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Average age of first-time mothers is now 30 - how old were you?

540 replies

KateMumsnet · 17/07/2014 10:57

Hello all

Research published yesterday shows that the average British woman is now having her first child at the age of 30 - and we wondered whether this matches MNers' own experiences. So do share your thoughts - are you bang on average, or under, or over? Does it matter - and would you make the same decision again, given the chance?

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kelda · 17/07/2014 17:22

I was 27, the same age as my mother and grandmother when they became mothers for the first time.

SomeSunnySunday · 17/07/2014 17:20

I was 30 (then 33, and now expecting DC3 at 36).

QisforQcumber · 17/07/2014 17:20
  1. Not planned but the single best thing that ever happened to me. He gave me focus, drive, determination and premature wrinkles . He is the apple of my eye and I wouldn't change a thing.
Dontforgetyourbrolly · 17/07/2014 17:16

38 ha ha . Thought he was early menopause !

Never wanted kids but my lovely surprise is a chubby 5 month old sitting on my lap :-)

jimijack · 17/07/2014 17:15

33

gamescompendium · 17/07/2014 17:14

One month before my 37th birthday (quickly followed by two others at 38 and 41). Our parents generation were very young when they had children, we're just becoming more traditional in waiting until our 30s and 40s (My grandmothers were 30 and 37 when they had my parents, my Mum was 24 when she had me). Apart from a couple of old school friends all my friends have had children in their 30s and 40s. I met up with friends last weekend and 3/4 of us had children born when we were in our 40s.

I wouldn't have wanted to have kids younger, I spent most of my 20s in education and needed to grow up and work a bit before we could consider kids. Plus, considering we spend £1K on childcare a month, I wouldn't fancy having to do that on the kind of salary you get in your 20s.

HilariousInHindsight · 17/07/2014 17:13

It was right for me.

PostHocErgoPropterHoc · 17/07/2014 17:05
  1. It felt like a fairly average age to have my first. I was part of a 'second wave' among my friends - a couple had had them earlier than us, most came later though. I was the youngest by a couple of years in my antenatal group, which I was surprised by.
OorWullie · 17/07/2014 17:03

20, not planned but don't regret a thing.

he's starting school after the summer and I'm going back to college.

findingherfeet · 17/07/2014 17:01

27 (married, degree done, in decent job, with mortgage etc...still later than I'd hoped!)

FelixFelix · 17/07/2014 16:44

23 (I'm 24 next month). She was a surprise and ideally I would have wanted to wait until late 20's but she's amazing and I'm so happy Grin

slightlyconfused85 · 17/07/2014 16:44

I was two weeks off 27

crazykat · 17/07/2014 16:43

I was 19 when I had our first, a surprise but I was in a good relationship. No regrets about being a young mum.

I'm 26 now and we're married with another three DCs and I'm getting my degree. I'm glad I didn't wait till 30 as then my mum wouldn't have met her grandchildren which I would have regretted.

I hate the assumption that young mum = stupid or doing it for benefits. I was always good at school which is why I'm working like mad to get my degree. I like being young enough to enjoy my DCs and when they're all grown I'll still be young enough to travel if I want.

Notso · 17/07/2014 16:34

First time with living baby at the end of it 19.

Hadmeathello · 17/07/2014 16:33

23 and wouldn't change a thing Smile

ChickenFajitaAndNachos · 17/07/2014 16:32

19 then I went to university. I had 3 DC and my degree by the time I was a 30 and now really enjoying my 40's. In fact just back from being taken to lunch by my 25 year old DS1.

Shoopshoop2 · 17/07/2014 16:29

32 and 34.

molesworth2 · 17/07/2014 16:28

23 and 25 - they're 6 and nearly 8 now. Absolutely no regrets - I have a degree and still completed the Bar Vocational Course whilst pregnant with the second. I like to think that barring accidents, we will have a footloose and fancy free middle age. After all, by the time my youngest is 18, I will only be 43... My partner's the same age as me and he was brilliant throughout - even taking control of the colander of doom with the birthing pool with our second! Still just as hands on now :)

ClockWatchingLady · 17/07/2014 16:25

StealthPolarBear, yes that sounds right for 2012. The stats this time (currently being reported) are for 2013. Oly4 linked to the 2013 stats above.

Was wondering whether the 30 number which all the papers are reporting is actually average for all births, not first time mums.

MrsZiegler · 17/07/2014 16:18

I was 25 (& had three more in the next ten years). DH & had had both graduated, been married for a couple of years, jobs established & had bought a house. We knew we'd like a biggish family & it turns out I had very complicated pregnancies - if we'd waited longer I doubt we'd have had more than two (or even one).

Lagoonablue · 17/07/2014 16:10

Actually 43. 42 when conceived though.

Lagoonablue · 17/07/2014 16:09

42

charleybarley · 17/07/2014 16:07

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Safyre · 17/07/2014 16:02

27 and I'm about to have number 2 at 29. Older than my friends and SiLs but DS took a while - wed been married 5 years before we had him.

pegster · 17/07/2014 15:56

34 for DC1, 36 for DC2. I probably would have started a couple of years earlier but DH wanted to do the traditional engagement & wedding stuff first