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More Goady Fuckers

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Fairenuff · 18/04/2015 17:59

Can we agree that if a poster starts a thread with a goady OP and doesn't return, they are a goady fucker. Can we also agree that if they haven't returned within the first three pages, they probably aren't going to.

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wannaBe · 18/05/2015 13:05

in fact I have reported threads recently where mn hq have responded that they agree it looks dodgy but with no evidence there's nothing they can do.

wannaBe · 18/05/2015 13:03

thing is, if people who suspected a thread of being started by a gf just didn't post on it then it would just disappear off of active and that would be the end of that. I do occasionally report threads which seem to have been started deliberatly to goad but on the whole ignorance is the best policy IMO.

It concerns me more that there seem to be more and more threads which are posted on the supportive boards i.e. relationships with thousands and thousands of supportive responses running into multiple threads which I am convinced are not genuine but which play on very emotive topics and therefore get a lot of support. I've reported some of those too, including one which has been ongoing over the past few weeks where op hasn't posted anywhere else but on their thread but it seems that it's a lot harder to establish someone as being a fake these days and so the threads are left to stand, and posters become incredibly, and imo unhealthily invested in someone's life story which probably doesn't even exist.

YonicScrewdriver · 18/05/2015 12:52

Love report don't retort...

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Fairenuff · 17/05/2015 21:47

Okay, I got my reply and tbh I am a bit shocked.

I reported a post which accused someone of trolling and this is what HQ said:

'...although she uses the word 'trolling' we don't think she actually means it in the sense of 'you are a troll and are not the person you claim to be' that we refer to when we say that we don't condone troll hunting. We are increasingly finding that people use the word 'troll' when really they just mean that they think someone is stirring the pot or being a little goady, which we don't encourage, but we wouldn't actually zap people for.'

So, if we think someone is 'stirring the pot' or 'being a little goady' we can accuse them of trolling Shock

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CycleChic · 17/05/2015 21:47

Well, quite Badgers. Didn't you realise that this website is for those of us without one of those? Grin

TendonQueen · 17/05/2015 21:44

Name changing is allowed. Sock puppeting isn't.

BadgersArse · 17/05/2015 21:41

if the thread annoys you just hide it

really, its that simple

BadgersArse · 17/05/2015 21:40

i once went to Tesco on the famous Norwich thread and got all sorts of grief for HAVING A LIFE

CycleChic · 17/05/2015 21:38

Wait, since when was sock puppetrnot allowed? I thought that was one of the founding principles of MN! Shock

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Fairenuff · 17/05/2015 21:30

I have. And you're not.

Still waiting for a reply to my email.

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TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 17/05/2015 18:08

@ilovesooty

And it continues...

Do report any goadyfuckery and we'll get on it like Bruno Mars UPTOWN Funk

ilovesooty · 17/05/2015 17:53

And it continues...

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Fairenuff · 25/04/2015 14:21

I haven't been around as much this week but I've taken to hiding threads where the OP doesn't bother to come back. Especially when they ask for advice and posters need to clarify things with them.

My TIO gets cluttered with abandoned threads otherwise.

It just seems so bad mannered, I really don't understand why they post in the first place Confused

Unless, of course, they actually are goady fuckers who just try to wind people up and get them to argue with each other Hmm

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ilovesooty · 25/04/2015 14:10

Plenty over the past couple of days again.

cozietoesie · 19/04/2015 11:49

I don't mind the odd GF thread either.

You have no real idea what or who you're dealing with on the internet - some people simply have extraordinary lives, some people tell what they think is the unvarnished truth (except it's always as they see it ), some people ham it up a little to make a better story, some people ham it up a lot - and some people plain invent everything.

I have no idea why they should do that last except that they clearly have some strong need for something but if you think you can contribute and answer honestly by your own lights then that is surely a good thing if others are reading and perhaps thinking about the issues raised?

I'm sometimes a little concerned that others might be investing heavily in a thread which to my own mind is not real but then I don't know whether they're really reading and thinking about the topic or whether eg any Flowers are rote only.

I think you can only report to MNHQ if something makes you edgy and then answer honestly and thoughtfully if you still want to engage with a poster or topic.

daffsandtulips · 19/04/2015 03:00

I personally don't mind what everyone seems to call a "goady fucker" or two. Most of the time a person probably comes here to genuinely ask a question that is a bit emotive, gets absolutely pelted and personally attacked, would you come back to a thread where that was happening. I wouldn't.

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IonaMumsnet · 18/04/2015 23:03

AHEM

Yeah, sometimes it's obvious when Goadyfuckery is afoot, but sometimes it's not, you know? We hate to sound like a stuck record but do report it and we can check.

With the one earlier on Grammar Schools for instance, as soon as it was reported we could see there was sockpuppetry going on and were able to dust off the big red button. But we'd hate everyone to be sending snarky messsages on a thread to an OP who is having some sort of life crisis (or her internet has gone up in a puff of smoke or something), and so hasn't returned to the thread for a bit, and then comes back, cries and leaves forever!

So, yeah. Report don't retort, people.

Here endeth the goadyfuckery lesson.

Coconutty · 18/04/2015 22:25

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Maryz · 18/04/2015 22:21

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Fairenuff · 18/04/2015 21:51

Thanks Mary

Actually I've designed a phrase to post if I think someone is being a goady fucker. It goes like this:

'OP are you going to engage with the posters on the thread at all? If not, why did you start it?'

Polite and to the point I think Grin

(If you see me posting that you will know what I'm thinking Wink)

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ilovesooty · 18/04/2015 21:39

Meaning the grammar school one. Iona made that quite clear.

ilovesooty · 18/04/2015 21:38

who makes that call?

HQ do, after you've reported.

The latest one was not only a GF but sock puppeting.

Maryz · 18/04/2015 21:18

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ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 18/04/2015 20:43

And what might be goady to you might be genuine to some poor poster.....who makes that call?

I kind of agree with this actually.

I was accused of being a goady fucker and a troll by lots of posters on a thread that I started once. It certainly wasn't my intention to be goady though, I was just feeling very vulnerable at the time and in a bad place emotionally. I think because of this I wasn't thinking straight and it honestly didn't occur to me that my thread might be taken that way.

Then again maybe I'm in the minority and most people are well aware of what they're doing.

ilovesooty · 18/04/2015 20:06

I put goady fucker but it appears that both the OP and the sock puppet are now banned.