Can we have clarification on venemous name calling in postings?

agree with edam

Are you using 'abuse' in the sense of abusive language or as in emotional/physical/sexual abuse? If the latter, that's wholly disproportionate.

The OP on that thread chose to come onto a parenting website and boast about having an affair with a married man. She was clearly trying to stir/showing off/both. An angry response was entirely predictable.

Yes edam, the ,but she asked for it...' line of defense is always effective following abuse.

I didn't see the deleted post and I don't approve of personal attacks. But if anyone ever asked for it...

Milf I was referring that specific post being an isolated incident.

pedant and proud

[trying to beat down temptation to open and read thread]

I agree with milf I think the name calling on that thread, which was not just one post, was deeply unpleasnt.

You can vehemently and passionately disagree with what she is doing and state that without calling some one a bitch, slag and whore.

You may feel that, but should find a better way of expressing your strong emotions without abusive names. That just reflects very badly on the poster imo.

Wow, this is interesting.

"People who bully are adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about them. The method of creating conflict is provocation which bullies delight in because they know they can always coerce at least one person to respond in a manner which can then be distorted and used to further flame and inflame people. And so it goes on. The bully then sits back and gains gratification from seeing others engage in destructive behaviour towards each other."

Thats from www.bullyonline.org/related/cyber.htm (tries out Tech's new system) - it's an article on cyberbullying. Seems to refer more to the OP of the cited thread, IMO.

Could we have a clarification on spelling errors in thread titles?

Hugs and kisses, Milf!

frakes

have not read thread in question but agree 100% with carmenere

Is fraeks ok though?

If she WAS trolling I have a horrible feeling it may have been to specifically stir up the raw emotions of the many currently using the relationships sections to try to support each other because their partners have cheated. Perhaps SHE is "the other woman" to someone, who knows.

can we not say 'freaks' [innocent]

And as I have said on here before bullying which is very serious imo occurs in situations that you have to be in like work or school not in optional parenting forums. If you are returning to mn after you 'feel' bullied well then you must ask yourself why.

Ummm.

Bullying is picking on someone who is clearly not up for the fight. This was not the case in that particular thread. I can see no other reason for her starting the thread than to be provocative. Anyone can hire a hotel room - you hardly need to ask MN. She had an agenda - I have no idea why - and certain people reacted to it angrily.

Semantics, perhaps - but it's not bullying.

Well said Carmenere! If people are really such delicate little flowers then they should go to Babyworld where you aren't even allowed to say "arse" by way of conversation, much less AT anyone! (And I kid you not! )

Look FGS MN is well known to be a nest of vipers, if you don't like it, leave. Easy.

I think you need to look up the definition of bullying Ginger.

I agree milf. I stood up for the OP, not because I agreed with her (which i do not) but because I was horrified at the level of personal insults and name calling that was going on by quite a few posters which I felt was bullying.

This thread is worse than being back at school tbh & very worrying!

Oh for heaven's sake milf! I think there should be a concensus about jumping on high horses and running off to start self righteous threads about isolated incidents! Especially when the post (single! solitary!) that you object to was only full of "venom" because the poster was clerl hurting imeasurably by a situation extremely related to what the OP had started the thread to boast about.