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Mumsnet mafia ??!!!

256 replies

charlyp · 09/10/2006 16:28

Am a really new poster to Mumsnet having just found out I am pregnant for the first time EDD June 1st, have been surfing the site and making a few posts but have been very surprised by the amount of vitriol in some of the posts on certain subjects, and am amazed about people outing other people and everyone seems to know everyone elses business - more than you might expect on a forum? How does that work?? Is there like a bunch of people who all live in the same road or something? Just wondering as on most forums I post on there are lots of people sharing views but it rarely gets that personal inn terms of people getting to know other people off line. Made me wonder if there is a Mumsnet mafia in place!! Makes me alightly concerned about posting my thoughts and feelings about the things that are happening to me and about how my privacy will be respected.

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expatinscotland · 09/10/2006 16:32

I do not expect strangers to respect me at all, therefore it goes to follow I would not broadcast things on a public webspace that I'd not be comfortable shouting out in the street.

Munz · 09/10/2006 16:32

charley - I think tbh it's down to most ppl either going to the meet ups and knowing each other that way, or a lot of posters know each other thru sheer time posting that's all, no mafia or anything u just get to know posters after a while - bit like pen friends I suppose.

for example, those on my post natal thread IO talk to a lot and 'know' so chat to them on other threads.

Rhubarb · 09/10/2006 16:32

It's a good question charlyp but I don't think this is a problem exclusive to Mumsnet. You know those people that you meet and you tell them something about yourself? Then you hear that secret being repeated back to you? It's a lifelong problem huh? Those kinds of people are here on Mumsnet too and all you can do is to be wary.

To be honest, unless you are involved in some kind of scandal they aren't really interested! But don't let it put you off Mumsnet, there have been some very good example of the kindness of Mumsnet in recent months, there is a great pit of human kindness here and the spoilers are in the minority, so come on board and welcome!

expatinscotland · 09/10/2006 16:31

PARP!

This is a public forum, as are many sites on the www.

That being the case, it may be wise not to post things you wouldn't want broadcast on the www and expect total strangers to respect your privacy.

Harsh?

Yes, but that is the nature of the www.

lockets · 09/10/2006 16:31

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FioFio · 09/10/2006 16:30

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