until I just mentioned it most of you probably never realised I never post anything even vaguely amusing!

I think the party analogy is a really good one. Like many parties I've been to, there are times when the atmoshhere is calm and civilised, and nothing much is happening out of the ordinary, other times when things are wilder, people feed off that humour and it the whole party atmosphere changes.

Just like any party, how you react to others and how you are perceived by others depends a lot on when you arrive and leave. I tend to post early in the morning and rarely get to chat live to any mumsnetters. All wine fueled evening chat threads have been put to sleep. I miss most of the day time chats as well as I can't post from work. I do add things to threads, but am simply not around when most of the 'live action' takes place. I imagine I am perceived as un chatty and unknown (except to some old timers). I would seem like a different person if I posted at a different time of the day. I could actually share online jokes with others on a regular basis (wistful sigh). People who post when the site is buzzing may seem more 'in' on things, simply because they are in the right place at the right time.

pmsl ptmd i agree too

On Mumsnet there are:

People I love/like and/or respect (75%)

People I have no view on at all (20%)

And, people I'm heartily glad are safely tucked in my computer and I can turn 'em off at a moments notice (5%)

Surely people can join into whatever threads they want, and ignore the others that annoy/don't interest them, or whatever..... I know that mn has been quite frantic over the last few days with the w&r/jf scandal breaking etc, but if people don't like what they are reading, just leave the thread (with or without a flounce!), and find another one. I didn't appreciate getting told I was "nasty" the other night for thinking aloud about whether jf/w&r was for real (and no, it was nothing to do with her personal life) on a thread that was discussing just that....
Same as rl really....

suedonim's post says it all and should be added to the MN philosophy.

hi lonely mum
to an extent i agree...i like to have a chat about stuf fother than being a mum but i have even commented to DH about how nasty this site can seem to be sometimes..i know people can rub each other up the wrong way and I have seen some of the more vile posts by people in an attempt to gain a reaction but at the end of the day it is acheived even more so because people will get sucked into the thread....i have spoken to some lovely people on here and regularly meet up with the liverpool mummies so for that i am very grateful to this site....but in another sense it is very hard to infiltrate the 'popular gang' on here which does remind me somewhat of the school playground...this post isnt meant to offend but it is just my opinion from watching recent events unfolding

hehehe Twiglett you're just 'normal' . Live's serious enough isn't it

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I haven't been here that long but I'm sure to a lot of you I seem like an oldie

it depends who you bump posts with in a way as to who knows you ... and who you know .. and how long it seems you've been posting

Lonelymum .. I certainly wouldn't put you on the periphery cos I see your posts quite a lot

And TBH if I want to start a piss-take thread when its all getting too heavy and people are setting themselves up as mumsnet police I will maybe I shouldn't have taken this particular thread personally .. but I did .. I feel I've been called naughty and cliquey and I don't think I'm either TBH

only been here since august 04, hope I'm ok?

3 1/2 years now but there are others who were here long before me.

I do that anyway, Tinker - at least I get the right answers then!! Weren't you one of the first as well?

Hsven't read all this thread but Lonelymum, i don't see you as 'on the periphery' i see you as quite a regular!

I think I was one of the early MNetters, Beetroot. Tbh, I can't even remember when I first started. Anyway, I must go and make that soup.

So does that mean sd just talked to herself all teh time at the beginning?

Re threads that diverge from the original subject - I know it can be annoying but that's what happens in real life, too. Maybe if someone thinks their thread has gone awol they could restart it including any relevant posts?

The oldest poster, Beetroot - I'm not quite the oldest, I don't think. Anyway, I'm off now to make some BEETROOT soup!!

norty

sorry ... couldn't resist as feeling a bit contradictory today due to severe PMT. I shall shut up now on this thread