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Has anyone noticed how bitter people are here lol

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 20:04

You ask a simple question and you get really weird responses, but I suppose that’s just the internet in general. I wonder if other people have noticed it. Also most things here involve people getting cheated on which I personally don’t like to read about (I know nobody asked lol)
bonus points if you call me a snowflake 😉 I wish we had better camaraderie between women but I’m so disappointed by answers I’ve been getting. Irrelevant stuff just to be bitchy (feels like)

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HiveSentinelApis · 23/02/2024 23:22

I miss the bison and water serpents

BarbieDangerous · 23/02/2024 23:09

Womp womp!

PoliteTurtle · 23/02/2024 23:07

I self promoted some art on here (naughty me going against guidelines… I have since had it removed) and got unsolicited critique and for some reason business advice from it…. But I’ve learnt that’s what you open yourself up to on here… a lot of criticism

Spectre8 · 23/02/2024 23:06

I think alot of people are deeply unhappy with their own lives and by dragging others down it makes them feel better.

And god forbid if you have more money, assets and so on. According to many bitter comments we should all be living in poverty ...race to the bottom bs.

overgrowngrass · 23/02/2024 23:03

I posted earlier today about cutting costs from my wedding and had a number of replies insinuating I was some kind of instagram wannabe airhead living beyond my means who should elope or have her wedding in a town hall 😂

overgrowngrass · 23/02/2024 23:01

It’s got worse in recent years. I very rarely post anymore tbh as it sometimes feels mean just for the sake of it. For me it used to be a supportive place, now I wouldn’t post on a day I wasn’t feeling emotionally robust!

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 22:59

ichundich · 23/02/2024 22:55

I agree OP. In particular a lot of people are bitter about: kids in pubs, the middle class, private schools, men.

Yeah men bless them can’t live with them can’t live without them. Cost of living and all that, the rent is too damn high! Everything so expensive it really gets to me honestly. Not to mention the depression (urge to say lol rising)

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ichundich · 23/02/2024 22:55

I agree OP. In particular a lot of people are bitter about: kids in pubs, the middle class, private schools, men.

IloveAslan · 23/02/2024 22:51

idontlikealdi · 23/02/2024 22:50

Jealousy is the main think I notice.

I agree.

idontlikealdi · 23/02/2024 22:50

Jealousy is the main think I notice.

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 22:48

Pacifybull · 23/02/2024 22:42

It will go down better if you don’t write “lol” in any posts. It makes someone look a bit silly.

True and very interesting because the only reason I write silly nonsense like that is to come across as harmless. If I wrote things bluntly with no emojis and peppered lols, I’d feel rude. It’s so bad isn’t it. People pleasing. I think it lightens the tone. I know I’m not the only one. I need to grow out of it, especially if others are noticing.

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PoliteTurtle · 23/02/2024 22:47

Pacifybull · 23/02/2024 22:42

It will go down better if you don’t write “lol” in any posts. It makes someone look a bit silly.

There it is 🙄

Pacifybull · 23/02/2024 22:42

It will go down better if you don’t write “lol” in any posts. It makes someone look a bit silly.

Pixiesgirl · 23/02/2024 22:37

It was always argumentative here tbh, if your "face" didn't fit you would always invite a pile on. Tbf there used to be a lot more humour and generosity of spirit, but that was in the before times, before social media was entrenched. Once everyone had access via mobiles the Internet changed. It is what it is.

HiveSentinelApis · 23/02/2024 22:29

dont mention AI programs, seems odd that people can use there human mind, or link to other websites, or copy and retype information but when anyone uses Ai to help improve their responses or to add more context to their posts its omg.

yes i understand if its a direct copy and paste without reading it.

IloveAslan · 23/02/2024 22:26

You're not wrong OP. There are some very bitter people on MN and they can't seem to stop themselves from posting on threads and unleashing their bile on others.

PoliteTurtle · 23/02/2024 22:25

Yeah this website brings the worst out of some… I’ve found that and I’m a newbie too!

HiveSentinelApis · 23/02/2024 22:21

its certainly odd at times, what happened to respect and good debates etc

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/02/2024 22:17

There are various things you can do to tip the balance in terms of having a girl or a boy. It's so long since I've been pregnant I've forgotten, but timing sex according to your cycle is a thing, I do remember that much!

Posters are so rude, so dismissive and downright nasty. I would never post a thread to be picked over by the vultures.

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 22:09

gamerchick · 23/02/2024 22:05

You do need a bit of a thick skin to post on internet forums. We get one of these threads at least once a week. Usually from newbies.

We also have a lot of MRAs and other trolls. You have to learn to ignore blatant goading if you post a thread.

Totally agree, it’s a shock at first.
especially as someone who doesn’t know much about technology, has no social media etc, it’s nothing like real life 😂
I suppose you get used to it when you know what to expect 👍

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 22:07

Just got another one! You know when someone knows exactly what you mean and they act like they don’t?
Poking holes into everything you say to make you wrong.
for example ‘I have to hide vegetables in my sons minced meat so he eats them lol’
’why do you hide them that’s so dishonest also where is the proof that your son doesn’t like vegetables that’s a stereotype’ like come onnn! You know what I mean! I know you know! Stop being difficult.
turns out I’m having as bad a day as them so I know this is all very hypocritical. At least I can admit it.

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gamerchick · 23/02/2024 22:05

You do need a bit of a thick skin to post on internet forums. We get one of these threads at least once a week. Usually from newbies.

We also have a lot of MRAs and other trolls. You have to learn to ignore blatant goading if you post a thread.

Janetime · 23/02/2024 22:04

Zoobi · 23/02/2024 21:55

To me it's obvious. She means that they're having another baby, and if she gets pregnant there is a chance it will be a girl, which would be nice. If it's a boy that's fine too. Once the hypothetical boy is here they will be happy nonetheless. But would be nice if it was a girl as the first is a boy.

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I’m cringing so hard for you my toes curled. lol.

Ohhhthedrama · 23/02/2024 22:02

I love the site generally, but the other day, I accidentally posted on one of the feminism boards. Holy shit that is a hostile area. Do not post there if you are not a regular.

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Annymania · 23/02/2024 22:00

BIWI · 23/02/2024 21:56

But someone just disagreeing with you isn't being 'bitter'!

of course but it’s wasn’t disagreeing, it was ignoring my question to pick apart something else I wrote. It was just weird. I see it on other posts too. Someone says ‘I don’t like the name Harry’ (for example) and someone feels the need to write ‘then don’t call your child that 🤦‍♀️😴’ like just say nothing at all instead of something useless and just mean spirited for the sake of it.

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