hide poster button, impersonally

I see GF as people that start threads about subjects that they know full well will cause a massive bunfight and that generally people on MN have strong opinions about. then they act all innocent.

There should be a bit after you type the OP before 'Post Message' that says 'Are you sure you want to post this?' and give you ten seconds to have a think.

But people get called gf for having opinions contrary to the mumsnet acceptable opinion and are shouted down if they refuse to change their mind or if they dare to restate what they think. Happens all the time on benefits threads or poorly behaved children threads or au pair threads etx.

wouldn't it be better if mn hq just dealt with the GF?
instead they derail threads. get called on it and then act the victim.
I don't have any one I want to hide, I just ignore them in my head now.

There are loads of posters who fly just under the radar. They are passive aggressive and know just how to post without getting deleted. I'd like to hide them, it would make MN a much nicer place

I'd like it- I doubt I'd use it all that much, but it would certainly be useful for the very annoying blood-pressure raisers who play the guidelines in there favour but add nothing useful. I could see me contributing more on Feminism threads, for example, if I didn't have to read the irritating drivel of some of the goaders.

I wouldn't want one.
It's silly and pandering imo, and can easily stray into 'mean girls' style bullying (by cliques freezing out certain posters they disagree with).
We're all adults, and perfectly able to ignore posters we don't like/agree with, without needing to have them hidden from our delicate view.

(I haven't read the thread btw, so nothing against any posters who do want one, just wanted to register my opinion if mnhq are seriously considering introducing one).

I really don't understand why adults can't just skip past a poster. If they're being a goady fucker think "goady fucker" and move on. If someone is dominating a thread, hide it, start a new one worded differently. Seriously if an online persona can cause raised blood pressure then you are possibly a touch over invested. In a rl conversation most people are perfectly capable of ignoring someone, why is it so tough here?

Ilovesooty, but not everyone accused of goadiness is posting like that. Yes, you could call that style goady but on other threads people can be accused of being goady for having a different opinion or for making a one-off smart ass comment amongst loads of others being thrown around on the thread. Some people get away with it and are often admired for 'telling it like it is' or whatever while others will get jumped on.

There are some posters whose entire contribution consists of attention seeking threads designed to push posters' buttons. Certain posters start several of these posts a day in AIBU, refuse to accept that they could possibly be BU and they then proceed to be abusive to others who disagree with them. They rarely contribute to other threads and bump their own threads if attention isn't maintained.

They name change after a few days and return to being a goady fucker. Perhaps bumbleymummy you'd like to comment on how a subjective assessment of their behaviour on the part of any reasonable poster would come to the conclusion that this was defensible posting behaviour?

It's quite difficult to monitor 'goady fuckerness'. One person's goady fucker is another person's favourite who gets patted on the back every time she 'goads'. It's subjective.

LikeICan

Thank you, Line, that's very kind.

LikeIcan - ha! That's really funny!

Sophie You were pretty spot on in what you were saying upthread, imho. Not a weirdo

Modestine Trolling, goading and sock-puppeting exist and are against Mumsnet Talk Guidelines. They cause distress to vulnerable posters, and I report them frequently. Much more frequently than I used to.

I was really confused when I first joined MN because I'd never heard of the term 'goady fucker' - & seeing it abbreviated to gf all over the place I thought people were talking about their girlfriends - thought I'd walked into a massive lesbian drama.

Not certain how to take, that, Line!

Though I do wonder sometimes if I'm the weirdo in any given dispute...

Modestine goady fucker is not just a term of abuse. They exist and so do trolls. I thought your last post was patronising too.

SophieHatters I think you may be right about some posters on here having some kind of personality disorder.

But unless everyone apart from the OP is being absolutely shitty, there will always be people on the thread supporting the OP, and just because you have hidden particular posts does not mean you won't be able to tell what people have been saying on the threads.

"I sometimes send a supportive PM to the OP rather than post on the thread and get a load of grief over it if I feel they are getting a harsh time."

Me too Sparkling. I think it's sad that people feel that they need to do this privately though.

"often they say something that needs correcting, such as making accusations that aren't true or saying you said something you didn't."

But if you hide them then you wouldn't be able to see it to correct them and their point would stand on the thread for others to read and perhaps think is true.

Wannabe, I wonder if it is because the person is there, and interjecting nasty stuff into reasonable discussion and it is difficult to ignore - also often they say something that needs correcting, such as making accusations that aren't true or saying you said something you didn't.

Very hard to ignore when someone is poking at you with a sharp stick. And you worry that others will believe them if you don't refute it.

Ok. Having RTFT I have changed my mind.

I would agree to a hide poster button, reason being it makes not one jot of difference to me and the way I use MN.

I find it interesting that there seems to be cases for both sides but MNHQ have refrained from joining the debate. I'd like to know where MNHQ stand on this.

I suppose you could skip past but there's always an element of 'Oh FFS what are they spouting about this time?' and reading it.

I hide a lot of threads. I can be enjoying a thread, and maybe even having a laugh then someone turns up and I just hide it straight away.

but why are people not already walking away from/ignoring the posts of people who wind them up? The choice not to ignore someone is ultimately still there, just because there isn't a button which enables you to do it doesn't mean you can't skip past posts you don't like or not respond to them.

Wanting a hide poster option ultimately says that people have no self restraint therefore they need mn to put something in place to do something which they can't personally bring themselves to do....

I sometimes send a supportive PM to the OP rather than post on the thread and get a load of grief over it if I feel they are getting a harsh time.