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Does anyone else think they should have homework clubs after school?

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LaurieFairyCake · 09/09/2009 17:20

Cos I am going nuts doing this 5 days in

She has had homework every day. Small tasks but they're trying to get them used to it. She is very resistant and it's doing nothing for our relationship.

DH was supposed to be doing this part of life (teacher) but he gets home too late to do it.

I am just getting more and more irritated.

I WANNA HOMEWORK CLUB!!!!!!!!!!

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cat64 · 10/09/2009 12:53

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Pyrocanthus · 10/09/2009 12:44

I'm with Greensleeves, I do have and 11 year-old, and though she hasn't had any homework yet, I would do everything I could to help her get organized, support her and comfort her if it's hard - but then it's up to her.

She used to produce very sloppy homework in primary school and it would annoy me that the teachers didn't pick her up on it (I'd have been happy for her not to have any, but felt that if she had to do it she should be expected to do it properly), but at the start of year 6 the teacher made his expectations very clear, and she didn't 'arf smarten her ideas up.

danthe4th · 09/09/2009 18:04

Tell her to get on with it and if she doesn't she has to live with the consequences. This is high school and part of it is learning to be independant and to take responsibility for her actions.

Othersideofthechannel · 09/09/2009 17:51

I've already let my 6 yr old decide not to do his homework. He wasn't too tired that night, just not interested. I couldn't see the point of the task so I didn't really have any arguments to persuade him. I put a note on his book saying he didn't want to do it and asking the teacher to explain why it was important. She did and it really helped.

GreensleevesFlouncedLikeAKnob · 09/09/2009 17:38

I know it's your job to support her in doing it, but if it's having to be coercion rather than support because she won't do it - well it's her job as she gets older to take responsibility for her own actions too

I just thought if she got into trouble once (could mention her attitude to teacher and make sure she gets a rocket for not doing it) it might spur her on a bit

but I don't have an 11yo

GypsyMoth · 09/09/2009 17:37

if ds age 11 stayed at sch for homework club,then i'd have to drive 7 miles to collect him afterwards,so no.

however dd ages 13 and 15 just stay in school and do extra,then walk home afterwards. easy.

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LaurieFairyCake · 09/09/2009 17:34

lol at Greeny

I can't just not let her do it, it's my job to support her in doing it. I just feckin' hate it.

I am definitely enjoying this 'parenting' thing less this year. She has gone from cute to stroppy in a week.

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GrungeBlobPrimpants · 09/09/2009 17:31

Some secondaries round here do it, some don't. Local private school has one but calls it 'prep'

My dd's doesn't, but they can use the library at lunchtime and after school to do it if they wish.

Would be useful to have one as stuff could get done - at the moment dd is simulaneously listing to 'That's What I Call Utter Crap Music 1001', facebooking and doing her maths homework. Am about to go into study and nag

GreensleevesFlouncedLikeAKnob · 09/09/2009 17:26

Could you just let her get into trouble at school for not doing it?

southeastastra · 09/09/2009 17:23

ours does, don't think anyone rushes to use it

Mistymoo · 09/09/2009 17:23

Just realised that this is secondary, my kids are in primary.

Mistymoo · 09/09/2009 17:22

There is one at my kids school but I think it's more for the children who wouldn't get any help at home.

GreensleevesFlouncedLikeAKnob · 09/09/2009 17:22

I'm not a huge fan of lots of homework anyway

but I think a homeowrk club is an awful idea

they need to go home, get a break and a change of scene and something to eat

homework club after school would be relentless

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