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Board for high earners

309 replies

BellesAndGraces · 08/10/2024 19:53

I see that the other thread was started by an OP who wasn’t engaging in good faith. I certainly am so, Mumsnet, can we please have a separate board for high earners? It would be helpful for these threads to be in one place and to avoid them being high jacked by the inevitable “small violin” and “diamond shoes” comments.

OP posts:
Justgorgeous · 08/10/2024 21:38

Do you have to show your payslip to join ?

bombastix · 08/10/2024 21:37

In another world it used to be crass to talk about money. That is why. And it still is if you have a 100k plus income.

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:37

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:34

https://wbdirectors.co.uk/
A dedicated website for women in high-power positions etc.
Lots of networking events, social stuff, and opportunities to share experiences

Sorry, meant to post link as a stand-alone post.
What I meant was that vhnw individuals, or hnw ones, esp women, have many support and advice networks because they have had to.
These are not in the individuals workplace, rather external and a 'safe' place for discussion

MetalGearSystem · 08/10/2024 21:36

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:34

https://wbdirectors.co.uk/
A dedicated website for women in high-power positions etc.
Lots of networking events, social stuff, and opportunities to share experiences

but why should people be put off asking on here, just because a set of certain individuals choose to be disrespectful and bad mannered.

daisychain01 · 08/10/2024 21:35

Why the need for a whole board for High Earning women? Why not just a thread which can then be High Earning women (thread 2) when thread 1 is full up? if you really must

and why group the elite that way? What would you talk about?

I could (sort of) understand a thread for women in senior management positions. There are plenty of challenges we face, but it isn't focused on how many £££ get deposited into your bank account each month. That's crass, and I'd avoid any thread on that theme, on the basis I wouldn't want to show myself to be a right dick.

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:34

MetalGearSystem · 08/10/2024 21:32

Many individuals prefer not to disclose their financial information in the workplace for privacy reasons, as they may feel it could affect how they are perceived by colleagues or impact their professional relationships. In many work environments, finances are considered a sensitive topic, with discussions around personal earnings or financial status often seen as inappropriate or uncomfortable. By avoiding these conversations, employees can maintain a clear boundary between their personal and professional lives, fostering a more neutral and focused work environment.

Moreover, financial discussions in the workplace can create unintended power dynamics or tensions, especially if disparities in earnings become known. Such imbalances can disrupt team cohesion and lead to feelings of envy or competition. For these reasons, individuals often prefer to seek advice from other sources including mumsnet rather than relying on workplace conversations.

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https://wbdirectors.co.uk/
A dedicated website for women in high-power positions etc.
Lots of networking events, social stuff, and opportunities to share experiences

bombastix · 08/10/2024 21:34

ah the very loneliest people are those with means it seems.

seriously, get financial advice. I don’t believe anyone with a high income is beyond that.

LizzieLazzie · 08/10/2024 21:33

Is this a joke?!

MetalGearSystem · 08/10/2024 21:32

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:24

Tbh, I thought this was a joke thread.
I should have realised that on a site where people ask strangers for medical advice, or state how angry they are at a parent spending 'their inheritance ', or advice on the very obvious, that they would need to ask total strangers about being rich and what to do with the money.
I stupidly that they would have the wherewithall to have a network of similarly placed colleagues who would advise in a professional manner
Silly me

Many individuals prefer not to disclose their financial information in the workplace for privacy reasons, as they may feel it could affect how they are perceived by colleagues or impact their professional relationships. In many work environments, finances are considered a sensitive topic, with discussions around personal earnings or financial status often seen as inappropriate or uncomfortable. By avoiding these conversations, employees can maintain a clear boundary between their personal and professional lives, fostering a more neutral and focused work environment.

Moreover, financial discussions in the workplace can create unintended power dynamics or tensions, especially if disparities in earnings become known. Such imbalances can disrupt team cohesion and lead to feelings of envy or competition. For these reasons, individuals often prefer to seek advice from other sources including mumsnet rather than relying on workplace conversations.

AuntyBumBum · 08/10/2024 21:32

I don't think a separate board would work cos people would come on the threads and derail them.

But just like atheists barging onto the religious boards and trying to pick a fight, those posts would be intruding and outside the scope of the board so could be more easily moderated away.

And the paupers errrrr, other people could hardly say the posts were insensitive, which seems to be the main complaint currently.

