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ggglimpopo · 05/10/2007 16:17

As many of you know, I lost my two year daughter to sudden death in childhood, in January this year.

I had some wonderful emails from mumsnetters who had not made 'public' their experiences but came forward to help me whilst I was in the darkest of times.

I have been thinking about this and wondered if we could have a mumsnet 'office' held register - where we could register our experiences and should someone wish for specific help, they could be sent a list of email addresses from those willing to help.

It does not necessarily have to be life threatening topics - but could range from anything such as talipes to heart defects to losing a child.

It would not take away from the board, but I know that some of us have had (unfortunate is an inadequate word here) experiences that are out of the norm and perhaps could help others in their hours of need.

Not very well put but I am surrounded by children just in from school and have been wanting to suggest this for a while and have decided to do it now....

What do you all think?

OP posts:
jofeb04 · 07/10/2007 19:12

I'm more than willing to help:
SPD (including after birth)
PND
Trumatic Birth

ImBarryScott · 07/10/2007 15:58

lovely idea.

from a personal perspective, I've experienced the loss of my parents at a young age

I am also a mental health professional, so might be able to help re all sorts of MH issues, in particular hospital treatment/sectioning

And also benefits/housing issues.

hope this might be helpful [smiles]

SaintGeorge · 07/10/2007 15:36

Bumping this brilliant idea and adding my (meagre) contribution.

Iritis/uveitis - eye conditions
Relatives with breast cancer, mastectomy, radiation treatment
Loss of a parent
Burn victims
Severe depression / suicidal thoughts

Working knowledge of banking, infection control, public health

Flamesparrow · 06/10/2007 22:24
AitchyBabesHugz2AllUHunnis · 06/10/2007 20:06

it does, doesn't it flamey hunni? [leers]

curseofthemummylin · 06/10/2007 19:58

i would like to help too.I have lost a sibling ,had a brother with cancer and have a sister with bipolar.I am mum to two and have three dgc

filthymindedvixen · 06/10/2007 18:28

er, I can do child in hosptital with potentially fatal illness (meninigitis), dyslexia, breast feeding, lentil weaving while still wearing make-up and shaving legs, 're-fashioning ' of bits after shitty episiotomy, small-town journalism and general mental health/PND advice.
But there are Mnetters out there who have way more experience and expertise at all of these things. Think I'll stick to cheering you all on

Flamesparrow · 06/10/2007 15:52

Eeek Aitch - is that your scary halloween name?!?! It beats all the blood and clowns hands down!

arfishy · 06/10/2007 12:25

Excellent idea. I would be happy to contribute .

Marina · 06/10/2007 12:08

Thing is though, FMV, this is an idea where many skills and areas of knowledge could be offered - someone else remarked on this .
So, EG, languages, HTML editing, financial or HR expertise. Lots more examples I'm sure.
It's true this marvellous idea arises from living with the most searing of bereavements, but I don't think any poster should feel they have nothing to offer because they have not experienced some great sadness previously.

daisyandbabybootoo · 06/10/2007 12:05

What a fantastic idea, GGG

I can offer support on:

repeated 1st trimester miscarriages

AND/PND and living with a depressive illness.

coping with a relative with a terminal illness.

I'm also a structural engineer by profession so can answer any queries on those lines or at least point people in the right direction.

tortoiseSHELL · 06/10/2007 12:03

I think this is a lovely lovely idea. Can't really contribute much, but things I might be able to help with are
homebirths
breastfeeding problems, weight loss
eating disorders

AitchyBabesHugz2AllUHunnis · 06/10/2007 11:53

i can do ectopic pregnacies treated with metho and surgery. and i can smell a misdiagnosed EP on these boards... bloody doctors.

filthymindedvixen · 06/10/2007 11:49

you beautiful beautiful woman, GGG.

I only wish so many of you didn't have such experiences to contribute IFKWIM...

I am rather humbled by the fact I have nowt to offer.

littlelapintofbloodmwahaha · 06/10/2007 11:42

Bumping GGG's excellent idea

NAB3 · 06/10/2007 09:31

It is hard isn't it? Mine is only 2 and he had real struggles through the stress of losing his twin and a traumatic delivery, but after cranio osteopth treatment he is now a real cheeky little monkey and absolutely fine. Every where I look, though, there seems to be twins.

Christie · 05/10/2007 23:17

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 19:24

Christie

I have lost a twin too. My baby is now 2 but I think about his brother all the time.

Aero · 05/10/2007 19:18

Sorry ggg - was doing the teatime thing. My sister is quite well now, and pretty happy tbh, but it's always there, in the back of my mind and the minds of all those close to her that depression is likely to recur at times throughout her life. We are constantly on the lookout for early warning signs, which are easy to spot in hindsight, but like a lot of people who suffer with depression, she's very good at hiding things.

Anyway, I digress from the question. I do really think this is a good idea and it looks as if there are many mners willing to offer their experiences, so that's a good start. I'm sure MNHQ will come up with some genius plan to implement it and get it off the ground.

Christie · 05/10/2007 19:07

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 18:18

This is what makes MN so great. even if reading this thread brought tears to my eyes.

AuldAlliance · 05/10/2007 18:07

I can do translation (French/English, Engish/French), and can try to give info to people moving to non-Paris France (IYSWIM...!)
I've never posted about it here, but would also be happy to give moral support to mothers with reflux babies, after suffering in solitude.

dustystar · 05/10/2007 18:06

Oh are we supposed to say what we can do?

I have knowledge / experience of:

miscarriage
depression
alcohol/drug addicition
ASD/ADHD
Emotional/behaviour difficulties in children
Anger management (adults and children)
Special educational needs - statementing etc
Studying with the OU

Flamesparrow · 05/10/2007 18:04

I can offer antenatal depression (well experience of, I can't actually offer it, that would be very mean!)

FluffyMummy123 · 05/10/2007 17:59

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