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AIBU threads

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emkana · 22/01/2008 19:45

Every time I start an AIBU thread (which I know I shouldn't really) there are always a number of people who come on and say "god how can you even worry about something so trivial" "how can you get upset about this"

The thing is, quite often I am not actually that upset or worked up about the issue, it's more a case of debating/canvassing opinions. So what I'm saying is AIBU to think that starting an AIBU thread shouldn't necessarily elicit these responses?

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gininteacups · 22/01/2008 20:10

emkana - I agree. Sometimes it seems as if people forget that just because it's online they still need to be reasonable and/pleasant/kind - I don't think friends in rl would snap back with such dismissive anwers imo. Don't all lynch me please.

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emkana · 22/01/2008 20:11

Enid, thank you. Genuine question: Would you still think this if you didn't know about my "background"? If I changed my name and posted all this, would you still see it that way?

I'm just wondering if my combination of being German (aren't they renowned for deep overanalyzing? ) and having worries in my life (ds and all that) make me sound unhinged when it would appear quite normal when posted by other people.

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Enid · 22/01/2008 20:12

no it would still sound unhinged

honstely dont worry about it

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emkana · 22/01/2008 20:13

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ItsNeverTooEarlyForPopcorn · 22/01/2008 20:17

You see Emkana, you can never tell what direction your thread will take once you've hit the "post message".

I like Hecates' idea. I think of chat threads as lighthearted & hoping to amuse others, rather than a place to rant. Although it's a good place to moan considering that the topic has a limited thread time.

Umlellala · 22/01/2008 20:19

Emkana, I know where you are coming from - why can't you share an opinion on something that you don't really care about THAT much but still have a bit of an opinion?

eg I can't honestly say I have lost sleep, but I would share in a AIBU to er... think it is rude not to say thank you to a busdriver. Cos I have an opinion. I wouldn't post on a AIBU to want the toilet seat down because I don't have an opinion either way...

Maybe I think too much too, but I'd say I worry about (worrryingly?) little. I do have an opinion on just about everything though

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emkana · 22/01/2008 20:23

Umlellala, you sound like my kind of gal

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