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Board for high earners

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BellesAndGraces · 08/10/2024 19:53

I see that the other thread was started by an OP who wasn’t engaging in good faith. I certainly am so, Mumsnet, can we please have a separate board for high earners? It would be helpful for these threads to be in one place and to avoid them being high jacked by the inevitable “small violin” and “diamond shoes” comments.

OP posts:
DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 08/10/2024 22:43

LuluBlakey1 · 08/10/2024 22:23

lol 🙄

'This us why we can't have nice things' My 8 year old said that, just as patronisingly, to her 5 year old brother tonight.

Well, yes. That’s the joke. It’s a tired cliche said ironically.

thaegumathteth · 08/10/2024 22:43

PronounsBaby · 08/10/2024 20:11

Id like a board for ugly, poor, dickheads please

Come live with me if you want, it's all brought to life

maverickfox · 08/10/2024 22:43

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 08/10/2024 22:13

Well on the rest of the boards, if anyone dares to mention a higher income they are bullied of the thread (see 50% of the replies in here as examples).

So it would be to discuss anything and everything that might cause income-related-sensitivity if discussed elsewhere.

There are a lot of posters assuming it would be to ask for financial advice. I don’t think anyone requesting it has suggested that.

The original thread was to ask for financial advice so that is where that came from.

The whole point of MN is that anyone and everyone can contribute to a thread so I’m not sure how you would stop anyone and everyone posting on a high income thread.

The whole idea is unbelievably crass.

AuntyBumBum · 08/10/2024 22:40

NunyaBeeswax · 08/10/2024 22:28

If MN were like real life:

Imagine a country pub called Mumsnet Arms. The pub is full of all kinds of people, all chatting and nattering together. Some laughing over something idiotic, some seriously discussing their current relationship, some crying.

Someone walks in and asks for advice about a topic whilst making sure everyone knows how much cash they earn and how much tax they avoid by paying in £££ to their pension pot.

A lot of the people in the pub ignore them and chat amongst themselves.

Some in the pub listen and give advice.

But a good majority of the pub can barely afford a pint of beer. Can barely afford to pay their gas bill. Can barely afford to light their homes.
These people have been told repeatedly they shouldn't have had kids. Or they should have made better choices.

So the wealthy person asks a question whilst highlighting their income and pension input.
The poorer people living on less than the wealthy pay to their pension a month take the piss out of the wealthier people..

The wealthier people then complain the poor have dared speak up..

And then the rest of the pub realise how idiotic it is to be complaining about money issues when you save thousands and pay thousands into a pension whilst millions of others are starving and can barely afford to exist.

And then the bar man calls time and the poorer folks go and sit outside in the cold, whilst the richer folks go home to light, warmth and good food.. on the way home, the wealthy folks complain to each other that the poor get too much.. and that they shouldn't have kids or tvs or mobile phones or winter fuel help..

This is an excellent analogy! Except that what @BellesAndGraces is suggesting is that the high earners should have a table in the corner of the back bar where they can go and talk quietly among themselves if they know the topic might be triggering without anyone else needing to throw a drunken tantrum and start a brawl.

Runnerinthenight · 08/10/2024 22:38

oakleaffy · 08/10/2024 22:33

A skilled Tradesman who does beautiful joinery and timber framing-?
Sorry, quite beyond the pale.

Ironically some tradies are probably high earners! Would they be allowed to join in this exclusive board?!

Calling · 08/10/2024 22:38

BeatrizBoniface · 08/10/2024 20:14

I would say a PhD only from Oxbridge.
I met someone once with a PhD from Birmingham! Can you imagine?!

A PhD? It is a DPhil in Oxford! Shocking!

MetalGearSystem · 08/10/2024 22:38

Tangfastic71 · 08/10/2024 22:29

Why don’t we celebrate high earning women? What if we could learn from them?
It reminds me of being at school (comp), doing well in an exam, and everyone piling on about me being a girly swat.
Fuck sake.
Men earn more than us (fact). What we are missing out on here by goading and piss taking is that some women have cracked the code. They are probably somewhat isolated by it…can’t talk to anyone about it because it’s seen as boastful, but might actually want to help others and be helped by others.
The ones who go on about VAT on private education though, they can fuck right off. You want a good education for your kids…either fight for a good state system or suck it up

excatly, i mean people are there to aspire to people like alan sugar, richard branson etc so why not have high earning business women too to aspire too.

