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The thread about jay slater

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vacay · 21/06/2024 21:01

Can you please pull the thread ? It's turning into Nicola bully all over again. Alot of people are being sincere but there are some absolutely awful comments and I am shocked it is still standing.
Some people are really getting kicks out of this horrible situation, this lad has a family.
Armchair detectives, trolls etc it really needs to go Mumsnet.

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vacay · 23/06/2024 11:04

You know what, I don't have an issue with people discussing this, people are going to want to talk about it, it's all over the news, I get that. But for fuck sake show some respect for the family. Some of the usernames were disgusting, some of the comments were unbelievably cruel. This is somebody's son, he's a kid who was involved with the wrong crowd by the looks of things, but that shouldn't mean people can wish him dead etc. We've all done stupid things when young, apparently not some of the more naive mumsnetters it seems but the majority of people have made mistakes. We shouldn't be judged forever by that. This lad is most likely dead. And some people think it's funny.
So by all means, discuss away, but I'll repeat, show some respect.

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LakeTiticaca · 23/06/2024 10:59

*and it will get worse if/when Saint Kier claims his crown
Be careful what you wish for........

LakeTiticaca · 23/06/2024 10:58

SherrieElmer · 21/06/2024 23:59

There is something called freedom of speech. Just because you don't like something said by another person that means you should call for banning them.

I haven't read the thread but I don't like the concept of thought police.

Unfortunately freedom of speech, the bedrock of democracy is rapidly diminishing in the western world

JSMill · 23/06/2024 09:17

Abouttimeforanamechange · 22/06/2024 15:55

Can we assume the site no longer has a spirit?

I think the spirit of the site departed, weeping, when HQ allowed all those threads about the Princess of Wales to stand.

Totally agree.

Theimpossiblegirl · 23/06/2024 08:35

It's a moral difference.
Discussion is one thing, speculation, judgemental comments and mocking are a whole other level.

ArcticDonkey · 23/06/2024 02:06

You're glad that posters won't be silenced, whilst trying to silence posters. Ok

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 22/06/2024 16:56

vacay · 21/06/2024 23:03

Which has finally got the thread deleted, as was the main purpose of this thread.

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Thank you for getting it done, that thread was awful. MNHQ said (hours ago) that they were going to keep an eye on it but vile threads never improve.

I'm glad that posters won't be silenced about them either.

itsgettingweird · 22/06/2024 16:22

There were some obviously awful comments and it was mainly one poster deleted from what I saw.

But nothing I read there from posters you don't agree with is any different from what I've heard being discussed in streets etc.

Even this morning whilst in bathroom an older teen was telling a friend, mentioning the go find me and describing the situation as "dodgy as fuck".

I mostly commented on the thread about Tenerife its self as I lived there for many many years.

Abouttimeforanamechange · 22/06/2024 15:55

Can we assume the site no longer has a spirit?

I think the spirit of the site departed, weeping, when HQ allowed all those threads about the Princess of Wales to stand.

Piggywaspushed · 22/06/2024 15:50

No idea shell. I'd like to think at least under that name.

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 15:47

Piggywaspushed · 22/06/2024 15:42

I found the larking about changing user names really distasteful.

I imagine the culprits were banned?

Piggywaspushed · 22/06/2024 15:42

I found the larking about changing user names really distasteful.

AstonMartha · 22/06/2024 15:26

There’s multiple posts in recent months that would have got banned in the past due to ‘not being in the spirit of mumsnet’ which let’s be honest are actually plain bullying and hate speech. I don’t know if it’s reflective of society as a whole or if mumsnet is attracting less desirable types but it is disturbing.

OperationDinnerout · 22/06/2024 15:16

Funkyfizz · 22/06/2024 15:10

I think the spirit of MN has long been ditched.

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people can have different interpretations of the meaning of the spirit, it would help if we had a more detailed rules and spirit of the site.

Funkyfizz · 22/06/2024 15:10

RafaistheKingofClay · 22/06/2024 15:04

I wonder what happened to not in the spirit of the site?

Can we assume the site no longer has a spirit?

I think the spirit of MN has long been ditched.

RafaistheKingofClay · 22/06/2024 15:04

I wonder what happened to not in the spirit of the site?

Can we assume the site no longer has a spirit?

DelilahRay · 22/06/2024 13:48

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Ifoundyourglasses · 22/06/2024 12:30

@DelilahRay Go away. People like you are just unreal. Get a life.

Ifoundyourglasses · 22/06/2024 12:29

You need to remove the other threads. It’s really awful leaving them unmoderated. The speculation is vile.

DontBiteTheCat · 22/06/2024 12:26

I actually started the thread that was pulled, I posted when Jay first went missing with an article and a photo. The thread took a disgusting turn and yes, should have been deleted much earlier.

I have reported the two other threads also and been told they’re fine as it’s being discussed on other social media sites! People from the first thread have just jumped over to the others and are making the same comments, the “pushing up daisies” comment was particularly vile and I reported the thread then.

It doesn’t make sense that the others are being allowed to stand?

ChockysChimichanga · 22/06/2024 12:21

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 12:02

@LilyMumsnet why are another two threads now being allowed on here, after you pulled the previous one?

I reported it too and was told that it’s being discussed everywhere else and if it wasn’t to my taste I could just hide it.

I think that’s a pretty disgraceful reaction, frankly. It was widely acknowledged that frenzied internet speculation about Nicola Bulley hindered the case. Just because other sites are discussing it doesn’t mean that MN has to allow it too.

RafaistheKingofClay · 22/06/2024 12:04

OperationDinnerout · 21/06/2024 23:23

firstly i agree , people can be omg, that said on the flip side of the coin and part of democracy, how can we justify all the news papers covering it and the speculation in the papers ?

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You don’t justify it. The media shouldn’t be speculating. That sort of stuff just for clicks is the reason why we need leveson 2 and proper media regulation with actual teeth. Not just something the tabloid rags pay lips service to if they feel like it.

TheShellBeach · 22/06/2024 12:02

@LilyMumsnet why are another two threads now being allowed on here, after you pulled the previous one?

incessantpunditry · 22/06/2024 11:57

More threads. Why? Why are they not being deleted when we report them?

Enough is enough @MNHQ

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