FiveShelties · 08/10/2024 21:32

TimesArraChanging · 08/10/2024 21:29

I have enjoyed the witty comments though to be fair, THAT is Mumsnet at it's best and maybe what this site is better suited for

Yes, some excellent comments 😂

Chickadoo · 08/10/2024 21:31

What about the 'high earner but clearly unhappy, as feel compelled to spend my time posting stupid stuff on MN' club

TimesArraChanging · 08/10/2024 21:29

I have enjoyed the witty comments though to be fair, THAT is Mumsnet at it's best and maybe what this site is better suited for

bombastix · 08/10/2024 21:28

Well it’s silly but you knew that. Half the high income on MN end up admitting their husbands are the earner. No wonder the chat is all about “income”.

5128gap · 08/10/2024 21:27

What would you want to post about that isn't covered by existing boards? Because surely if its very complex and niche questions about large sums of money, you'd just pay for specialist advice? And if its to stop people laughing at you, then somehow I don't think coralling yourselves into a special area where people who might want to poke fun at you could easily find you is going to work out that well.

TimesArraChanging · 08/10/2024 21:27

I said this on another thread, I think forums for women are really great for support with lots of things but things like money seems to grate more. I don't think a separate board would work cos people would come on the threads and derail them. I'd say maybe stick with MSE or Reddit. It's a little unfortunate that we seem to need men to be able to have supportive conversations on topics like finances for higher earners. Or perhaps conversations like that are just not what Mumsnet is for. While I do agree people should watch their tone, no one needs to apologise for earning well just like no one needs apologise for earning less well or being on benefits.

WindsurfingDreams · 08/10/2024 21:26

theeyeofdoe · 08/10/2024 21:22

Difference there is that you actually earn the money, rather than it being something genetic

Genes (good health, intellect, the fortune of family ) play a pretty big part in wealth too.

I feel lucky every day that I had supportive parents, a mind that found learning easy and no serious health problems. Those aren't virtues, just good fortune.

I have a friend who can no longer work due to her genetic condition.

Mind boggling how many people can't accept the role good fortune plays in their success

JesusOnAYamaha · 08/10/2024 21:26

I stupidly that they would have the wherewithall to have a network of similarly placed colleagues who would advise in a professional manner

Indeed. Or at least a DIFA. (Dear Independent Financial Advisor. )

BringTheWine · 08/10/2024 21:25

It can also be full of appalling advice

It can, but mumsnet still provide a space for it. If women want to talk about finances here, regardless of income, I believe they should be able to, and be free from goady posters when doing it. I still think that if mumsnet moderated properly, there would be no need for the board. They need to deal with the 'tiny violin posters' to the higher earners and the 'why did you have 4 kids on a low wage' when someone is asking for genuine advice. Some posters treat every board like AIBU, they pick a side and try to annihilate.

TheGreenKnight · 08/10/2024 21:25

Yes please! We don’t want high earners having to mix with the riff-raff.

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:25

BeatrizBoniface · 08/10/2024 21:19

I eat it with a knife and fork. Silver, of course.

Phew! Slightly worried about you there

Superworm24 · 08/10/2024 21:24

Runnerinthenight · 08/10/2024 21:12

You've got HR for that surely??

HR are obviously limited to only employment issues. I use reddit for advice and other peoples experiences around investments and planning for our future.

OneRarelySeesABrazierTheseDays · 08/10/2024 21:24

Tbh, I thought this was a joke thread.
I should have realised that on a site where people ask strangers for medical advice, or state how angry they are at a parent spending 'their inheritance ', or advice on the very obvious, that they would need to ask total strangers about being rich and what to do with the money.
I stupidly that they would have the wherewithall to have a network of similarly placed colleagues who would advise in a professional manner
Silly me

Runnerinthenight · 08/10/2024 21:23

Sethera · 08/10/2024 21:19

Or, indeed, those who could be PhDs/D.Phils but couldn't be arsed to do research.

Yeah I always wanted to have a PhD, just was too lazy to do one!!

Can we have one for Masters but only if they're with distinction? LMAO!

theeyeofdoe · 08/10/2024 21:22

Babbadoobabbadock · 08/10/2024 20:01

Can we have one for those of us who are stunningly beautiful too ?

Difference there is that you actually earn the money, rather than it being something genetic

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