MetalGearSystem · 08/10/2024 22:36

NunyaBeeswax · 08/10/2024 22:28

If MN were like real life:

Imagine a country pub called Mumsnet Arms. The pub is full of all kinds of people, all chatting and nattering together. Some laughing over something idiotic, some seriously discussing their current relationship, some crying.

Someone walks in and asks for advice about a topic whilst making sure everyone knows how much cash they earn and how much tax they avoid by paying in £££ to their pension pot.

A lot of the people in the pub ignore them and chat amongst themselves.

Some in the pub listen and give advice.

But a good majority of the pub can barely afford a pint of beer. Can barely afford to pay their gas bill. Can barely afford to light their homes.
These people have been told repeatedly they shouldn't have had kids. Or they should have made better choices.

So the wealthy person asks a question whilst highlighting their income and pension input.
The poorer people living on less than the wealthy pay to their pension a month take the piss out of the wealthier people..

The wealthier people then complain the poor have dared speak up..

And then the rest of the pub realise how idiotic it is to be complaining about money issues when you save thousands and pay thousands into a pension whilst millions of others are starving and can barely afford to exist.

And then the bar man calls time and the poorer folks go and sit outside in the cold, whilst the richer folks go home to light, warmth and good food.. on the way home, the wealthy folks complain to each other that the poor get too much.. and that they shouldn't have kids or tvs or mobile phones or winter fuel help..

on the flip side some of those poor think the rich should have their wealth taxed more etc and they are not allowed to be that rich and that the poor prefer a more communism style redistribution of the wealthy peoples wealth (not all but some)

oakleaffy · 08/10/2024 22:33

MurdoMunro · 08/10/2024 22:31

I don’t think it would work. I’ve heard there are quite a few oiks with 100k ‘salaries’ and they could just wander in with loose membership criteria like that. Could you imagine….trades?

A skilled Tradesman who does beautiful joinery and timber framing-?
Sorry, quite beyond the pale.

MurdoMunro · 08/10/2024 22:31

I don’t think it would work. I’ve heard there are quite a few oiks with 100k ‘salaries’ and they could just wander in with loose membership criteria like that. Could you imagine….trades?

Tangfastic71 · 08/10/2024 22:29

Why don’t we celebrate high earning women? What if we could learn from them?
It reminds me of being at school (comp), doing well in an exam, and everyone piling on about me being a girly swat.
Fuck sake.
Men earn more than us (fact). What we are missing out on here by goading and piss taking is that some women have cracked the code. They are probably somewhat isolated by it…can’t talk to anyone about it because it’s seen as boastful, but might actually want to help others and be helped by others.
The ones who go on about VAT on private education though, they can fuck right off. You want a good education for your kids…either fight for a good state system or suck it up

Frith2013 · 08/10/2024 22:29

Can we have board for "bored of high earners" ?

NunyaBeeswax · 08/10/2024 22:28

pizzaHeart · 08/10/2024 22:06

MN is like real life and in real life if you ask a question you may get variety of comments including sarcastic.
Sometime people are just trying to offer you a different perspective and it might be annoying but at the same time it might be helpful. Even if you go for a professional advice you might get a bit of this at least because people are not perfect, they have emotions, bad days, good days, and there is always possibility of misunderstanding.

By the way I’ve noticed that when OP’s post is calm and factual - most replies are calm and factual. Yes, not all of them but when we have this luxury in real life?

If MN were like real life:

Imagine a country pub called Mumsnet Arms. The pub is full of all kinds of people, all chatting and nattering together. Some laughing over something idiotic, some seriously discussing their current relationship, some crying.

Someone walks in and asks for advice about a topic whilst making sure everyone knows how much cash they earn and how much tax they avoid by paying in £££ to their pension pot.

A lot of the people in the pub ignore them and chat amongst themselves.

Some in the pub listen and give advice.

