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'Goady and abusive' posts

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multivac · 28/06/2023 17:12

I received an email from ' Mumsnet HQ' today warning me that several of my posts had had to be deleted recently because I was posting in an abusive and goady fashion. This is absolutely not true. The only post of mine recently that's been deleted was on a thread that was deleted, and it was not in itself abusive or goady. I'm assuming this was an automated send - but it was upsetting and a little worrying to receive. Could someone at MNHQ please explain what's going on, and perhaps apologise?

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Yarnysaura · 28/06/2023 23:00

It's been a very long time since you could call a cunt a cunt on here.

IncomingTraffic · 28/06/2023 22:56

You’re really not helping yourself with this thread OP. Maybe just don’t call other posters ‘counts’ and it’ll all work out.

or reply to MNHQ’s emails. They will discuss stuff with you.

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:54

Apricotflanday · 28/06/2023 22:52

It's a misogynist swearword. I'd use something more neutral.

Whereas as a feminist, I reclaim it. Both stances are valid.

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Apricotflanday · 28/06/2023 22:52

It's a misogynist swearword. I'd use something more neutral.

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:49

booktokbear · 28/06/2023 22:00

Yeah op, your case isn't standing up.

I saw your one on the Consultant post earlier, not great and did feel you were attacking op.

The other examples are worse imo.
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I was defending the op, ffs. I was challenging the person who suggested that, as a mere teacher, she shouldn't question consultants. Please don't rewrite history, especially now the thread has been deleted.

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:45

I reckon the 'bunch of cunts' comments was made last year some time, going from my posting history. And It was definitely referring to some bloody awful opinions. I'm clearly a massive danger to the finely balanced Mumsnet community!

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Terryer · 28/06/2023 22:34

I called someone a cunt once and got deleted. Fair enough. I think I'd Had Wine and was easily riled.

NadjaCravensworth1 · 28/06/2023 22:30

You are free to say whatever you want but Mumsnet is a company with guidelines who can decide what they want on their site. I'm sure there are other sites you can go on if you want to comment with zero restrictions.

Or maybe just don't call anyone a cunt.

pickledandpuzzled · 28/06/2023 22:27

multivac · 28/06/2023 22:24

But that's what you're doing, too. You're calling people that you've never met 'cunts', which is a profoundly unpleasant opinion about human beings you've never met.

Have you been on Mumsnet for long...?

But people are usually referring to third parties, not the people they are talking to.

It's one thing to say the random parked on the pavement is a count, quite another to address someone as one!

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:24

But that's what you're doing, too. You're calling people that you've never met 'cunts', which is a profoundly unpleasant opinion about human beings you've never met.

Have you been on Mumsnet for long...?

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MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 28/06/2023 22:23

To be fair I called someone a cunt once and MN deleted my account. I had to email them and ask for it back. (I did say "yes I'll get deleted for this, no I don't care", but I meant that comment not my whole account.)

I did apologise to MN for my manners and have made a point of ignoring the poster I said it to since. I'm also conscious of not letting someone upset me that much again, especially as I'd never say that IRL!

JayAlfredPrufrock · 28/06/2023 22:18

Apparently you can’t tell sometimes fuck off anymore.

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:17

Agreed. I wish the OP would….. stop embarassing themself*.

Herself. But I'm not remotely embarrassed, thanks.

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SidekickSylvia · 28/06/2023 22:17

multivac · 28/06/2023 22:10

That thread was full of posters expressing profoundly unpleasant opinions about human beings they had never met. Context. It's a thing.

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But that's what you're doing, too. You're calling people that you've never met 'cunts', which is a profoundly unpleasant opinion about human beings you've never met. And it's worse in a way, because the people you're calling names will actually see it.

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:15

Monsterjam · 28/06/2023 22:13

I’m not sure what you are trying to say to me here?

I'm sorry, I misread your post - thank you

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Monsterjam · 28/06/2023 22:13

I’m not sure what you are trying to say to me here?

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multivac · 28/06/2023 22:10

Monsterjam · 28/06/2023 21:57

Is anyone on this thread actually human- this doesn’t seem goady ( spell check really hates that word) or a personal attack tbf

That thread was full of posters expressing profoundly unpleasant opinions about human beings they had never met. Context. It's a thing.

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CuriouslyDifferent · 28/06/2023 22:06

similarminimer · 28/06/2023 21:28

Not sure this thread is doing you any favours. Hth

Agreed. I wish the OP would….. stop embarassing themself.

hattie43 · 28/06/2023 22:03

What you've said is vile OP I'm sure I wouldn't want you on any forum I ran either if you can't express yourself better than that .

TimeToMoveIt · 28/06/2023 22:03

I thought that ops thread was goady tbh

booktokbear · 28/06/2023 22:00

Yeah op, your case isn't standing up.

I saw your one on the Consultant post earlier, not great and did feel you were attacking op.

The other examples are worse imo.
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Monsterjam · 28/06/2023 21:57

Is anyone on this thread actually human- this doesn’t seem goady ( spell check really hates that word) or a personal attack tbf

LadyWiddiothethird · 28/06/2023 21:50

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InTheGardenShed · 28/06/2023 21:47

Op it's not as good here since the sensitive souls arrived

Years ago it was more robust and a lot funnier

Not s as by more, it's hun central

LochnessMonsieur · 28/06/2023 21:38

Yeah those posts are abusive unless someone said them first and you're returning fire with fire. In that case, they're still abusive but justified in my opinion. Otherwise, I'm surprised mnhq have let you stay and even written to you. They've suspended/banned people without warning for much MUCH less.