But a good majority of the pub can barely afford a pint of beer. Can barely afford to pay their gas bill. Can barely afford to light their homes.
These people have been told repeatedly they shouldn't have had kids. Or they should have made better choices.

So the wealthy person asks a question whilst highlighting their income and pension input.
The poorer people living on less than the wealthy pay to their pension a month take the piss out of the wealthier people..

The wealthier people then complain the poor have dared speak up..

And then the rest of the pub realise how idiotic it is to be complaining about money issues when you save thousands and pay thousands into a pension whilst millions of others are starving and can barely afford to exist.

And then the bar man calls time and the poorer folks go and sit outside in the cold, whilst the richer folks go home to light, warmth and good food.. on the way home, the wealthy folks complain to each other that the poor get too much.. and that they shouldn't have kids or tvs or mobile phones or winter fuel help..

oakleaffy · 08/10/2024 22:26

AuntyBumBum · 08/10/2024 21:59

It doesn't need to make sense. We've got more money.

I have considerably more money than you!

Make It Rain Money GIF by Tim and Eric
LuluBlakey1 · 08/10/2024 22:23

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 08/10/2024 20:17

I’ll expand on what I said on the last thread.

I think it’s a great idea in theory, but it will get trashed, as you can see from the comments already.

It would be great to have a place for WOMEN high-earners to advise each other on the specific issues that go along with that.

Unfortunately those discussions can’t be had on MN. Financial discussion for high earners can very sensibly be had on MSE, but not women-specific.

So we miss out. This is why we can’t have nice things!

lol 🙄

'This us why we can't have nice things' My 8 year old said that, just as patronisingly, to her 5 year old brother tonight.

itsmylife7 · 08/10/2024 22:19

mn at its best 😂

SabreIsMyFave · 08/10/2024 22:18

FilthyRich · 08/10/2024 22:11

I'm nowhere near 60! How dare you!

Oh no I wasn't saying that! I was saying you only get in the Special Mumsnet Club if you are 60 and still get IDd Grin

!

Bex268 · 08/10/2024 22:15

Reading this thread has been hilarious 🤣 I’ve loved it. Some very funny comments indeed.

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 08/10/2024 22:13

goodluckbinbin · 08/10/2024 21:51

To what end OP?? To discuss what exactly? Having more money than most people??? It makes no sense.

Well on the rest of the boards, if anyone dares to mention a higher income they are bullied of the thread (see 50% of the replies in here as examples).

So it would be to discuss anything and everything that might cause income-related-sensitivity if discussed elsewhere.

There are a lot of posters assuming it would be to ask for financial advice. I don’t think anyone requesting it has suggested that.

FilthyRich · 08/10/2024 22:11

I'm nowhere near 60! How dare you!

HansHolbein · 08/10/2024 22:10

Allthegoodnamesaregonegone · 08/10/2024 22:08

What are we defining as high earning? Is it household or an individual?

DH, of course!

SabreIsMyFave · 08/10/2024 22:09

FilthyRich · 08/10/2024 21:49

Am I eligible? I probably earn more than most, and have inherited wealth too.
I'm in every list of the most beautiful women in the world, and I've had no cosmetic work. I'm regularly asked for ID as I still only look18.

You only get into the club if you get IDd for booze and red bull and you're 60!

I have one tall child. Can I get in? Grin

My other one is a big shorter and more slight than athletic. She is a bit teeny tiny though, so that's double points right...?!

Me and DH earn less than £40K between us though. (Both part time.) Do I lose points now?

Allthegoodnamesaregonegone · 08/10/2024 22:08

What are we defining as high earning? Is it household or an individual?

pizzaHeart · 08/10/2024 22:06

MN is like real life and in real life if you ask a question you may get variety of comments including sarcastic.
Sometime people are just trying to offer you a different perspective and it might be annoying but at the same time it might be helpful. Even if you go for a professional advice you might get a bit of this at least because people are not perfect, they have emotions, bad days, good days, and there is always possibility of misunderstanding.

By the way I’ve noticed that when OP’s post is calm and factual - most replies are calm and factual. Yes, not all of them but when we have this luxury in real life?

FilthyRich · 08/10/2024 22:04

To those of you only scraping into the UHNW bracket, I am considerably richer than you.